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How To Make It Just Fall On Your Lap

How To Make It Fall On Your Lap www.sallyhope.com

This weekend I will be the last minute, guest/helper at a really cool event this weekend. It’s one of those situations that just falls into place in a way that is unexpected and delightful and reminds me that Grand Design is at play. So many things had to line up and happen (and fall through) for this event to take place, and while it feels random, I know it isn’t.

And this reminds me of how life is in general. People always say that when you’re least looking for it (“IT” being anything important to you), it falls on your lap and finds you.

This has happened to me many times.

When I first found out about Bozeman, MT, I wasn’t looking for it. Natalie and I had been only 5 or so days on our RV road trip, having no clue where we were going next when a friend of a friend we were staying with said we needed to go there.


Before I joined my first band, I happened to be walking by a girl in a store I worked, talking about music when she said “you should try out for my band.”

And there are countless other stories like this in mine and other people’s lives. You’ll hear people say “I found the love of my life when I stopped looking,” or “my multi-million dollar business didn’t start out that way, but rather I was just wanting to make cupcakes for my mommy friends.”

It is usually the things in life that we aren’t trying so hard to get, that end up being the most fulfilling. (Click to TWEET THIS)

Which is awesome, but doesn’t help the people who want to create things. I imagine that there’s some people reading who are like, “yeah that’s great but where is the balance between striving for what you want and sitting back in flow and letting the Universe do it’s job?” and to me, the answer is simple.

If we want things to happen in our lives, we need to be the type of people that attract those things. (Click to TWEET THIS)

We need to put ourselves on the path to be discovered by the random hiker walking by. We need to work on our own radiance before we attract others with it.

We need to say yes to the breakfast date where you’ll meet your future friend and confidant. We need to go to that networking event where we’ll make a connection to the future COO of our company. We need to say yes. And not for the sake of getting anything in return. But because we know that’s where we need to be.

My life has been really weird for a couple years now. It feels like a complete shedding of my old skin, in order to get a brand new one. You’ve seen a lot of this happen here on the blog, the latest being my Kundalini Yoga Teacher training. And this last minute retreat is no different.

I’ve been working on my own radiance, my own self-love, my own open heartedness, and my own connection with the people in my life, and so far it has led me to really great things.

Specifically, what this has looked like for me is a ton of journaling, counseling, reading, and a bunch of Kundalini Yoga. Currently, I’m on a 90 day daily Sadhana (daily spiritual practice…I’m on day 57) of this specific Kundalini Kriya (yoga set), just in case you want to check it out, or at least have some reference for what I’m talking about.

Every Day (57 of 90 days)

15-20 Minutes of The Kriya For Elevation

12 Minutes of Kirtan Kriya (meditation)

There are more rituals and things I do everyday to help me be the best person I can be, but for now, I’ll just leave it at that (let me know if you’re curious about other things!)

So now it’s your turn. I’m just wondering, where in your life you need to show up just a little bit more, or a little bit more open. Where in your life do you need to let go of the outcome in order for the flow to enter in? I want to hear about it in the comments below. And if you want to know more about this Kundalini stuff, soon I will be opening an Online Kundalini Studio with live, streaming, yoga classes. It’s gonna be rad. Promise. Get on this list to make sure you’re in the loop when that goes live.

Happy Friday!

Sally Hope

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Confusion Doesn’t Exist…and why that’s a good thing

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I’m gonna say something, and you might not like it.

You might not like it because it might knock down a wall that you’ve been building for awhile. A wall that you might currently be standing behind. It might make you question when you say certain things, and you might not be able to say them anymore. Which might upset you because you probably say this ALL the time.

Here’s what I want to say: CONFUSION DOESN’T EXIST

Here’s what I mean…

I have been coaching people for over 6 years now, consistently and constantly. I’ve probably talked to thousands of people in this time.

And most of the time, what we are all looking for is CLARITY. Which business avenue to choose, which partner to choose (or unchoose), which house to move into, which job to take or job to leave. Which opt-in to create.

It is the “not knowing” (ie the CONFUSION) on these questions that causes us all so much pain. The pain comes from not knowing. It also comes from imagining making the wrong decision and regretting it later.

Confusion is just your mind’s tricky way of saying “I know something I don’t want to know.” (Click to TWEET THIS)

How many times have you ever had thoughts like this: “Well if I move into this house, what if a better one comes along later?” or “But what if I break up with her and then I realize that she’s the one but she has already moved on?” or “what if I close my business and then decide I want it back again, won’t I look flaky?”

It’s questions like this, fears about the unknown, that keep us in a state of non-decisiveness, and when we’re in that place, we tell people we’re confused.

But the more people I talk to, and the more I live my own life, the more I believe the theory that I came up with years ago, which is that rarely, if ever, is someone confused.

Instead, what happens is that we actually KNOW something. We know the answer, deep down, and often very clearly. We hear it as a whisper. Or we feel it in our body. It’s that little voice inside of us that speaks the truth.  But…we don’t like what it has to say. We don’t like it because what we hear is likely to cause us, or someone else we know and love some pain.

And since we reject and do anything we can to avoid pain, we will do everything we can to avoid having to make a decision that might lead to this pain.

And what better way to do that than to stick ourselves in a constant state of confusion?

There is no better way. Because as long as you stay confused, you don’t have to take action. (Click to TWEET THIS)

You can stay there waffling for a long time.

I believe it’s this place that causes us some of the most pain in our lives. Knowing something deep down, but being too scared to act on it. And then knowing that we know, but doing nothing about it enters us into a shame cycle where we feel bad about ourselves.

And when we feel bad about ourselves, it causes more pain. And we withdraw. And we hide. Which allows us to continue to stay “confused.”

But it doesn’t have to be like this. The more we are aware of what we DO know, they less likely we will be to enter this cycle. And really, it all starts with looking at our emotions and our pain, and seeing what’s there.

What’s underneath your confusion? What truth do you know but you don’t want to know? Are you afraid that leaving your partner will mean you’re alone forever? Do you believe that leaving your business will make you less important or interesting and thus less valuable? Do you believe that if you move to Bali that your family won’t support you?

I can see why, if you believe all of these things to be true of your own truths, why you wouldn’t want to act on them. But this is all very different than being “confused.” This is a different issue all together. This is just fear, and fear we can work with and move through by practicing courage.

So this post is to start the conversation and ask you to examine your own life and see where you might be feeling confused. Have you used that word lately? Where? Examine that and see what is there.

And here are some questions you can ask to do this and ways to get around it:

  1. Where am I currently confused?
  2. What do I KNOW to be true, deep down? (Ie “I know I feel scared about the possibility of knowing something that feels painful” etc)
  3. What am I most afraid of with this truth?
  4. What could be possible for me if I acted on this truth?

And of course I want to hear from you. Are you finding yourself “confused” right now? Are you kinda mad at my post being all like “But Sally…I actually DO feel confused right now…so what do I do with that?”
I want to hear your take on confusion in the comments below. And as always, if you appreciate this article, please “like” and/or “share” it with your friends. Mucho appreciation. 

XO

Sally

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When Your View Changes, Your World Changes.

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Last night I entered into a new world. And not that it was new in that is was somewhere else. It actually wasn’t. It was actually just 7 miles down the road from where I’ve been for the past year and a half.

But that seven miles might as well have been a complete time warp. Or a bending of reality. Because once I stepped foot on my friend’s 40 acre Homestead, I felt like Alice who had just come out the other side of the portal into Wonderland.

There were things there I hadn’t seen in my world for a year and a half. Magical little people who came out from the little rooms in her straw bale house. Magical keys on the wall to open who-knows-what doors. Feathers everywhere. Nature. Beauty. And five houses on the property, all of which had a story and had been touched by the land and the people that lived on it.

The giant  trees all had swings on them of a different style. We walked to one that overlooked hills beyond the eye could see filled with vineyards and rolling green and amber, jumped on the tree swing and leaned back with my hair flying in the wind.

Her kids, each with a stripe of color in their hair, green and then purple, joined in when we made our prayers for the full moon, wrapping tobacco inside a square of fabric and tying them all together on one string, before throwing them into the fire to release our wishes back into the sky. They made sure to put all the materials back into the box because that’s the box that daddy takes to the fire house when he goes to work as a fireman, and wants to wrap his prayers while he’s there. They talked of their school that backs up to a creek and where they can be barefoot while they learn.

Another woman comes over who is curious, kind, and shares her mission in life, which is to help people connect to their innate wisdom with nature. That wisdom that we all have as children and forget somewhere along the way. She has a school for children that focuses on this.

We ate a fresh salad. Pet their pet horse, pony, goat and llama and walked inside the chicken coop. Walked among the almond trees to the tipi, walked under the apricot trees, and finally, ended by sitting by the fire, talking. Calmly. Sweetly. And with connection.

Being here on this property reminded me of one thing: That it only takes a shift of perspective to change the landscape of your entire view.

Have you ever looked through a kaleidoscope? Where you see one thing as it is until you turn the kaleidoscope ever so slightly and the whole view changes completely?

This is called perspective. It’s the way that we look at things and how the entire landscape of something can change if you shift the way you’re looking at it.

In coaching school, I used to frame this as “what glasses are you looking at your life through, and what happens if you look through a different pair?”

Because how we are looking at things changes the way we see them. (TWEET THIS)

It’s kind of the same idea when you really look at the sky, the same sky that you’ve seen before a million times, and for the first time ever, you really see how blue it is. It’s not that it wasn’t that blue before, it’s just that for whatever reason, you didn’t see it as that way, and now, looking at it through a different lens, or clearer eyes, you can finally see it as it is.

And this got me thinking about reality, and wondering if anything we ever think or feel is really real, or rather if it’s just the lens we happen to be wearing at that particular time, and what would happen to the “reality” if we just put on a different lens.

Because I’ve driven the road where my friend lived before. I had seen similar vineyards before. I have lived in the same place for a year and a half, and never knew that tucked away on a right turn on that street was this wonderland and therefore didn’t know things like that existed here at all. And now that I know it does, it has rocked my reality a bit. Rocked my world a bit. And has shifted the view on my kaleidoscope lens.

So today, I thought it would be fun to look at YOUR life and see where you’re stuck, and see if a shift of perspective, or a change of glasses might change the way you feel about it all.

So in the comments below I would love to hear this from you:

  1. What is one thing you’re currently feeling stuck on right now?
  2. What is your current perspective on this? (how are you currently seeing this?)
  3. What might a different perspective be?
  4. What might be possible for you by looking through this different lens.

Please do share this with me…since Alice likes having friends in Wonderland.
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XO,

Sally

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Am I still pretty?

Love Yourself. Live Wildheart. www.sallyhope.com

This weekend at graduation from my Kundalini Teacher Training, I got a comment from my friend’s boyfriend that made me feel all kinds of things.

I saw him on the street after the graduation ceremony ended, at which time, I had already taken my white turban off and let my hair down which was flowing in the afternoon wind. Correction…my turban had fallen off during a hug, and I never put it back on.

(Side note: In the Kundalini tradition, yogis wear head coverings, often turbans, but really anything that covers the crown of your head, for holding your energy in and creating a sense of focus during meditation as well as other things you can read here. I do it because it I feel like I have more focus during yoga when I do, and because it makes me feel like I’m being reverent to the practice. Also wearing white and the turban is something I don’t do in any other part of my life, so putting it on feels like a sacred practice. Just so you know…if you decide to take Kundalini classes from me you aren’t required to wear white or turbans unless you want to. :) )

This was significant because the entire time I was in this training, all seven months, I don’t think I ever showed anyone my hair. I had it wrapped from day one until the last day. And what he said was such a reflection of some feelings I had had throughout the entire training.

When I ran into him he said, “Oh wow! You look GREAT!! I mean, [my girlfriend] told me you were a really beautiful girl but I had only ever seen you in the white get-up.”

In this moment, a whole slew of emotions rushed to the surface. Emotions that I myself grappled with the entire time during training.

Which was…am I still beautiful without all the “things” that make me “beautiful.”

All the hair and the makeup and the accessories and the successful business and my rock n roll days, traveling, motorcycle riding, Wildheart history and the “outfits” and nice clothes. Am I still pretty, am I still worthy, do people still want to be my friend if I’m just…me. Do people want to get to know me if I have nothing other than my quiet presence, heart, and spirit to show them?

This whole process of teacher training has been an interesting one. I decided, going in, that I was going to go in bare, blank, and as “slate-wiped-clean” as possible. I showed up on the first day at 4:45 am, in all whites, a turban, and no make-up. No jewelry. No accessories. No “outfit.”

This experiment started a bit before the training started. I was wearing less or no make-up already and questioning when I felt the need to put it on (when I thought I looked sad or tired or wanted to impress people or be thought of as cool or beautiful or when I felt insecure). And continued throughout the training, where I let my leg and armpit hair grow out, and almost never wore make-up, and where I tried (and succeeded) in doing a 40 day cleanse/diet where you eat only green foods.

This stuff might all sound weird. Or hippy. Or woo woo. But to me, it was all an experiment about what it feels like to get to ground zero. To know what it feels like to do something I’ve never tried before. What my body feels like with the hair on it that was intended to be there by grand design? What does it feel like to not lead with all the “cool” and “great” things I’ve accomplished. What does it feel like when I eat foods that have not been processed in any way shape or form, or to not eat any animal products at all. To have no caffeine or alcohol (not a huge drinker so this wasn’t an issue). And what does it feel like when someone sees my hairy leg or armpit or goes out to dinner with me and I order broccoli. How am I loving myself in these moments?

All of this experimenting called me forth to learn a few very important things.

To learn to love and value myself no matter what, put my ego aside and stand behind my decisions no matter how weird or strange they seemed to someone else.

I’m not surprised that this has been such a theme for me. I feel like the last few years have really been bringing me the lesson to love and honor myself no matter what. And I should have known this seven-month journey would be peppered with these lessons when on the first day of class I was waiting in line for the bathroom, and one girl pushed right passed me to the gorgeous 20 something in front of me and said to her, “wow you are really beautiful. I’m just such a lover of beauty and I had to say something.” And then she looked at me and looked away.

In times like this, whether they are real or imagined, we must learn to see our own beauty and self-worth that has nothing to do with the way we look. The beauty that lives in our spirits, our souls, our hearts, and our “cosmic twinkle” (as my dad, the pediatrician used to call it).

That beauty that can’t be measured by a good outfit or a shining smile with perfect, white teeth. The beauty that where you know, deep down, that you are lovable, worthy and wonderful whether or not you have a flat stomach, and a wrinkle free face, or whether or not someone just broke up with you.

I think Yogi Bhajan said it best: “You do not understand your features. Your features are not your beautiful nose, your beautiful cheeks, beautiful lips, and so on. These are not your features. Your features are your beautiful behavior, your beautiful character, your beautiful health, your beautiful spirit, your beautiful advice, your beautiful wisdom, your beautiful inspiration.”

I can honestly say that most of the time, I did not FEEL beautiful during the training. I did not FEEL attractive. And when that happened, I had to dig deep down and feel my own self-worth despite those feelings. To truly see and love myself no matter what I looked like. Or how sad or tired I looked or how introverted I felt. And in doing that, I felt proud. I felt proud knowing that I wasn’t leaning on my old “go-to” to feel popular, and likable. I felt proud knowing that some people could still see my spark. I felt proud that I never wavered from my commitment to myself even when my friends made comments about my turban or couldn’t really look me in the eye when I was wearing it.

In life we are often faced with scenarios that make us feel less-than. Where we compare ourselves to others. Or where we feel invisible or brushed aside. Where we feel unseen or unvalued. And it’s in those times, more than any other, that we must find our own light and our own beauty.

Because at the end of the day, no one else will ever be able to make you truly feel something that you don’t already believe to be true. (Tweet This)

So this is the call to see where in your own life you are feeling small, invisible, and not wonderfully perfect and beautiful, and examine it. Maybe you want to try an experiment of your own to find that love inside yourself. Maybe you want to wear less make-up too. Maybe you want to try to strip it all back in your own life too.

But mostly, I want to hear from you. Have you ever felt like this? Less beautiful than other people? Less worthy? Invisible? If so, tell me in the comments below. I’d love to know:

When have you ever felt this way?
What did you do to move through it?

I would also like to make a request. If you know someone who would appreciate this message of self-love, acceptance, and worthiness, please forward this article along. I truly believe that the world will be a better place if we all start loving ourselves a little bit more. Help spread the love by clicking the “share” button at the top/side of the article.

XO
Sally

P.s. I’m doing something NEW!! Soon I will be opening an Online Kundalini Studio with live, streaming, yoga classes. It’s gonna be rad. Promise. Get on this list to make sure you’re in the loop when that goes live.

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When you complete something

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Seven months ago, I was at my friend Wendy’s house, washing my hair at night so I didn’t have to wake up an extra 30 minutes early to my 3 am alarm that was to be going off in a few short hours from that moment.

Wendy’s house. The place where I moved to about ten years ago when a rock n roll band from LA plucked me out of my Santa Barbara life, and gave me the stage to bloom on.

The place where I lived until after the band broke up several years later. The place where I wrote and recorded my very first song. And where I grew from the girl who played the game of life, to the girl who was the conductor of the game of life.

So it’s not surprising to me that here I am, 7 months later, writing this to you from Wendy’s house. In my old room. A 250 square foot pool house, with views of the bird fountain, pool, trees, and spanish villa style courtyard.

It’s not surprising to me that on this day, another major moment is about to happen.

This weekend, I will graduate from my Kundalini Yoga training program. I will get recognized for all of my hard work, and my sweat and my tears. For all 7 trips back and forth to Santa Monica, the sleeping on couches, the waking up at 3 am to get to Sadhana on time, only to give it everything I got not to fall asleep during the whole thing.

For all the times I pushed through 30 more minutes of a yoga posture I thought I couldn’t do for one more second. For showing up even when I was sick, sad, upset, exhausted. For constantly putting myself out there even when I felt like I wanted to hide.

For learning, listening, singing. For learning a new language. For packing a lunch when I was on day 35 of a 40 day “eat only green foods” cleanse. For making a new soul sister friend. For sharing my tears when they showed up.

For becoming a yogi. For becoming the type of person who can no longer turn a blind eye to the truths inside myself. For becoming…a teacher. A vessel through which these teachings will now come through.

I will be recognized for completing something life changing and challenging. And it feels…amazing.

There have been so many things I’ve learned these past seven months. And learning about Kundalini is only one part of that.


I think when you learn something new, and are a complete beginner, you are humbled. And I was. Walking into the yoga studio seven months ago, felt like the first day in the dorms in college. Small fish in a very big and unfamiliar pond, without any fish friends to swim around with.

And then the more you swim, the more you know how to survive. And then you realize, that you’re actually a big beautiful fish after all, and that you always have been but never knew it.

Tomorrow, I will wake up at 3am. Put on my Kundalini white clothing (Kundalini yogis wear white to be “neutral” and also because white expands your auric radiance at least a foot according to some schools of thought), put my hair in a bun and a white head covering on. I will show up with no make-up, no matter how tired I look. I will get in the car and drive 45 minutes in order to make it to Sadhana in time at 4:45 am. I will be in Sadhana for two and a half hours. Chanting, meditating, and doing physical postures. I will then let the leaders take the day where it needs to go until 6 pm, including rolling burritos and feeding the homeless in downtown Santa Monica.

Sunday…I will graduate. In the presence of my fellow teachers and our loved ones and families. I will grab a certificate and look at it knowing that I just completed something I’m really really proud of.

Something that fed my soul, softened my edges, and made me even brighter and lighter than I was before. Something I committed to and stuck with.

It’s hard not to be a little sad that this chapter is over. There will never be another Level 1 teacher training for me. I will never again be required to do 2.5 hours of Sadhana in the morning for 21 days. I will never learn this stuff for the first time ever again.

I have no idea what’s next. But my heart is so full thinking about it. Thank you for reading these words and being on the journey with me. I imagine that there will be a lot of fun stuff that will come out of these trainings, but for today, I am sitting here in pride, and if nothing else ever comes of these trainings, that is good enough for me.

I did it. Congrats to me.

And what about you? Sometimes it’s the simple things that make the most difference in our lives. Are you trying a new morning routine? Are you completing something you’re proud of? Even if you’re not, I want you to find something and share it in the comments below.

Fill in the blank: “One thing I am proud of today is _______”

XO

Sally Hope

P.s. One of the next things I’m committing to is virtual online Kundalini yoga classes. It’s gonna be rad. Promise. Get on this list to make sure you’re in the loop when that goes live.

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