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Making a choice is only the beginning of the adventure

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This post comes to you from the Nashville airport. Where I have three hours to go before I meet my friend Sara and her family so we can go see a Motley Crue show.

So far, this story is probably boring. But bear with me. Because I am fairly certain it applies to you.

On the plane, I started reading the book “The Alchemist,” which is one of those books that has been recommended to me a million times, but I just never got around to reading. Maybe it was because I didn’t know what the word “Alchemist” meant and I was judging the book by the (word) cover. But for some reason, when I saw the beautiful 25th anniversary version on my friend Jodi’s counter the other day, I knew it was a sign. It was finally time for me to read the book.

If you haven’t read the book, basically, it’s a story of a man’s (and of Man’s) personal journey. Of choice. Of fulfillment. Of following the signs/omens in order to live the life you’re meant to live…of having your own Personal Legend. This is what I’ve gathered from being halfway through the book as of writing this.

I just read this passage, and it sent me into a long string of thoughts, those of which I’m sharing with you here. Here’s the passage:

“Making a decision is only the beginning of things. When someone makes a decision, he is really diving into a strong current that will carry him to places he had never dreamed of when he first made the decision.” (Tweet this)

And this made me scan my brain of some of the decisions I’ve made, and the currents that took me places I had never dreamed.

Deciding not to go to grad school (the first time) to move to LA and be in a rock n roll band. Deciding not to go to grad school (the second time) to become a Life Coach. Deciding to leave my ex four years ago, falling for an unavailable cowboy, almost making the choice to stay around a town I didn’t like at all to see if said cowboy would come around, deciding to move to Costa Rica instead because I knew in my heart it was not the time to make a decision for an unavailable boy…again, deciding to get into an RV and travel and a million other choices along the way that led me to where I am right this second, sitting in the airport waiting for Sara.

But before all that, I made many choices. Some big. Some small. Some in my head. A lot in my heart. And I’ve followed the signs all along the way.

And I wonder, how many of our choices are leading us on a beautiful path that we don’t even recognize or appreciate because they’ve taken us on a strong current that is carrying us to places we never would have dreamed or thought we wanted?

I believe this happens when things don’t go the way we want them to. When we don’t have the perspective of the bigger things at play here that are actually working in our favor. All we can see is “it’s not working out.” And if only we were able to know and trust that this is just the current we’re currently on, that we would feel peace?

One year ago (literally to the day) I made a choice that changed my life and put me on a new current. I decided to go visit my friend Therese in Boise. For no apparent reason. I didn’t know her that well. It wasn’t particularly close to where I was, with a full 8 hour drive. I had a million other things going on in my life. But yet, I just felt like I needed to go.

I almost turned around multiple times on the drive down, as we were having a bad snowstorm that day and the road out of town was slippery and windy. But I forged on.

While I was there. I met a boy. On the street. Our eyes locked and in that instant, everything changed. For both of us. Nothing would ever be the same again. But not in the way you might think though. This isn’t a love story with a fairy tale ending.

We starting dating. Even though an entire country separated us. We had our first dreamy date in Central Park, NY. Our second date on the beach in Miami. Our third date cuddled in the snow in Montana. And a million love letters in between. We went where neither of us had ever gone before.

It was intense. And beautiful. And then…just like that, it all ended. Not in a burst, but in a slow burning fire that just grew and grew until it blew up and disappeared. I spent half of this entire year broken hearted. And the other half on a wild adventure with this man I met on the street after making the decision to go to Boise for no apparent reason.

It’s been easy to feel like I wished we never would have met. That I wished I would have turned around on that icy road. Then I would have saved myself from the pain of the last six months. Or maybe I could have done x differently, or seen y sooner. If only….

Maybe I could have left New York and never seen him again. But had I done any of those things, my heart wouldn’t have been cracked open. I wouldn’t have learned about love. Priorities. And that work is not actually the most important thing in life. And that when your loved ones need you, nothing else is more important. To say “I love you” instead of just think it.

To follow my instincts in the beginning. To be more honest. I wouldn’t have learned to soften. To look at myself and my decisions and choose whether or not I wanted to continue being that way or if I wanted to change something. I probably wouldn’t have fallen in love with yoga, and meditation and kundalini. I wouldn’t have seen some old wounds that weren’t actually healed like I thought they were. I wouldn’t have had to lay my sword down, ego bruised, and give it all up to the Universe. Surrender.

Would I have rather not spent the past six months holing up, crying, and in pain? Yeah. But do I believe that in doing so I will now be a better partner, friend, daughter and sister. Yes. And is that worth it? Absolutely. On this path it is.

This is all part of the current. A piece of the pie that makes up my own epic personal journey. Making the decision to go is only the beginning.

And it’s in the saying yes that allows the adventure to begin. (Tweet this!)

It takes courage to be the type of person that is willing to hop aboard the unknown waters that will inevitably happen. And in those moments of choice, therein lies that nagging voice that is telling you to stay on shore. To turn around and go home. To not ruffle the feathers.

“You got a good thing going on, why mess it up?”

But for some of us, and I don’t know why, we have that itch. We want to see what’s on the other side of the hill. We want to experience ALL that we know we’re meant to experience. Even if it’s painful. (You too?)

I don’t know exactly what agreements I’ve made with the Universe in this life or any of my past ones. But I know for sure that I’ve signed on the dotted line to learning it all and becoming what I’m meant to become.

And sometimes that means getting swept up in a current that tosses you on your ass for six months or more. Or that causes you a ton of tears and pain. So that when you’re done, you can rise up a bit more broken-open, allowing more light in and love to come out.

Sometimes I wish I didn’t make these contracts. Sometimes I wish I had just decided that I wanted a simple life. With simple pleasures, like gathering water from my well in the morning and having like 8 babies. Part of me does. But a part of me has the huge desire to EXPLORE. Myself, others, life. And because of that, sometimes the waters are rough. And sometimes I feel sad and lonely. But I also get to see what’s on the other side of the hill.

We never know where our choices will lead. They might lead to you playing on stage in front of thousands of people or they might lead to heartbreak. And you always have the choice of which way you want to play it. Every single moment gives us an opportunity to choose and it’s in that choice that makes all the difference.

And so you might be at a crossroads. You might be looking ahead at your fork in the road, not knowing which way to go. And you are going to want me (or someone else) to give you the answers. But I can’t. Because only you know what contracts and agreements you’ve made. Only you know what kind of explorer you came here to be. And the truth is you probably already know the answer, and if it challenges your safety (real or perceived) in any way, that’s probably why you’re conflicted. Because you want it. And it doesn’t make much logical sense. So if this is you, I do have some advice for you:

* Follow the signs

* Use your intuition and your body as your compass

* Keep your bigger picture in mind

* If there is a voice telling you to do it, do it

* If you’re willing to get tossed around a bit, you’re strong enough to handle it

And if you’re ever feeling alone, know you’re not. There is a whole slew of people just like you. Explorers. Truth seekers. Peaceful Rebels. Lovers. Diehards. And people who want to make a difference by living out their own personal legend. You are not alone.

And so I’m curious, dear Wildheart, what are you choosing right now?

What are you facing? Which crossroad are you up against? What is the next thing on your plate? I would love to hear in the comments below. Are you conflicted? Scared? Worried?

Share in the comments below.

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Sally

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How To Be Nice When You Want To Be An A-hole Instead

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I was listening to this Bjork song earlier. Bobbing my head along. Imagining I was back on stage swinging my hair all around. Being all angsty and rock n rolly on stage.

And then I listened to the words “And if you complain once more, you’ll meet an army of me.”

Which is basically saying “I can’t listen to you complaining anymore…I’m DONE!”

I smiled. And giggled. Because I’ve had this feeling many many times in my life.

Like, imagine that you’re sitting there helping a friend through something. And they keep talking about it, but not wanting to do anything about it.

It’s like the same story over and over again. And when you give them (really awesome amazing) advice that you know will help them they don’t take it. And not only that, sometimes they get all mad at you and say things like “are you trying to coach me right now?” And then they leave. And a week later they come back and say the same things over and over again. Same problems.

And you’re all like “Ughhhhhhhhhhh!”

And this is where it gets personal, right? Like “Dude…I TOLD you what you could do to make it better” and “It’s kinda like what I do for a living…helping people through these problems.”

And yet, they still don’t want to hear it.

Bjork’s song made me giggle because at times, I’ve felt like wanting to say that. Like saying “FINE…if you don’t want my help then stop talking to me about it!”

or “Please shut the hell up, I have enough of my own problems to deal with.” (Tweet this!)

And then I felt like a jerk. Because I know deep down, that isn’t how I REALLY feel, or how I want to look at life. Or my loved ones. And that it’s a bit selfish. But what I have done is thought of some ways to change my perspective on it.

Because the truth is that you can’t change people. (Tweet this!)

You can’t make them ready to hear things they aren’t ready to hear. You can’t make them stop having problems (and more than that you can’t fix their problems) and you can’t make them stop talking to you about it.

You can’t really do anything other than be different about how YOU are in those moments of talking to them.

And so I came up with four things to try that might help you handle things in a helpful and nice way when you instead want to be an a-hole about it:

1) Listen

I know…it sounds simple and kind of counterintuitive but what I’ve found is that people most of the time just want to be heard. They rarely want to be fixed, even if there is a very simple solution to whatever their problems are.

This video is a PERFECT and hilarious display of this.

So for as long as you can hack it, just listen. And say something like “That sounds so hard, I’m so sorry you’re having to go through that.”

I have a friend who was going through a really tough time. She told me that she didn’t want anyone to offer any solutions, but rather she would prefer some acknowledgement on how shitty things were. Once I did that, we got on to talking about Dexter or our favorite new tea.

When people feel acknowledged, seen and heard, they don’t need to continue rambling on.

2) Show them love in the way they like to receive love

So often, we approach people with the way WE like to give love, rather than the way they need to receive it. So for example, let’s say that you are someone who likes to offer solutions to problems as a form of “love”, but the person you’re talking to feels loved when you give them hugs.

Try to find out the ways in which they feel loved and then give that to them.

When I’m upset, I like to just cry it out and have another person listen and acknowledge, so that tends to be how I approach my friends. But I have a friend who needs personal touch (hugs, hand holding) to feel heard and loved.

It’s not my go-to move, but I know when I talk to her that that’s what she needs from me. So I do that.

If you don’t know what your friends need from you, just ask! A good way to do that is to say: “How do you feel loved?” or “What are some things I can do right now that make you feel loved and heard?”

3) Ask them what they need from you

So often, we assume what people need. That in talking, we assume they want fixing. Or maybe we assume they want commiserating. Or we assume they want us to be angry with them. But a lot of the time, what we assume people want from us isn’t exactly what they want. And furthermore, if we give them what they don’t want, it can shut them down.

If you notice this might be happening with a loved one, you can also say, “hey…what do you need from me right now?”

That allows them to state their needs in a non-threatening way and it allows you to stop guessing.

4) Be honest

Ok…so if you’ve tried one through three and they are STILL going on and on about whatever thing, it is ok to opt out of the conversation.

This happened to me before and it was simultaneously the coolest and scariest interaction I ever had with my friend.

We had been hanging out for a couple hours and she was talking about a particular problem. I listened and tried to be there for her, but after about an hour and a half, I was exhausted. It was Friday and I had spent the entire week helping and coaching people and I just didn’t have the capacity to listen to it anymore. That was the truth for me.

I needed my friend and I needed her to be there with me and just be silly and have fun.

So I said “No…just no. I can’t listen anymore. It’s the end of my week, we’ve been talking about this for over an hour. Can we just hang out?”

It wasn’t the most tactful request of my life but it was honest. It’s what came out. And we actually both just burst out in laughter after I said it.

She agreed, that we didn’t need to keep talking about it. We became closer in that moment, and both got what we needed.

You may choose different words but the point being that it’s ok to state your needs as well. Conversations are a two-way street. You both will have wants and needs and desires and it’s ok to state yours.

One of my favorite quotes is from Tim Ferriss about conversations. Something like “your success in life is directly proportional to your willingness to have difficult conversations.” I’d change this up in this situation a little to be “…your willingness to speak the truth.”

So there you have it. The four ways to be a good friend when you otherwise want to be an a-hole. And really, what I believe this is speaking to is the bigger “spiritual” lesson of compassion, both for yourself and others.

It’s easy to just be reactive in life. To be unhappy with a situation and internalize it and feel resentful. But it can also be just as easy to be “cause” in your relationship. Not just an innocent bystander who gets swept up in whatever is happening around them.

You can change the way you’re being about things to make them work better for you and at the same time being there for your loved ones.

And this is where the spiritual lessons meet the road. Where you get to walk your talk. Where you get to practice all those things you learn on the Pinterest pins.

It’s easy to learn stuff but we don’t always integrate it into our lives. That’s one thing I love about the Wildheart Revolution. It’s the place to actually PRACTICE all the stuff you learn everyday. If you’re not already on the list, make sure you put your name below to be the first to know when the doors to enrollment swing open.

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Which out of these resonated the most? What do you do when you’re so tapped out from being there for everyone? Got any good tips? I would LOVE to hear from you. Leave your thoughts, tips and tricks in the comments below.

How To Manifest Like a Mutha In Four Easy Steps

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The other day, something so unbelievable happened, that I still don’t really know what to think about it.

I was given a free, 1983 Honda Nighthawk motorcycle, in mint condition from a complete stranger, essentially just for walking down the street at exactly the right moment.

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This also happened to be pretty much the exact motorcycle I had been googling and wanting for months prior. And it happened two days after I said to myself “I really wish I had another bike so my friends could ride with me and I don’t have to ride alone all the time.”

The story on how it happened is a bit long (watch the video below for the full recap) but here’s the gist…

I was walking down the street with my helmet in hand, going towards my bike. An older gentlemen was walking the opposite direction with a helmet in his hand. Our eyes met and we smiled at each other (in the “you’re in the club nod” kinda way).

We struck up a conversation. He showed me his bike and told me the story of the 70 year old woman who gave it to him because she already had too many bikes and asked him to find a good home for her baby. She had ridden over 77,000 on the bike and was the original owner.

He asked me if I wanted to take it for a spin. I did. Came back after doing so and gave him the keys back and said “thanks! That was awesome!”

About two hours later he called me and asked if I wanted to have the bike. About an hour after that, I was riding home on my brand new bike.

Here’s the full story.

He texted me later and told me to: “become aware of what you did or thought that created today for you, and do more of that.”

 And that’s what I spent the rest of the day doing.

Now…this, in and of itself is pretty incredible. But what happened before and after are the most notable things about it.

 To me, this situation was a divine message. It was way too magical to just be a coincidence.

And as I was thinking of this, so many things popped into my mind as to what might have created this. And I’d love to share it all with you.

Here’s my “How-To” Guide on Getting Free Stuff

 1) Know that you are worthy of great things

After a very tough six months, including an even more tough summer, I was starting to feel like I would never get out of the hole I was in. I felt scared, alone, undeserving, unlovable. I felt hopeless. And I worried that I’d stay in that place forever.

 Through a ton of reflection and meditation, I realized that a lot of these emotions stemmed from the general feeling of unworthiness. That I didn’t think I deserved to have the kind of relationship and life I truly wanted. That I wasn’t worth being loved in the way I imagined for myself.

So, about a month prior to receiving the bike, I had been repeating the mantra “I am worthy” to myself anytime I felt my thoughts wander to the other, more harmful places. I didn’t know if it was “working” or not (and I wasn’t even focusing on what “working” meant), I just knew that that thought felt much better to me than “I am unlovable and will be alone forever.”

2. Work on your ability to RECEIVE

I’m the type of person that doesn’t like to be out of control, and who doesn’t love reaching out for help. I’m also the type of person that feels like I always need to “even the score.” That if someone does something nice for me, I must make sure I do something equally nice for them to “repay” the nice deed they did. And it comes from a place of “pay back” instead of pure joy of giving.

AND…if I don’t think I can’t repay them, I end up feeling horribly guilty.

You might be thinking… “yeah, that makes sense, you totally SHOULD do nice things for people if they do nice things for you” but if you look closer, it’s another form of not feeling worthy, and it’s not entirely true.

If someone wants to do something nice for me it is OK FOR ME TO RECEIVE IT, and say thank you, and leave it at that. (Click to tweet that)

It doesn’t always have to have the energy around it that I must “pay it back,” or even “pay it forward,” as if the nice things I do on a daily basis aren’t enough to deserve beautiful things in my life. This is how some girls get in trouble doing things they don’t want to do. Like “well he paid for my dinner so I should go home with him to pay him back” or any other variation of that concept.

 It’s a problem. And it is a worthiness problem.

If we felt worthy, we’d be able to receive gifts, knowing that we deserve the beauty that is coming our way. We would do nice things for people because it feels good and not because we feel like we have to.

3. Be grateful for what you already have

Ok this one tends to be tricky for people to understand. And it was for me the first time I heard it. But the idea is that in order to get things you want, you need to be grateful of the things you already have.

This is all about the idea that what you put out there, is what you get back. If you’re constantly putting out there that you DON’T HAVE all this stuff that you want, then you’re going to keep finding instances where this is true.

But if you change the conversation to “I am so grateful for all this amazing stuff in my life” you are putting it out there that you HAVE. And that brings in more havingness.

About one to two months before I got this bike, I included a gratitude practice into my daily journaling. AND, I resurrected something I used to do, which was put a weekly gratitude post out to my community. I would say anything from “I’m grateful for my good hair today” to “I’m grateful to have such a loving and supportive family.” Literally anything I could think of.

One month later, I received this bike.

4. Surrender and trust that the universe has your back

This concept is not an easy one for me but it’s one I had been working on all summer. We humans tend to think we have a ton of control in our lives. And so we try to exercise that control on the regular. We micromanage every little detail of our lives, and that often comes in the form of worrying.

Worrying that we don’t have enough money, or enough love, or enough everything. And so we think those types of thoughts all day long. “I’ll never have what I want,” “I’ll always be alone,” etc. And then we go into panic mode.

And try to “fix” or control whatever thing we feel like we’re lacking. But simply trying to “fix” it is denying the fact that we’re exactly where we need to be and it’s simply a shift in perspective and thoughts that can make the change we’re hoping to see.

About two months before I got the bike, I began to say to myself “my best life is already selected for me and I’m being guided in the exact right direction to receive it.”

I did the very best I could to LET GO of what I was hanging onto. A relationship that wasn’t working and a person that didn’t want it to. And the idea that there was something I could do to change that.

I literally said out loud “Ok Uni…I surrender to you. GUIDE ME.”

It was like I had hit rock bottom. Literally on the floor. Having nowhere else to go and nothing else to do other than let it all go.

And I really needed a sign that things were good in the world. And that I was going to be ok. And I asked for it. And less than a month later I received this amazing act of kindness from a stranger. And rode of into the sunset rainbow.

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So here’s the thing. I’m not saying that there is some kind of formula that will bring free and amazing gifts into your life.

But I AM saying that it is absolutely possible to create what you want. And it’s an inside job. (click to tweet this)

I tell my Wildheart’s all the time that what I’ve found to be the way to change is by trying a million different things (throw spaghetti at the wall, if you know that reference), and see what sticks.

I’m not sure exactly which thing brought this good fortune into my life, but I believe it was a combination of all of them. And mostly, the shift of energy in my life.

We talk about this stuff on the regular in the Wildheart Private Community. It’s what we do. Help each other to make more magic. Check it out. Join us. I dare you.

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Have you had similar experiences to this one? Have you made magic in your life simply by having different thoughts? I would love to hear about it. Please share your story in the comments below.

THIS IS A WILDHEART LIFE.

I had a whole other blog planned out for you today. But such as life goes…blogs go to.

In that…from moment to moment, everything changes.

If you’ve been reading my blogs lately, you’ve probably noticed that life has felt a bit…tough. Emotional. Sobbing on the floor kind of pain.

And somewhere in all that mess I decided I needed an adventure. (click to tweet)

Everything felt stuck. Same old same old. I’d wake up to the same view with virtually the same nightmares the night before.

Work on the same spot on the same couch. Or the same table at the same coffee shop. Day after day.

I got into business for myself because I wanted to create the kind of life I truly wanted to live, but what happened along the way was that I became an employee of my own business, with a boss that was tough on me. And expected a lot. And gave me no days off.

Self-inflicted wounds.

And don’t get me wrong…I love what I do with all my heart and soul, which is how it’s possible for me to work at it as much as I do.

I BELIEVE in Wildheart. I BELIEVE it makes a difference. I BELIEVE it’s important. And I BELIEVE it needs to be in the world. It’s much much more than work.

It’s a mission. A piece of my heart. It’s important. And I love it.

But if I, myself, am not “wildhearting” in my own life, then what good is it that I run the Wildheart Revolution?

So on a whim last week, I got on a plane. Packed whatever would fit in a small black backpack and headed out to California. Where I picked up my family’s camper van.

If you’ve been around these parts for awhile, you’ll know that I spent LOTS of time traveling in this exact van. On a solo road mission to find out what I was made of (as well as the most ideal place for me to live). That time, with just a map and my big great dane.

This time. It’s just me. No map. No dog. Which is apropos to where I’m at in my life right now. A whole new chapter that is literally being written as each word slides off my fingers onto this keyboard.

Nothing is the same as it’s been before. And what’s ahead? Who knows. Seriously. (click to tweet)

So much is unknown. Including where the van will be going later today. And it reminds me that ALL of life is unknown.

Technically, this is not a good time for me to be on the road. I am launching another enrollment for the Wildheart Revolution, which requires a ton of internet time and undivided attention.

And in the spirit of walking my talk, I don’t care.

I surrender and trust that I will have the opportunity to be here as much as I need to be, while at the same time letting the wind flow through my hair, listening to the ocean waves crash as I drift off to sleep. Letting whatever local radio station there is fill the soundtrack of my drive. Watching the pinks and yellows of the sunset peer through my window.

I don’t know where the wind will take me, but really, none of us do.

We just have to trust that we know what’s best for us in any given moment, and BELIEVE that it all works out for the best. (click to tweet)

Yesterday I woke up on the shore of a beach on the coast of California. I slept in til near 10, which I haven’t done in ages. Took a leisurely breakfast with an important person in my life.

Stopped by the winery of my college roommate. And ended up crying (happy and sad tears) over a glass of wine from said winery with my very best friend in the whole world later that night.

We got dressed up all fancy (hello high heels…haven’t seen you since I moved to Montana) and I took her out to dinner at a totally hipster fancy restaurant. We talked about life. Love. Change. Age. The fact that we ruled the town back in our 20’s. We reminisced about all the men in our past (plenty of which we couldn’t remember their names). And we wondered how on earth to go back in time.

And then realized that we don’t actually want to. And that’s not the point. That this moment is the only one that matters and in this moment we are laughing and hugging and eating olives out of a fancy bowl. And what else in life is there, really?

It’s THIS moment. The one that matters.

That there is a blue sky. Or a hug from your best friend’s daughter.

I’m not sure where I’ll be next time I write you but I’ll undoubtedly take you along for the ride.

Because THIS is a Wildheart Life.

The metaphoric (or literal) wind in your hair. The hug with your best friend. The decision to get on that plane or only pack as much as will fit in a backpack. The decision to live in the now. To make decisions based on your heart in this moment. And to keep living and loving even when you’re balled up on the floor. Crying.

Life goes on. So let your Wildheart run free in the meantime. (click to tweet)

And this is exactly what the Wildheart Revolution is all about. Making conscious choices. Being awake. Getting on that plane (whatever YOUR version of that plane is). Letting your heart hang out and your tears flow through. Being the absolute best YOU possible by taking yourself on these adventures.

Wanna come along for the ride?

I am opening the doors again to the Wildheart Revolution (in case you don’t know it’s a private lifestyle/coaching community for unconventional people who want to live life on their own terms) next week. And it’s different this time.

Yes, there will be a sale, but I’m also limiting the number of total members as to keep the group intimate and close. Which means that if you want to become a member you’re going to want to jump in now. Once the spots are filled, the only way to get in will be if someone leaves the group. I’m not messing around here. :)

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Stop Trying To Please Everyone (and let me sing you a song about it)

Can't please everyone...so stop trying.

 

I’m just gonna break it down here real quick.

No matter what you do…someone isn’t going to like it. (TWEET THIS)

Seriously.

And you trying to please everyone and save yourself from pain and embarrassment and failure isn’t actually going to save you from any of those things.

So by doing what you *think* everyone wants you to do (not start that business, not go on that cross country road trip, not marry the one that makes no sense on paper but makes your stomach flip, not hit publish on that blog post) not only will you STILL experience those emotions (because you’re human and that’s how it goes), but you’ll also be living your life according to someone else’s rules.

I’m not mad. Even though I might sound like it. More like…I think this message is WILDLY important and bears repeating.

It reminds me of my favorite quote by Dita Von Teese:

Do your own thang.

 

We can’t please all the people all the time. 

All we can do is try to live our lives the best way that we know how and follow our own path. (TWEET THIS)

Follow our own arrow.

And THIS is the Wildheart Revolution.

Doing your own thing. Following your own path. Following your own arrow…wherever it points.

And it’s messy. And it won’t go perfectly. And you’ll mess up. And be embarrassed. But that’s the life of someone who wants to live beyond the status quo. Someone who wants to create something beautiful in this world.

If you’re reading this…THIS IS YOU. I know it. And so I created a video for you. It’s messy too. And definitely not perfect. I could have done a million takes to make sure you think it’s good. But you know what? I’m a human being. And I make mistakes. And sing out of tune. And forget the words to songs.

And that’s what makes me ME. And that’s my only job in life. I hope you enjoy this video and don’t laugh at me too hard for totally F-ing up this song.

So this begs the question…where is YOUR arrow pointing right now? What have you been scared to do? Where have you been holding yourself back? Leave your thoughts in the comments below.

And if you want to be a part of a MOVEMENT that is doing something different. That is dedicated to living of a life of beautiful imperfection while still reaching your dreams, get on the list to find out the second that doors swing open for the next round of the Wildheart Revolution.

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Up up and away dear Wildheart,
Sally

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