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I wasn’t gonna admit this…but then I did

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“I don’t think I know how to love myself,”

…is what I said to myself one morning about 9 months ago. Which, when the thought really sunk in as a truth, felt very foreign and almost impossible.

“Of course I know how to love myself” I thought right after that. “I know I’m smart and interesting and capable and talented, etc etc etc” and “I mean…look at all I’ve accomplished and created! I’m awesome! Yeah…I’m awesome. Yep…totally awesome”

But the truth is that underneath that, was a deep shell that was protecting a wounded and vulnerable heart and a feeling that I truly have no idea what it REALLY means to love myself. My SELF. That inner spirit.

The self that is apart from the accomplishments, or the haircut, or the tight and toned body, or a great relationship, or the outside value I place on myself based on what I think others think of me.

This all started last year as I began to question everything about my life and my business. The “why am I doing this?” conversation I talked about in one of my last blogs.

And got further under a microscope when I contemplated shutting down the defining thing about me at this point in my business…Wildheart.

My feelings were “who am I if I’m not Sally Hope, Leader of the Wildheart Revolution.” And it was a similar thought I had when I left the music industry, “who am I if I’m not Sally Hope, bass player in a rock n roll band.”

And then it spiraled into even deeper insecurities like, “who’s going to think I’m cool if I put on 10 pounds” or “who’s going to take me seriously when I look so tired.”

Because I was so tired. Tired of trying to find happiness and love in places where it’ll never exist. (Tweet this)

As I got further down the rabbit hole of these thoughts, it occurred to me that I was only feeling valuable inasmuch as I felt like I was doing something cool or “valuable” in my life, throughout the perceived (and completely made up in my mind) eyes of other people.

I loved myself when I was skinny and tan and traveling the world in an RV, writing and sharing my experiences and having the time of my life. Or running my business from the beach. Or scouring the mountains of Montana on my motorcycle. But not so much when I was feeling depressed, or disliking my business, or feeling lost and directionless, and like I had no idea what I wanted to do with my life anymore.

That is…my love for myself had some serious conditions.

I only got to be lovable when I met these certain criteria I had set up for myself. Anything that fell outside of that I felt was unlovable. And punishable by negative thoughts and self-hatred.

And that’s when I truly realized that this is a big problem. And a form of perfectionism and control coming to the surface.

It happened slowly and then quickly. I had been aware of it in years previous, but I always found some outside thing to fix it..for a little while at least. Traveling, or relationships, or making lots of money doing really cool things, or having a life that people wanted.

And ultimately, there would come a time when those things would no longer serve their purpose in my life. They would no longer make me happy. The luster would wear off.

Because at some point, you want to put your clothes in a drawer instead of in a suitcase. At some point, the person you’re in a relationship with will let you down, annoy you, frustrate you.

Eventually, (perhaps) the business you built out of fun and whimsy because an empire that requires more of you then you’re wanting to give.

Eventually, the life that everyone envied becomes the life that no one wants. (Tweet This)

And when that happens, and you don’t already love yourself enough to find your own intrinsic happiness, you will fall apart.

I’m not saying any of this to depress you. Or to get any compliments. Or to hear you say “don’t feel sad Sally! I love you and you’re awesome!”

I’m saying it more just to describe the landscape of what it looks like when we (all of us) engage in the very damaging practice of not loving ourselves.

Through my inspection of this topic I’ve realized that loving yourself (or not loving yourself) shows up in all kinds of unexpected ways, like:

  • When you don’t stand up for yourself when someone says something inappropriate, or hurtful.
  • Or when you engage in activities that make you feel lonely, depleted, and less-than.
  • Or when you say no to something you really want to do because you’re afraid of the unknown.
  • Or when you say yes to something you don’t want to say yes to because you’re afraid of letting someone down.
  • Or when you stay in a situation that you know in your heart isn’t the best option for you, but you’re too afraid to leave because you don’t think you’ll ever find another whatever-it-is again (ie “I don’t trust that I’m worthy enough to have what I truly want and deserve”)
  • Or when you look in the mirror and hate what you see (wrinkles, jiggly tummy, stretch-marks, too big too little too not enough) and feel like you are less valuable in the world because of it.
  • Or when you feel like you can only go see or talk to your friends if you have something positive or happy to share.
  • Or you feel like you can’t go somewhere without putting makeup on because you’re afraid someone will notice your eyes are puffy from crying and they might ask you about it, or they’ll think you’re old.
  • Or when you compare your life to other people’s lives and feel like there is something wrong with the way you’re doing it.

What was it like for you reading this list? Do you see yourself in any of it?

My guess is that you do. Because so many of us struggle with this.

We “seek” happiness and validation and love, but we also all forget that by seeking it, we won’t find it.

Because it doesn’t live “out there,” it lives within us.

Now, I imagine what you might be thinking. It’s probably the same thing I used to think whenever I’d hear that phrase.

I’d either be like “yeah yeah blah blah love yourself I get it,” or I’d be like “Ok. Yes. I know you’re right, but seriously…what does that actually look like? How do I actually do it?”

And the second question is the mission I’ve been on for months. It’s part of my “Hell Bent On Happiness” experiment (more to come on that). Where I know it’s time to really GET IT. Live it. And understand it in a real way. Because otherwise I’ll continue to be on my own hamster wheel of unhappiness, waiting for something or someone else to fix it.

I’ve been experimenting in really tangible ways, really deep ways, and also really silly ways. But I wanted to share some things with you that I’ve been trying, just in case you’re in the same boat as me and wanting to break the bad habit of beating yourself up.

So here’s my latest cocktail of self-love:

1) Read the book “Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It” and do the meditation. Here is the way to do the meditation:

2) From the same book, have a repeating loop in your mind of “I love myself I love myself I love myself I love myself.”

I do this as soon as I start to worry about anything, or feel sad or mad or like I messed up. I do it when I start to have negative thoughts or start to stress out. I play it on loop to fill my mind with positive thoughts instead of the negative ones that usually are on loop.

3) Put this quote up in my room “In a society that profits from your self-doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act.” (I’m not sure the author of this quote so if anyone knows please tell me so I can properly reference it!)

4) Watch this India Arie video (she sang it live at the Oprah event I was just at. Definitely cried)

5) Wearing less or no makeup, or noticing the times when I do want to wear if for reasons other than just “I feel like it”

6) Ask myself “If I truly loved myself, would I let myself experience this?” (this applies to situations, thoughts, people, etc) This is also from the book I mentioned above.

I know these things don’t seem like much, but I can tell you that they are really starting to make a difference. They might not be the cure-all, but it’s better than blindly placing my happiness in the hands of someone or something else. I’m really trying this time.

“Self-love” is one of those nebulous things that everyone talks about. It’s different than ego. It’s different than arrogance.

It’s straight up knowing that you are lovable and valuable simply because you exist. (Tweet This)

And really, what else is there? How wonderful of a world would it be if we all believed this? #livewildheart

So that’s my personal mission. One step along the “Hell Bent On Happiness” trail. And I’m wondering…won’t you join me?

Is this something you struggle with too? Could it be possible that there are some hidden self-love blunders in your life as well? You down to explore and discover? If so, I want to hear from you!

In the comments below I want to know this:

  1. Did you resonate with any part of this? Do you ever struggle with truly loving yourself?
  2. If so, what are 3 things you do to flip the script?

Leave your thoughts in the comments below and if you know someone that needs to see this message, please “like” it and share it with them. I figure the more people we have who feel worthy and valuable, the better.

I love myself, I love myself, I love myself….

Sally

 

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New Years Resolutions suck, but this is awesome

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I can’t believe it’s already almost 2016! It feels like just yesterday that I was house-sitting for my friend Molly, waking up in her sun-filled house and writing in my journal about my previous year and what I intended for the following year. I took this pic right as I was writing in my journal and it seems to be pretty indicative of my year…lots of both light and dark moments. It also marked a huge transformation that was coming. You can read all about it here.

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My life had recently changed SO much and I wasn’t really sure what I wanted for the upcoming year, and so it’s no surprise that the year took on a life of its own!

I wasn’t super intentional. I was just in a “let’s see what happens” mode. And so that’s how the year greeted me.

So this year, I wanted to be a bit more intentional. I wanted to really reflect on 2015, and be intentional about 2016. And not in a “let’s put a million things on my ‘resolution/to-do list’ way.” But in a way that will help me really sink in, in a grounded solid way, to the way I want to FEEL this year, the things I want to accomplish, and the person I need to be in order for that to happen.

It was so much fun that I had to share it with you all. So I created this super fun and free worksheet. I hope you enjoy it!

In this worksheet you will…

  1. Reflect on your accomplishments, changes, lessons, game changing moments, and things you want to let go of from 2015
  2. Think ahead to 2016 and reflect on your desires, your goals, your experiences and how you want to feel in 2016 and who you need to be in order to do that
  3. Set strong intentions for your year to come

All you need to do is let me know where I should send it. So make sure you put your name and email in the box below and your super fun and free worksheet will be on it’s way.

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I hope you are enjoying the last few weeks of 2015 and not working tooooo hard. Also…make sure you squeeze some loved ones and drink lots of tea or hot cocoa. Dr’s orders.

Cheers to a year full of happiness and Wildhearting!
XO,
Sally

My Creative Sabbatical (and why I’ve been gone all year)

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“Why don’t you ever write about us,” he said in a text message to me the other night.

And in that moment, an entire year’s worth of complex, complicated feelings flooded to the surface. I know you guys are used to hearing from me A LOT more than you have this year. A lot of you have been here since my very first blog post in January of 2010. And have been with me through my last major breakup and all the little heartbreaks along the way.

You’ve come to Costa Rica with me. Gotten into an RV with me for the first time and saw the country. You might have watched as my friend Natalie and I drove across the country doing random acts of kindness and filmed the experience as webisodes as Girls Gone Moto or followed along as the Travel Channel “pimped our RV ride”, and went with me on my solo road trip, culminating in my very first hunting trip.

You cried along with me when I moved to Montana and bought my very first pair of red and tan fuzzy Sorel winter boots. You followed me to the bar to go country dancing and went with me on the back of a flatbed truck to play bass with my new country band. You went to festivals and concerts with me. Climbed the mountain tops in Montana with me. You’ve gone on motorcycle rides with me. You’ve seen me create The Wildheart Revolution (my private coaching and lifestyle tribe), create custom jewelry, sell out Montana retreats. You’ve seen me sing songs in my bedroom and be guests on Podcasts.

So why is it that there is an entire year missing in our lives together? Why have I been so quiet?

Today..I hope to shed some light on everything and let you know what I’ve been up to this year, and what’s to come.  

In the beginning of being a coach, I was also going through a ton of personal transitions. Writing about them on my blog was a form of therapy for myself. I’d learn stuff, and then share it. Not paying a ton of attention to “growing my business.” To me, the growth always happened organically. It seemed to be a result of just living my life, and sharing that with everyone. I seemed to keep getting clients and I was able to make enough to live the life I wanted to live.

And then something shifted. I wanted my business to “GROW.” I had a vision that came to me in a lightning moment, winter in 2012-13. The words Wildheart Revolution flashed through my mind and I knew that something big was wanting to happen. I also knew that I wanted there to be amazing and affordable coaching available to like-minded and dynamic people in a way that hadn’t ever been done before. And so Wildheart was born. It happened slowly at first, and then snowballed very quickly.

In 2013-14, my business grew a lot and really fast. So much so that I couldn’t keep up with it. I scrambled to hire the right people to stay on top of everything with all the major changes happening. I didn’t do a great job. And found myself completely overworked and overwhelmed.

I had a big big vision for Wildheart, I wanted to help facilitate big changes, but most of the time I felt stressed with the amount of work I was doing alone. So much so that the joy and vision of it started to wane. My life stopped being about adventure and fun and sharing my stories and creating and growing the Revolution, and started being about 17 hour days, launch schedules, hiring/firing, troubleshooting payment malfunctions, and holding it all together.

And in that moment, the business that I had created so that I could be creative, and help inspire change within people, became the box that I had previously rebelled against, and I was just…TIRED.

Tired of the hustle. Tired of the game. Tired of being solely responsible for everything.

“If this is what having an empire looks like, I don’t think I want  it” I thought to myself.

And found myself just about completely unable to keep it going. Or rather…unwilling to continue growing it in the way I had. I questioned…EVERYTHING…

“Why am I doing this?”

“Is this creating the kind of impact I want to create?”

“Do I even like being a business owner?”

“Why do I have these money goals? Are they even important to me? And if so…why?”

“Do I want to be spending my time doing all of this?”

“Is it all worth it if my relationships are falling by the wayside?”

“Does having all this money even matter?”

“What are my true priorities in my life as a whole?”

As these questions were forming, so was a new relationship. In 2014 I struck up a relationship with an old flame from college and decided last December to give it a go and see what could happen for us.

We’ve spent the year, learning, growing, giggling, cuddling, loving and learning how to be in a relationship with each other. My focus went from solely myself, my adventures, and my business, to a new relationship, in a new place, and with an entirely new situation since he has three kids, a huge family, and is very involved in his community.

My life literally could not have looked more different this past year than it did any of the ones previous to it. And in the meantime with that, I was growing and shifting. Wanting to be a bit more private, not just because there were now kids involved, but because I wasn’t sure I wanted to be “Sally Hope, Renegade Life Coach, and Leader of the Wildheart Revolution,” as much as I just wanted to be Sally Hope. A person. A person who was discovering, at this point in time, what she wants in life and what’s important to her.

I felt my role shifting. I felt my desires shifting. Nothing that was known before was known now. Everything was up for grabs, including whether or not I even wanted to have a business.

And within these thoughts and changes, my life started to feel private to us. And since so much was shifting in my business and my life, and my emotions, and I wasn’t sure what I wanted to share, I shared almost nothing.

Not because I didn’t want you to know, but mostly because I wasn’t really sure how I felt. I had so many complex emotions swirling inside. Questioning my business was like questioning myself and my self-worth.

“If I’m not Sally Hope, Leader of the Wildheart Revolution, then who am I?”

“If I’m not doing something really cool and exciting, what do I have to offer people?”

“If I’m not building an amazing business, what am I going to talk to my friends about?”

It’s kind of hard to explain, but questioning these things was not just like questioning whether or not I want to eat dairy in my diet, but more like it was questioning everything I thought to be true about myself, and my world.


I am and always have been an ambitious person with very big visions, but I started to question why I wanted the things I thought I wanted. Why I had the money goals I had. Why I had the business goals I had. Why it mattered. Were those visions still “mine”?

I just want to live my life and figure it out. And so that’s what I’ve been doing this year. I’ve been questioning all my thoughts and desires. I’ve been evaluating all the people and things in my life and deciding whether or not they are fulfilling. I’ve been falling in love, not only with my guy, but with his amazing kids and family. I’ve been having a lot of Netflix nights. I’ve been getting better at cooking. I’ve been hiking. I’ve been changing. My heart has been expanding. I’ve been challenged.

I’ve been getting to know myself and my new life and here’s what I’ve discovered: Creativity is really important. Business is amazing but it’s not everything. Online life is great, but it will never replace sitting around the fireplace with your loved ones. You can create it however you want it, but sometimes you have to rediscover how you want it, and that’s ok. Sometimes you’ll change your mind, and that’s ok. I adore Wildheart. 
And given all these discoveries, here’s what I’ve decided for myself…

I’ve decided to go on a bit of a creative/business sabbatical. I recently shut the doors to the Wildheart Revolution private coaching community, and only take on one on one clients every once in awhile so that I can have some time and space to rediscover what I truly want to create next. I will only be doing things that feel creative, fulfilling and fun. I am not really sure what’s next, but I’m dedicating my sabbatical time to taking the pressure off of figuring it out.

I will still be posting publicly and will still be keeping in touch with you during this exploratory time. I’m not sure exactly what that will look like, but since this all started with sharing life and creative stories, I imagine that’s what I’ll be doing this year too. I will still be taking you all along for the ride.

So far, just making this decision has been amazing. I’ve had doubts and fears. A LOT. But overall I’m excited. I’m excited to go back to basics. I’m excited to write to you guys because it’s my favorite thing to do, not because doing so is part of my marketing plan. I’m excited with all the creative ideas that are bubbling up since I decided to take my sabbatical.

And even though I’m not sure what will come out of this pause and creative time, I did want to share with you some of the things I’ve been thinking about that might make their way into your inboxes:

  1. Kundalini Yoga – this powerful and transformative style of yoga has changed my life. I’m getting my teacher training certification this year. I’m spending the next seven months in training. YAY!
  2. The Wildheart L.O.V.E. Technique. I created this technique a few years ago that helps people handle and get rid of really really tough emotions. I would like to develop and expand on this.
  3. An idea I’m working on: Sacred Exploration Time (S.E.T.) a practice in which you give yourself time and space to discover what you truly want (I’m currently in a SET time right now)
  4. Creativity. Writing. Telling stories. Sharing for the sake of sharing.

If you are still reading…thank you. I know this is a bit long winded, but that’s sort of how I roll. :) Thank you for being a part of this journey. Thank you for still being here. Thank you for being a part of this Wild Ride.

Please don’t hesitate to reach out if you have any questions and please let me know if you’ve experienced anything similar. Have you ever been going down one path and then realized you’re not sure why you’re still walking? Have you ever changed your mind and had to re-evaluate everything? If so…I want to hear about it.

Also…in my “time off” I got super inspired to create a fun worksheet for the New Year. Look for that in your inbox next week.

Happy Friday Dear Friends,

Sally

25 Of The Coolest Gifts Ever (under $40 bones)

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It’s that time of year again…when it’s time to break out the ugly Christmas sweater and start going to parties.

And with parties comes gift giving. Which, in and of itself is AWESOME, but sometimes I feel like I never know what to bring.

I don’t want to just get something to get it.

I want to get something that people might actually want. Or giggle at. Or be like “ohmigosh I never knew I wanted this but now that I have it I can’t imagine how I ever lived without it!”

So I decided to put together a list of the coolest, most fun, unexpected, gifts under $25 that you never knew you wanted.

And I swear…just putting this list together extended my own Christmas list by 50 items!! (Psssst…Santa…if you’re listening I’ll take ANY one of these things.)

I hope you enjoy this and in the comments below, let me know which of these items you’d SWOOOOON over this Christmas.

25 Of The Coolest Gifts EVER under $40

  1. Any of these three awesome iPhone cases: Magical Agate, Mermaid’s Secret, Gold And Turquoise Marble $35
  2. Subscription to Unbox Love, monthly “Dates In A Box” $39
  3. Badass Deer Printed stockings $23
  4. N.W.A Record on vinyl $27
  5. DIY Mason Jar Herb Gardening kit $22.98
  6. The Dirt Trace Mineral Tooth Powder $12
  7. Air Plant and Crystal (my FAV gift to give) $18
  8. Whiskey Ball (giant ice cube mold) $18.98
  9. The Five Minute Journal $22.95
  10. Wood Paneled iPad Mini cover $39
  11. Thelma & Louise engraved wine glass set $34
  12. Lambskin leather gloves with cashmere lining $24
  13. Cord Taco (to travel with your cords and cables in style) $35
  14. Scratch map (you scratch out all the places you’ve gone…sure beats a push pin!) $28.95
  15. Part Wolf tank top $28
  16. Anthropologie monogrammed mug in gold $10
  17. Archipelago Oat Milk lotion (my personal FAV) $22
  18. Wild Unknown Tarot Deck $40
  19. “Carpe The Hell Outta This Diem” throw pillow $30
  20. “Big Magic” Elizabeth Gilbert’s new book $13
  21. Year’s subscription to Mindful Magazine $29
  22. Rose quartz, pyrite and airplant terrarium $23.99
  23. American flag coaster set $38
  24. Joy and Happiness henna mason jars from MK Connection $35
  25. Bullet crystal necklace $35

And now I want to hear from you! Which one of these items is going on your personal Christmas list? Are there any awesome gifts I totally missed? If so I want to seem them in the comments below.

And if you like this list…share it with your peeps! Wouldn’t want us to be the only ones getting this ridiculously awesome gifts.

XO,

Sally

P.s. Do you like these gifts? Like ma vibe? Then you’ll LOVE The Wildheart Revolution. We is currently undergoing a ton of changes, but HOLY MOLY, when things are ready for viewing in 2016, it is going to be THE BOMB! You will not want to miss it, so make sure you’re on the waiting list to get more info about it. Ho ho ho.

The 6 Ways To Be A Rockstar (leather pants optional…but recommended)

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I did something last week that I hadn’t done in 8 years.

I ROCKED.

And when I say I ROCKED, I don’t mean that in the figurative way where I just did something I’m proud of and said “I rocked that”. I mean…I ROCKED in that I got up on stage with white leather fringe, booty shorts and fake eyelashes, and sweat my ass off playing rock n roll songs in front of 200 of my favorite people.

You might be wondering why I’m telling you this. And to be honest, it has taken me a few days to even be able to write about it. There were so many mixed emotions swirling around in my heart and in my mind.

You see…I used to ROCK on a regular basis. All throughout my 20’s that was my job. From the moment I graduated college, until I turned 29, I was a working musician. I toured, I played shows, I lived in Hollywood, I had fancy friends, I got invited to parties where I got to dance with Billy Corgan and go to BBQ’s at Tommy Lee’s house. I got to wear wild outfits and do my hair and makeup on the regular. And not only did I get to do that…it was my job to do that.

And then somewhere along the line, it stopped being fun. My band was road weary. And then our singer quit. Which then ended the band, and ultimately my rockstar days up to that point.

If you’ve ever had a job that was very much tied into your identity, you know the feeling I’m about to describe. The “if I’m not SALLY HOPE THE BASS PLAYER FOR THIS AWESOME ROCK BAND, THEN WHO AM I??” If I don’t have some fancy situation that sounds really cool to tell people about when I talk to them, then what is my value?

My identity had been so tied into that one job that I had, that I hardly knew what to do with myself when all of that went away. I struggled. For a long time, to find my own rockstar self, regardless if I was playing an instrument or not.

And I tucked that side of myself away for a long time because it was painful. I didn’t know how to live with her inside of me but not up on the stage.

And last week, as I was preparing for the upcoming reunion show of my band, I realized some things. That being a rockstar has nothing to do with whether or not you’re playing music, but rather it’s a point of view. It’s an attitude. It’s a decision to live life a certain way.

And the more I thought about this, the more I realized that ALL of those things are exactly what it means to live a Wildheart Life. I might not be up on the stage on the regular. My sequined booty shorts might now live in a box in my garage, only to be pulled out on special occasions. But that doesn’t mean I don’t still rock.

And with that being said, I wanted to share with you all what I discovered about being a rockstar, and how we can ALL do that in our businesses and our lives starting right this second. I didn’t ever really realize how being in a band prepared me for having my own business, but so many of the skills are the same. And I wanted to share them with you today. So let’s do this. Let’s rock n roll.

1) Practice

The only way the Beatles became the Beatles is because they played. A LOT. They started when they were teenagers and never stopped playing. I remember watching a documentary about them and they calculated that they had put in 10,000 hours of actual playing before they got discovered.

The same thing applies in business. You only get to be well known when you consistently do your craft and keep putting yourself out there. You have to play shows to get more shows. Or…you have to keep coaching to get more clients. Or keep creating websites to do more websites.

2) Play to one person as though you’re playing to 10,000

I remember this one show in particular where one of my band members was in a terrible mood. We were used to selling out shows on the Sunset Strip, but when we toured, a lot of people didn’t know about us yet.

This one show, we were about to go out on stage and one of the band members looked to the crowd and there were only like 5 people there. He grumbled and said he didn’t want to put on his full outfit (which at the time was leather pants cut down-to-there and a fur vest with no shirt underneath), and didn’t even feel like playing.

And I told him “you have to give those five people the show of their lives. You have to treat every crowd like it’s the Madison Square Gardens gig of your life. Each person deserves the best that we got.”

And so we did. And all five of those people became fans for life.

It’s not the amount of people in the audience that matters as much as the amount of fire in your fight. (Tweet This!)

At first, not a lot of people will care what you’re up to, but that doesn’t mean you should give them half of what you got.

3) Leave it all on the stage

This one is a derivative of an old sport’s saying, which is to leave everything on the field. And what this means is that in order to “WIN” you must play with everything you got, all the time.

Last week when I was up on that stage, it was nerve wracking at first. I was out of practice. My body hadn’t moved like that in over 8 years. My fingers weren’t as agile on that bass as they once were. My balance on my platform boots wasn’t as steady.

But you know what I did? I played with everything I had. I swung my bass like I was a teenager. I threw my hair around and my head back like I hadn’t skipped a beat.

Was I sore the next day? HELL YES. But was it worth it? Totally. Why? Because you have to play every show like it’s your last. Same with business. Don’t save up your “best” for when you’re famous or “where you want to be.” Give us your best all the time.

No person became “famous” or rich by doing anything half-assed. If you want true success, always use your full ass when putting yourself out there. (Tweet This!)

:)

4) Keep singing even when no one is listening

I hear this a lot in the business (and music) world…”I don’t feel like writing a blog post because no one cares anyway. No one reads it or comments on it, so what’s the point?”

This makes sense right? WRONG.

Here’s the thing. In the beginning, people don’t care. That’s just the truth. And why don’t they care? Because you haven’t made them care yet.

Do you think that Motley Crue just became the biggest rock n roll band on the planet because they played one song for their mom once and then waited for the crowd to follow them? No way. Do you think they stopped playing after that one show where only two people showed up? Nope. They became the biggest rock n roll band because they played every show they could get their hands on for years until people paid attention.

They played, the refined, they played some more. One of my favorite stories in the Motley Crue book, “The Dirt” was about the first show where they decided to make it theatrical. They bought some fancy lights, and had their buddy set them up. They got a smoke machine. And Tommy Lee, their drummer built this cool apparatus for his drums.

This set them apart. They became “not just another band.”

And this is true in business as well. You have to keep playing, keep coaching, keep creating, keep finding your own thing, even when no one is listening. The more you do this, the more people listen.

In order to be a rockstar, you have to act like a rockstar, all the time, even when no one is looking. (Tweet This!)

5) Be willing to flyer

This is one of my favorites because here’s the thing…everyone wants to be on that stage, everyone wants the mega success they see other’s have, and everyone wants to reach their goals. But the truth is that not everyone is willing to do what it takes to get there.

Back in the day, before internet was so accessible, bands had to literally flyer in order to get the word out about their show. And this meant that you had to create a graphic, get it all printed out, and go around to stores and venues and talk to people and ask them to come to your show. You had to hand them your flier. You had to staple gun it up to telephone posts.

And was it embarrassing at times to sell yourself in that way? Totally. But you know what? That’s what it takes to get people in the door. You have to be willing to put yourself out there, risk embarrassment or someone saying “your band/product/service looks stupid” in order for you to get anywhere.

You have to believe in yourself and in your product enough to ask people to come to the show before anyone ever will. And you have to be willing to flier.

6) Enjoy the hell out of the moment

It’s easy to want to be on the other side of the hill. To imagine how big you want to be or how successful you want to become. And when we do this, it’s hard to enjoy the show you’re currently playing.

There is nothing better than that first chord you play at a rock n roll show. Where the curtain lifts, and the crowd is anxiously awaiting your show. But if you’re too wrapped up in the next show, you can’t enjoy what’s here now.

The other day, when I was up on that stage, I looked out to each and every face in the crowd. I was so grateful. So excited. So happy that they all showed up. I didn’t know whether or not this would be the last time I ever played, but I enjoyed it like it was.

We are all in such a hurry to get to the next step that we forget that the one we’re already on is pretty cool and all part of the journey to our own rockstar lives. So enjoy it. The best you can. While you’re here.

And that’s all I got for you. And remember, you can be a rockstar at any stage of your life, no matter what you’re doing. My 35 year old rockstar self looks very different than my 25 year old one, but the thing that remains is the dedication to strive for the best ME possible.

And with that being said, I wanna hear how YOU rock. What is something you’re proud of right now? What does your rockstar self look like? Make sure you leave yours in the comments below and if you like this article make sure you “like” it and share it with your friends.

LET’S ROCK,

Sally

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