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Making a choice is only the beginning of the adventure

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This post comes to you from the Nashville airport. Where I have three hours to go before I meet my friend Sara and her family so we can go see a Motley Crue show.

So far, this story is probably boring. But bear with me. Because I am fairly certain it applies to you.

On the plane, I started reading the book “The Alchemist,” which is one of those books that has been recommended to me a million times, but I just never got around to reading. Maybe it was because I didn’t know what the word “Alchemist” meant and I was judging the book by the (word) cover. But for some reason, when I saw the beautiful 25th anniversary version on my friend Jodi’s counter the other day, I knew it was a sign. It was finally time for me to read the book.

If you haven’t read the book, basically, it’s a story of a man’s (and of Man’s) personal journey. Of choice. Of fulfillment. Of following the signs/omens in order to live the life you’re meant to live…of having your own Personal Legend. This is what I’ve gathered from being halfway through the book as of writing this.

I just read this passage, and it sent me into a long string of thoughts, those of which I’m sharing with you here. Here’s the passage:

“Making a decision is only the beginning of things. When someone makes a decision, he is really diving into a strong current that will carry him to places he had never dreamed of when he first made the decision.” (Tweet this)

And this made me scan my brain of some of the decisions I’ve made, and the currents that took me places I had never dreamed.

Deciding not to go to grad school (the first time) to move to LA and be in a rock n roll band. Deciding not to go to grad school (the second time) to become a Life Coach. Deciding to leave my ex four years ago, falling for an unavailable cowboy, almost making the choice to stay around a town I didn’t like at all to see if said cowboy would come around, deciding to move to Costa Rica instead because I knew in my heart it was not the time to make a decision for an unavailable boy…again, deciding to get into an RV and travel and a million other choices along the way that led me to where I am right this second, sitting in the airport waiting for Sara.

But before all that, I made many choices. Some big. Some small. Some in my head. A lot in my heart. And I’ve followed the signs all along the way.

And I wonder, how many of our choices are leading us on a beautiful path that we don’t even recognize or appreciate because they’ve taken us on a strong current that is carrying us to places we never would have dreamed or thought we wanted?

I believe this happens when things don’t go the way we want them to. When we don’t have the perspective of the bigger things at play here that are actually working in our favor. All we can see is “it’s not working out.” And if only we were able to know and trust that this is just the current we’re currently on, that we would feel peace?

One year ago (literally to the day) I made a choice that changed my life and put me on a new current. I decided to go visit my friend Therese in Boise. For no apparent reason. I didn’t know her that well. It wasn’t particularly close to where I was, with a full 8 hour drive. I had a million other things going on in my life. But yet, I just felt like I needed to go.

I almost turned around multiple times on the drive down, as we were having a bad snowstorm that day and the road out of town was slippery and windy. But I forged on.

While I was there. I met a boy. On the street. Our eyes locked and in that instant, everything changed. For both of us. Nothing would ever be the same again. But not in the way you might think though. This isn’t a love story with a fairy tale ending.

We starting dating. Even though an entire country separated us. We had our first dreamy date in Central Park, NY. Our second date on the beach in Miami. Our third date cuddled in the snow in Montana. And a million love letters in between. We went where neither of us had ever gone before.

It was intense. And beautiful. And then…just like that, it all ended. Not in a burst, but in a slow burning fire that just grew and grew until it blew up and disappeared. I spent half of this entire year broken hearted. And the other half on a wild adventure with this man I met on the street after making the decision to go to Boise for no apparent reason.

It’s been easy to feel like I wished we never would have met. That I wished I would have turned around on that icy road. Then I would have saved myself from the pain of the last six months. Or maybe I could have done x differently, or seen y sooner. If only….

Maybe I could have left New York and never seen him again. But had I done any of those things, my heart wouldn’t have been cracked open. I wouldn’t have learned about love. Priorities. And that work is not actually the most important thing in life. And that when your loved ones need you, nothing else is more important. To say “I love you” instead of just think it.

To follow my instincts in the beginning. To be more honest. I wouldn’t have learned to soften. To look at myself and my decisions and choose whether or not I wanted to continue being that way or if I wanted to change something. I probably wouldn’t have fallen in love with yoga, and meditation and kundalini. I wouldn’t have seen some old wounds that weren’t actually healed like I thought they were. I wouldn’t have had to lay my sword down, ego bruised, and give it all up to the Universe. Surrender.

Would I have rather not spent the past six months holing up, crying, and in pain? Yeah. But do I believe that in doing so I will now be a better partner, friend, daughter and sister. Yes. And is that worth it? Absolutely. On this path it is.

This is all part of the current. A piece of the pie that makes up my own epic personal journey. Making the decision to go is only the beginning.

And it’s in the saying yes that allows the adventure to begin. (Tweet this!)

It takes courage to be the type of person that is willing to hop aboard the unknown waters that will inevitably happen. And in those moments of choice, therein lies that nagging voice that is telling you to stay on shore. To turn around and go home. To not ruffle the feathers.

“You got a good thing going on, why mess it up?”

But for some of us, and I don’t know why, we have that itch. We want to see what’s on the other side of the hill. We want to experience ALL that we know we’re meant to experience. Even if it’s painful. (You too?)

I don’t know exactly what agreements I’ve made with the Universe in this life or any of my past ones. But I know for sure that I’ve signed on the dotted line to learning it all and becoming what I’m meant to become.

And sometimes that means getting swept up in a current that tosses you on your ass for six months or more. Or that causes you a ton of tears and pain. So that when you’re done, you can rise up a bit more broken-open, allowing more light in and love to come out.

Sometimes I wish I didn’t make these contracts. Sometimes I wish I had just decided that I wanted a simple life. With simple pleasures, like gathering water from my well in the morning and having like 8 babies. Part of me does. But a part of me has the huge desire to EXPLORE. Myself, others, life. And because of that, sometimes the waters are rough. And sometimes I feel sad and lonely. But I also get to see what’s on the other side of the hill.

We never know where our choices will lead. They might lead to you playing on stage in front of thousands of people or they might lead to heartbreak. And you always have the choice of which way you want to play it. Every single moment gives us an opportunity to choose and it’s in that choice that makes all the difference.

And so you might be at a crossroads. You might be looking ahead at your fork in the road, not knowing which way to go. And you are going to want me (or someone else) to give you the answers. But I can’t. Because only you know what contracts and agreements you’ve made. Only you know what kind of explorer you came here to be. And the truth is you probably already know the answer, and if it challenges your safety (real or perceived) in any way, that’s probably why you’re conflicted. Because you want it. And it doesn’t make much logical sense. So if this is you, I do have some advice for you:

* Follow the signs

* Use your intuition and your body as your compass

* Keep your bigger picture in mind

* If there is a voice telling you to do it, do it

* If you’re willing to get tossed around a bit, you’re strong enough to handle it

And if you’re ever feeling alone, know you’re not. There is a whole slew of people just like you. Explorers. Truth seekers. Peaceful Rebels. Lovers. Diehards. And people who want to make a difference by living out their own personal legend. You are not alone.

And so I’m curious, dear Wildheart, what are you choosing right now?

What are you facing? Which crossroad are you up against? What is the next thing on your plate? I would love to hear in the comments below. Are you conflicted? Scared? Worried?

Share in the comments below.

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How To Be Nice When You Want To Be An A-hole Instead

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I was listening to this Bjork song earlier. Bobbing my head along. Imagining I was back on stage swinging my hair all around. Being all angsty and rock n rolly on stage.

And then I listened to the words “And if you complain once more, you’ll meet an army of me.”

Which is basically saying “I can’t listen to you complaining anymore…I’m DONE!”

I smiled. And giggled. Because I’ve had this feeling many many times in my life.

Like, imagine that you’re sitting there helping a friend through something. And they keep talking about it, but not wanting to do anything about it.

It’s like the same story over and over again. And when you give them (really awesome amazing) advice that you know will help them they don’t take it. And not only that, sometimes they get all mad at you and say things like “are you trying to coach me right now?” And then they leave. And a week later they come back and say the same things over and over again. Same problems.

And you’re all like “Ughhhhhhhhhhh!”

And this is where it gets personal, right? Like “Dude…I TOLD you what you could do to make it better” and “It’s kinda like what I do for a living…helping people through these problems.”

And yet, they still don’t want to hear it.

Bjork’s song made me giggle because at times, I’ve felt like wanting to say that. Like saying “FINE…if you don’t want my help then stop talking to me about it!”

or “Please shut the hell up, I have enough of my own problems to deal with.” (Tweet this!)

And then I felt like a jerk. Because I know deep down, that isn’t how I REALLY feel, or how I want to look at life. Or my loved ones. And that it’s a bit selfish. But what I have done is thought of some ways to change my perspective on it.

Because the truth is that you can’t change people. (Tweet this!)

You can’t make them ready to hear things they aren’t ready to hear. You can’t make them stop having problems (and more than that you can’t fix their problems) and you can’t make them stop talking to you about it.

You can’t really do anything other than be different about how YOU are in those moments of talking to them.

And so I came up with four things to try that might help you handle things in a helpful and nice way when you instead want to be an a-hole about it:

1) Listen

I know…it sounds simple and kind of counterintuitive but what I’ve found is that people most of the time just want to be heard. They rarely want to be fixed, even if there is a very simple solution to whatever their problems are.

This video is a PERFECT and hilarious display of this.

So for as long as you can hack it, just listen. And say something like “That sounds so hard, I’m so sorry you’re having to go through that.”

I have a friend who was going through a really tough time. She told me that she didn’t want anyone to offer any solutions, but rather she would prefer some acknowledgement on how shitty things were. Once I did that, we got on to talking about Dexter or our favorite new tea.

When people feel acknowledged, seen and heard, they don’t need to continue rambling on.

2) Show them love in the way they like to receive love

So often, we approach people with the way WE like to give love, rather than the way they need to receive it. So for example, let’s say that you are someone who likes to offer solutions to problems as a form of “love”, but the person you’re talking to feels loved when you give them hugs.

Try to find out the ways in which they feel loved and then give that to them.

When I’m upset, I like to just cry it out and have another person listen and acknowledge, so that tends to be how I approach my friends. But I have a friend who needs personal touch (hugs, hand holding) to feel heard and loved.

It’s not my go-to move, but I know when I talk to her that that’s what she needs from me. So I do that.

If you don’t know what your friends need from you, just ask! A good way to do that is to say: “How do you feel loved?” or “What are some things I can do right now that make you feel loved and heard?”

3) Ask them what they need from you

So often, we assume what people need. That in talking, we assume they want fixing. Or maybe we assume they want commiserating. Or we assume they want us to be angry with them. But a lot of the time, what we assume people want from us isn’t exactly what they want. And furthermore, if we give them what they don’t want, it can shut them down.

If you notice this might be happening with a loved one, you can also say, “hey…what do you need from me right now?”

That allows them to state their needs in a non-threatening way and it allows you to stop guessing.

4) Be honest

Ok…so if you’ve tried one through three and they are STILL going on and on about whatever thing, it is ok to opt out of the conversation.

This happened to me before and it was simultaneously the coolest and scariest interaction I ever had with my friend.

We had been hanging out for a couple hours and she was talking about a particular problem. I listened and tried to be there for her, but after about an hour and a half, I was exhausted. It was Friday and I had spent the entire week helping and coaching people and I just didn’t have the capacity to listen to it anymore. That was the truth for me.

I needed my friend and I needed her to be there with me and just be silly and have fun.

So I said “No…just no. I can’t listen anymore. It’s the end of my week, we’ve been talking about this for over an hour. Can we just hang out?”

It wasn’t the most tactful request of my life but it was honest. It’s what came out. And we actually both just burst out in laughter after I said it.

She agreed, that we didn’t need to keep talking about it. We became closer in that moment, and both got what we needed.

You may choose different words but the point being that it’s ok to state your needs as well. Conversations are a two-way street. You both will have wants and needs and desires and it’s ok to state yours.

One of my favorite quotes is from Tim Ferriss about conversations. Something like “your success in life is directly proportional to your willingness to have difficult conversations.” I’d change this up in this situation a little to be “…your willingness to speak the truth.”

So there you have it. The four ways to be a good friend when you otherwise want to be an a-hole. And really, what I believe this is speaking to is the bigger “spiritual” lesson of compassion, both for yourself and others.

It’s easy to just be reactive in life. To be unhappy with a situation and internalize it and feel resentful. But it can also be just as easy to be “cause” in your relationship. Not just an innocent bystander who gets swept up in whatever is happening around them.

You can change the way you’re being about things to make them work better for you and at the same time being there for your loved ones.

And this is where the spiritual lessons meet the road. Where you get to walk your talk. Where you get to practice all those things you learn on the Pinterest pins.

It’s easy to learn stuff but we don’t always integrate it into our lives. That’s one thing I love about the Wildheart Revolution. It’s the place to actually PRACTICE all the stuff you learn everyday. If you’re not already on the list, make sure you put your name below to be the first to know when the doors to enrollment swing open.

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Which out of these resonated the most? What do you do when you’re so tapped out from being there for everyone? Got any good tips? I would LOVE to hear from you. Leave your thoughts, tips and tricks in the comments below.

How To Manifest Like a Mutha In Four Easy Steps

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The other day, something so unbelievable happened, that I still don’t really know what to think about it.

I was given a free, 1983 Honda Nighthawk motorcycle, in mint condition from a complete stranger, essentially just for walking down the street at exactly the right moment.

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This also happened to be pretty much the exact motorcycle I had been googling and wanting for months prior. And it happened two days after I said to myself “I really wish I had another bike so my friends could ride with me and I don’t have to ride alone all the time.”

The story on how it happened is a bit long (watch the video below for the full recap) but here’s the gist…

I was walking down the street with my helmet in hand, going towards my bike. An older gentlemen was walking the opposite direction with a helmet in his hand. Our eyes met and we smiled at each other (in the “you’re in the club nod” kinda way).

We struck up a conversation. He showed me his bike and told me the story of the 70 year old woman who gave it to him because she already had too many bikes and asked him to find a good home for her baby. She had ridden over 77,000 on the bike and was the original owner.

He asked me if I wanted to take it for a spin. I did. Came back after doing so and gave him the keys back and said “thanks! That was awesome!”

About two hours later he called me and asked if I wanted to have the bike. About an hour after that, I was riding home on my brand new bike.

Here’s the full story.

He texted me later and told me to: “become aware of what you did or thought that created today for you, and do more of that.”

 And that’s what I spent the rest of the day doing.

Now…this, in and of itself is pretty incredible. But what happened before and after are the most notable things about it.

 To me, this situation was a divine message. It was way too magical to just be a coincidence.

And as I was thinking of this, so many things popped into my mind as to what might have created this. And I’d love to share it all with you.

Here’s my “How-To” Guide on Getting Free Stuff

 1) Know that you are worthy of great things

After a very tough six months, including an even more tough summer, I was starting to feel like I would never get out of the hole I was in. I felt scared, alone, undeserving, unlovable. I felt hopeless. And I worried that I’d stay in that place forever.

 Through a ton of reflection and meditation, I realized that a lot of these emotions stemmed from the general feeling of unworthiness. That I didn’t think I deserved to have the kind of relationship and life I truly wanted. That I wasn’t worth being loved in the way I imagined for myself.

So, about a month prior to receiving the bike, I had been repeating the mantra “I am worthy” to myself anytime I felt my thoughts wander to the other, more harmful places. I didn’t know if it was “working” or not (and I wasn’t even focusing on what “working” meant), I just knew that that thought felt much better to me than “I am unlovable and will be alone forever.”

2. Work on your ability to RECEIVE

I’m the type of person that doesn’t like to be out of control, and who doesn’t love reaching out for help. I’m also the type of person that feels like I always need to “even the score.” That if someone does something nice for me, I must make sure I do something equally nice for them to “repay” the nice deed they did. And it comes from a place of “pay back” instead of pure joy of giving.

AND…if I don’t think I can’t repay them, I end up feeling horribly guilty.

You might be thinking… “yeah, that makes sense, you totally SHOULD do nice things for people if they do nice things for you” but if you look closer, it’s another form of not feeling worthy, and it’s not entirely true.

If someone wants to do something nice for me it is OK FOR ME TO RECEIVE IT, and say thank you, and leave it at that. (Click to tweet that)

It doesn’t always have to have the energy around it that I must “pay it back,” or even “pay it forward,” as if the nice things I do on a daily basis aren’t enough to deserve beautiful things in my life. This is how some girls get in trouble doing things they don’t want to do. Like “well he paid for my dinner so I should go home with him to pay him back” or any other variation of that concept.

 It’s a problem. And it is a worthiness problem.

If we felt worthy, we’d be able to receive gifts, knowing that we deserve the beauty that is coming our way. We would do nice things for people because it feels good and not because we feel like we have to.

3. Be grateful for what you already have

Ok this one tends to be tricky for people to understand. And it was for me the first time I heard it. But the idea is that in order to get things you want, you need to be grateful of the things you already have.

This is all about the idea that what you put out there, is what you get back. If you’re constantly putting out there that you DON’T HAVE all this stuff that you want, then you’re going to keep finding instances where this is true.

But if you change the conversation to “I am so grateful for all this amazing stuff in my life” you are putting it out there that you HAVE. And that brings in more havingness.

About one to two months before I got this bike, I included a gratitude practice into my daily journaling. AND, I resurrected something I used to do, which was put a weekly gratitude post out to my community. I would say anything from “I’m grateful for my good hair today” to “I’m grateful to have such a loving and supportive family.” Literally anything I could think of.

One month later, I received this bike.

4. Surrender and trust that the universe has your back

This concept is not an easy one for me but it’s one I had been working on all summer. We humans tend to think we have a ton of control in our lives. And so we try to exercise that control on the regular. We micromanage every little detail of our lives, and that often comes in the form of worrying.

Worrying that we don’t have enough money, or enough love, or enough everything. And so we think those types of thoughts all day long. “I’ll never have what I want,” “I’ll always be alone,” etc. And then we go into panic mode.

And try to “fix” or control whatever thing we feel like we’re lacking. But simply trying to “fix” it is denying the fact that we’re exactly where we need to be and it’s simply a shift in perspective and thoughts that can make the change we’re hoping to see.

About two months before I got the bike, I began to say to myself “my best life is already selected for me and I’m being guided in the exact right direction to receive it.”

I did the very best I could to LET GO of what I was hanging onto. A relationship that wasn’t working and a person that didn’t want it to. And the idea that there was something I could do to change that.

I literally said out loud “Ok Uni…I surrender to you. GUIDE ME.”

It was like I had hit rock bottom. Literally on the floor. Having nowhere else to go and nothing else to do other than let it all go.

And I really needed a sign that things were good in the world. And that I was going to be ok. And I asked for it. And less than a month later I received this amazing act of kindness from a stranger. And rode of into the sunset rainbow.

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So here’s the thing. I’m not saying that there is some kind of formula that will bring free and amazing gifts into your life.

But I AM saying that it is absolutely possible to create what you want. And it’s an inside job. (click to tweet this)

I tell my Wildheart’s all the time that what I’ve found to be the way to change is by trying a million different things (throw spaghetti at the wall, if you know that reference), and see what sticks.

I’m not sure exactly which thing brought this good fortune into my life, but I believe it was a combination of all of them. And mostly, the shift of energy in my life.

We talk about this stuff on the regular in the Wildheart Private Community. It’s what we do. Help each other to make more magic. The doors are currently closed but if you’re looking for miracles. Or at the very least, to not be run by your negative thoughts…get on the list to join us. Put your name in the box below.

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Have you had similar experiences to this one? Have you made magic in your life simply by having different thoughts? I would love to hear about it. Please share your story in the comments below.

Let Go Or Be Dragged (what God has to do with my forced vacation)

blog 8.20(1)Not last week, but the week before (“24 robbers came knocking at my door” just kidding but extra points for anyone who knows what that’s from…anywho…moving on) I took a vacation.

I know this doesn’t seem like news. And it isn’t really. But in my own personal life, it was of very significant importance.

The Sunday before my vacation started, I lost my shit. Again. Couldn’t keep all my emotions inside.

For anyone who has been around for the past six months, you’ve seen a lot of tears happen. You’ve witnessed me sob on the floor. Grasp, search, and feel oh so lost.

And it all came to a head (again) a couple Sundays ago.

I was in that place that we all get to, when you finally feel like you’re “done” with whatever challenge you’re facing. Like “yep…I’m good. Handled that and it’s over with. YAY! Wash my hands of it and I’m moving on. Sweet! I”M FREEEEEEE!”

Right?

Wrong.

Because then you KNOW what happens.

It creeps back in unexpectedly when you see 25 license plates in one day (no joke) of the state where your ex lives even though the state is a billion miles away. Or you hear a song that reminds you of them. Or you’re struggling and forget that you can’t call the person that used to help with that particular type of struggle. Or you stumble upon a FB tagged post with them and another girl.

(I know you know what I’m talking about).

And then you cry and cry while you’re in yoga class and go home and read through all your emails from that person, basically torturing yourself while wondering, “is it time to reconnect and reach out?”

But then, you decide to sleep on it. Ride the wave. Be WITH the pain of whatever you’re feeling, knowing that whatever “solution” you were imagining (reaching out, getting on an airplane, becoming a nun) isn’t going to solve the “problem” because the answer doesn’t live outside yourself. AND there is another person involved who has their own agenda.

And this is where I was when I woke up on the Monday morning that my Team basically ordered me to take a no emails, no internet, no work-vacation (first in five years…CRAZY).

Needless to say, this has been a time of growth for me. Everything has changed in one short year. I built Wildheart out of thin air and got it to the place I wanted it to be.

Where it is a beautiful and loving family of souls on fire. And sometimes when you actually get what you want, you feel lost.

Even in terms of this said “breakup” mentioned above.

To be absolutely truthful, the relationship as we did it at the time, didn’t work. Ever. There was always distance (literal and figurative) and drama and struggle. We never appeared to be on the same page, minus a few blissful moments. When he was fully into it, I resisted. When I was fully into it, he resisted. And that’s not the type of dynamic I want in my “true love” scenario.

But yet, when you’re dealing with emotions and ego and fear of “will I be alone forever? And that man was absolutely incredible and whyyyyyyyyyy can’t it workkkkkkk??” and in the memory of all the absolutely ridiculously amazing times you had together, things get messy. And hard. And sad. And you forget about all the things that didn’t work and all the pain that happened at the end. And then you find yourself sobbing during your shavasana.

I’ve been reading a book lately that I’m really working with, Outrageous Openness by Tosha Silver. And it reminds me of something psychic Licia Morelli said on a guest coaching call inside the Wildheart Revolution this week.

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Which is…the answers all come in the space BETWEEN thought and action. (Click to Tweet that!)

In rest. In being quiet. In the calm place. Not in the thinking, worrying, or fear place.

That all the answers are both within us and also we have no control over anything other than the way we go through life. And that there is an inner wisdom that will guide us if we let it.

That week, my guides led me to a vacation, which was the absolute best thing ever. And in that space between, I found a glimmer of faith. The understanding that things somehow always just work out for the greater good. That the Universe/God/Goddess/Higher Power will not let us miss an opportunity that is right for us, and will not let us be in a situation that is wrong for us.

I literally have to have faith in this. Or else I’ll fall apart. Again. And probably will. In which case you’ll be hearing about it. :) But that’s life. I seriously have come to the understanding that life is a big bunch of swings of the pendulum. We feel great then we feel horrible then somewhere in between then great again. It’s the swinging and changing that makes it life. And that’s ok.

So all we can do is sink into the space between our thoughts and  actions, and trust that in letting go and surrendering to what the Universe has in store for us in our best, brightest life, that things just work out. (Click to Tweet that!)

It’s a calming thought. And one that I literally have to practice every single day because it sure as hell doesn’t come naturally to this Scorpio control freak who wants to weave the web of my life into a perfect beautiful scenario.

But in these spaces between, it feels like heaven.

It feels good to hand it all over to “someone else” saying “you take care of it! I’ll just be here open to receiving whatever messages you have for me.”

My best friend and I have been giggling lately about this concept. It reminded me of the phrase “let go and let God,” which didn’t mean diddly to me until now. Or that Carrie Underwood song “Jesus Take The Wheel.”

Regardless of religious preferences, this is the place I’m at. Laying down the sword. Bowing on the ground, forehead on the Earth. Literally saying out loud…”please guide me, please help me, I can’t do it alone” while clutching whatever crystals I have in my hands and sleeping with them under the pillow. Because, hey, why not throw everything at it.

I don’t know where this space between will lead me, but I feel like I’m on a new path. And at the very least, I’m letting go and letting god. In the best way I know how.

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The future is always 100% unknown, and yet, we all forget that. Up to now, I was worrying myself sick with the idea that there was actually something I could DO to change how I was feeling and the situation I was in. And in those quiet moments, I realized that the only action was necessary was to let go. Freefall.

And so here I am…falling. In that place of utter unknown. About love. About the future. And walking this path knowing that there has got to be some inner light that is guiding me (right?) Does this sound utterly ridiculous? Probably. But whatev. That’s where I’m at.

How about you? Where are you at? Are you feeling lost, worried, scared about the future? Do you feel like time is slipping away? Do you have a broken heart too? Are you feeling like you might lose your shit too? Are you better than me at “letting go”?

If so, let’s support each other. I would love to know where you’re at in the comments below.

In it together,

Sally

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I’m a bit embarrassed to tell you this

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Exactly one year ago today, I woke up in an absolute panic. For many reasons, but one of them being I couldn’t pay my rent. I had $700 to my name. And my parents had just written me a check for $1000 to “get me by.” Which embarrassed me. Humbled me. And scared me.

I had stopped doing one on one coaching so I could build this little thing called “The Wildheart Revolution,” which at the time was a semi-vague idea of an online space where people could go to get the help they need, in ANY area of their life, at ANY time of the day, at a price ANYONE could afford.

I had never done anything like it before. And more than that, nothing like it had been done before by anyone. Not in the way I envisioned it.

I didn’t have a roadmap. I didn’t have any clue if it was going to “work” or if anyone was going to want to be involved in it. All I had was a vision, a dream, and this guiding light saying “YES. THIS.”

And so I woke up in my bed, that morning one year ago with anxiety in my chest. Tears. I was afraid to open my computer. Afraid that the email I had just sent about Wildheart had fallen on deaf ears. Afraid that no one would “come to my party.” Afraid that I didn’t know what I was doing and this thing called Wildheart would fall apart and crash and burn.

But as the day went on, the member numbers grew. 5. 10. 20. 40. 60. And beyond. The energy buzzed. Tears rolled down my face. I couldn’t believe that it had worked. That people wanted in.

I celebrated and laughed and cried and watched in awe as amazing person after amazing person entered into the wild ride of the Wildheart Revolution, not having had any clue what the damn thing was all about. But with a feeling inside that just said “YES. THIS.”

As I look back on this past year, I see a year of change. Transition. Growth. Learning. Beauty. Vulnerability.

My entire life is different. What started out as an idea is now a sacred and special place where people are sharing their dreams and their hearts and really showing up and making changes in their lives in a real way.

We now have a brilliant team of Wildheart coaches (Natalie Vartanian and Ellen Ercolini) who coach on business and love and tarot and support the group.

We have subgroups (book club, meditation club, moms club). Community run activities like the Weekly Roundup (an email with all the details from the previous week’s Wildheart happenings), and accountability thread.

We have guest coaches. We have a Wildheart Montana Retreat coming up.

My life couldn’t be more different. All because of Wildheart.

It’s not an 8 week program that will solve whatever problem you have. But it is a place that if you let it, will change your life forever in a really deep way.

I’ve seen people build businesses. Fall in love. Travel the world. Decide to have a second baby. Change lifelong patterns. Switch careers.

But mostly I’ve seen hearts on fire. Souls ablaze. Honesty and truth and vulnerability in a way I haven’t seen anywhere else.

And THIS, more than the numbers, more than anything, is what I’m most proud of.

One year ago, it was me in my bed, alone, afraid, scared.

Today I’m so excited for what’s on the horizon for Wildheart. For what’s on the horizon for all the members.

Things are changing in a major way with Wildheart. There is so much going on behind the scenes that I can’t wait to tell you about.

But for now…Wildheart remains an intimate family. And I want to keep it that way.

So much can happen in one year if you let it. Your visions can become realities. That habit you’ve had forever can change. You can have that dream life you imagine for yourself. You CAN do it.

But you probably can’t do it all alone. And what better way to work on it then in a group of people just like you, with a team of coaches who are hell bent on helping you get where you want to go. And that’s where Wildheart comes in. All you have to do is show up.

I wasn’t planning on doing this today but I woke up and felt inspired to.

I want to offer you a discounted Wildheart membership. $100 off anniversary special. And if you sign up for a year membership I will throw in a free 30 minute 1:1 coaching session to kick off your amazing year of change ($150 value). OR…a super special signature series Wildheart bracelet. Your choice.

Anything is possible if you get clear on what you want and take consistent action in the direction of your dreams. Yes…it’ll be scary. Yes…you’ll feel like you can’t do it. Yes…you will come up against roadblock after roadblock. But that is all normal. Come hang out with us in Wildheart as we’re all this same journey. Working through it together.

If you’ve been wondering how on earth to get from where you are now, to where you want to be, this is your sign. If you’ve been a crumpled pile of tears on the floor for the past 6 months wondering how you’ll ever survive what just happened (like me), this is your chance.

If any of this resonates with you at all, come on over to the site and see what Wildheart is all about and grab your spot. Offer only good til Monday. Please let me know if you have ANY questions at all (I’m serious!).

Happy birthday to us all! Let’s make this year the best one ever.

Eating birthday cake as we speak,
Sally

P.s. Even if you don’t join Wildheart, why not give yourself a year goal? One thing I love to do is write my future self a letter, one year in the future, saying where I want to be in one year. You can do that by going to www.futureme.org.

P.p.s. I’m happy to say that I never cashed my parent’s check. And I have no problem paying rent now. :)

P.p.p.s. If you’re already a Wildheart member and you want to “re-up” with the yearly anniversary deal of the bracelet or session just let me know and we’ll get you sorted!

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