December 25th, 2012
On Those Things No One Tells You About Your Love Life: Men Aren’t Mind Readers
Ladies…the only sure fire way to get what you want in a relationship is to ask for it. Especially when it comes to gifts. Men don’t think like us. Their brains don’t work like ours. If we mention we like something, out of the blue, we think that’s the same thing as telling them directly. It just doesn’t work that way.
So next time you’re finding yourself wanting something in your relationship, ask for it. Be clear and and concise and up front.
I hope that you are enjoying your Christmas and if you don’t get the gift you were hoping for, you have one whole year to be clear about next year’s gift. Winky.
Rock on ladies!
Xo,
Sally
YAY, Sally! I had THAT problem before!! Not just in gifts and such, but also women hinting about wanting to be in a relationship. Now, being the complete brick that I am, I am not anywhere near smart enough to be able to take hints for ANYTHING! I’m barely smart enough to tie my shoes. I’m fortunate that my current woman lets me know in no uncertain detail EXACTLY what she wants, and exactly what she is thinking.
Good woman. :)
I will say that despite not being smart enough to tie my shoes without help (it’s why I wear slippers all the time!), I learned enough to be properly prepared for her birthday this year (1/3). She celebrates all month long. That’s her thing. This time, I got the WHOLE month covered…
GOOD man. :)
It always amazes me how these posts pop up when I need them most. I guess I was out of practice this year when I only dropped hints to the b/f of 6 months about Christmas gifts, only to experience a huge let down followed by a near break-up.
I’m very good at letting him now what I want in every other facet of our relationship. I guess I assumed he was as good and thoughtful a gift-giver as I was and would get the hints or at least put 2 + 2 together. No chance. Heartbreak City.
After a near split (not over the material object, but the thought process), I realized he just needs some plain old training. Like they do when you start a new job on an assembly line. Anticipate what’s coming and do what you have to do to make sure it all fits.
We’re still not through this all. But I’ve stated my case. It’s all I can do.
xo
LC
PS: LOVED the Hell Yes/Hell No (both male and female)! A few were contradictory, but pretty on target for the most part.
So weird how that happens, eh?? I find that, almost always, my clients bring me the exact problem I need help with in my own life. Cosmic energy of some sort. But girl, I hear you. And it’s so great that you were able to communicate with your partner about this. Please do keep me posted.
Glad you like the Hell Yes and No list. I felt the same way when I read it. Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh love. :)
XO
S