August 29th, 2011
Get Out Of My Dreams. And Into My Car.
It’s been a wild ride ever since I got back from the first leg of our RV trip. And by wild, I don’t mean rip-roarin’, tearing it up, having a blast. I mean, wild in that there’s been so many emotions in such a short period of time. And honestly, I’d share them all with you, but at this point I’m pretty bored of them.
I got in a bit of a slump, like we do. Where things felt impossible, my dreams felt silly, and that there seemed no possible way my life was ever going to turn out the way I wanted it to. Hopes and dreams of building the next leg of the trip just seemed to slip by as I lay on my parents couch watching another episode of Glee. I checked out business books from the library, and intended to read them, but I didn’t. I intended to have a plan in place for the next few months, but I didn’t. Any magic that percolated, was shot down the next day by my rational mind, who always seems to have a British accent, snarkily saying, “HA! THAT won’t work, what a steeuuuuupid idea.”
Well…today, I woke up with a new lease on life. Yet again. And decided that I’m fuckin OVER thinking that way. And decided that the rational mind has no business butting into my dreams.
We are taught to value rationality. And logic. That if you can’t see, or prove, or know something, that it doesn’t have merit and doesn’t exist. That if it doesn’t make “sense” based on some arbitrary rules that we created a long time ago, that we shouldn’t do it. The rational mind operates on fear. Like “oh no…of course you shouldn’t sell all your belongings and travel the world like you’ve always wanted to…that doesn’t make sense. What if you don’t like it? What if you run out of money? What if you’ll never find a relationship?” The dream mind operates in magic and limitless possibilities. The dream mind doesn’t need anything to make “sense.” It just needs a vision. It needs you to believe in it. And from that place, anything can happen.
I mean, think about it. How did Oprah become Oprah? It wasn’t because it made “sense.” It wasn’t because it was logical to think that a girl born in absolute poverty was to become one of the richest women in the world. The rational mind would have balked at that. Luckily, the dream mind took over. Oprah became Oprah because she believed she could. She envisioned what she wanted. And she worked hard. And she never gave up. She chose to create magic over succumbing to logic.
And as I sat here, this morning, finding myself on the slippery slope towards doom and gloom thoughts, I made a choice. That that wasn’t going to be me anymore. That I’m going to create what I want, no matter what. The trick, first, is to KNOW what I want. So I’m going to start there. I’m going to give myself some time and space to go back to those visions that have been there forever, but I’ve pushed away because they seemed too stupid to create, and I’m going to revisit them. I’m going to see them in detail. And then I’m going to write it all down. And by envisioning it, I’m going to be able to create it.
I don’t really know why, but this just reminded me of that song in the 90’s, that goes “get out of my dreams…and into my car.” It’s kind of what’s happening here. That once you dream the dream in specifics, then you’re able to bring it out just from your mind, and manifest it in real life. Like the dream is coming with me in my car, and I get to drive around with my dreams in my passenger seat. Hmmm…incredibly cheesy metaphor, but it also seems appropriate for me since I will be going back out on the road very soon, driving all over the country, hanging out with my dreams.
I know that the Universe provides for us, I’ve seen it happen time and time again. But we must be clear and specific on what we want. That’s where I shall start. Today. What about you?
You been in a slump too? Need some hardcore envisioning as well? Leave me a comment and let’s kick each other’s butts into gear.
Sally! Thank you so much for posting this today. In some ways you’re expressing all of my fears, and I’m loving how you’ve shared how you’ve worked through things. Tomorrow is my last day before starting out on a very similar adventure. The rest of my belongings are going into storage tonight. Phew!
Live your Dreams Girl!! ~ Loralee
WOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!! Look at you go lady!! I’m over here, supporting you and jumping up and down for you in excitement. Keep it going!
Great writing and thoughts on the subject of gloomy thoughts that hinder us from success…… God dont we know them so well…… I like how you said to start with what we really want….. be it a dream or something or somebody…. Ive been barely treading this life almost drowning for the last 7 years it seems but I always stay afloat…. but im sick of just being afloat I really want success and to kick ass again…. gaaaaaaaawwwwwd is just so damn hard to keep my head straight and sights toward the right way…. anyway… I love how you write and am a gigantor fan
Oh Wally. Thank you so much for writing. You know, I’m a huge fan of you. Always have been. I know how talented you are, how interesting you are, and what a trailblazer you are. It’s usually the MOST talented people that have the hardest time with their dreams. Because you can see it, feel it, taste it, know what you want, but then you get destructive in the thought of not being able to have it. And then the cycle repeats. I believe you can create and have everything you want. That even though you’ve been in a slump for a little while, that you can turn it all around. You fucking KILL IT Wally. Get specific in what you want. You’ve created magic time and time again throughout your life. Time for the next phase of it all.
That’s my girl Sally!!!!!!
“The trick, first, is to KNOW what I want… I know that the Universe provides for us, I’ve seen it happen time and time again. But we must be clear and specific on what we want.”
Yes, I couldn’t agree more! The Saboteur has an easier time tearing down dreams that are fuzzy and elusive to us, than it does tearing down the dreams we’ve fleshed out. The better you get to know your dreams and the more clearly you can see your visions, the more often your logical brain (and your dearest friends) chime in the right moments to offer practical advice and the tools to make it happen.
I love your blog! There is so much to be inspired by here.
My god woman you have just written my EXACT thoughts for the last couple of days.
I’ve been an emotional bloody wreck and feeling stupendous amounts of fear and doubt about what the hell I’m doing.
I have spent the last few days doing absolutely nothing but laying on the couch, sobbing at my obvious mental breakdown and trying to figure out what I’m doing.
Today things progressed a bit more in the positive direction and I have two travel opportunities more or less decided!
I’m telling myself that this withdrawl is probably required, that your body and mind somehow needs time to go within before your whole self is ready to move on to the next chapter!
Thanks so much for being an awesome inspiration!!
Sally oh you inspire me so…..gonna start the gym Friday..a new year starts. NOW!!!
YEAH GIRL!!! DO IT!!!! :)
WOW, it’s as if you read my mind. This last week I fell into a major slump and everything spiraled down from there. Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I am inspired once again! You have that effect on me as you do on many! Love ya girlie! X’s and O’s
Hey Little Lady….thank you so much for your support, once again. I’m so glad this spoke to you. And it’s funny when people just happen to all be going through the same things. Like that happens so we can relate and support each other or something. I’m sorry to hear about your spiral, and I absolutely understand how icky it feels to be in the middle of it. We shall talk very very soon. Love sent your way.
Sally my luv! First, I’m so glad I’m not the only one who experiences mental breakdowns by lying on her coach in a vegetative state! I’m so right here with you on all of this. I had such a clear vision for a long time, as you know, but now my vision has changed and it’s all fuzzy again. So trying to get clear… It’s coming in in bits and pieces so I’m practicing clarity patience!
You will be living the Sally good life soon, I know it! :)
Miss Liz…my dear. I think the clarity is the truth, and the fuzziness is just the saboteur, or fear. I think we create fuzziness so that we can talk ourselves out of doing the thing we were going to do, because maybe it’s scary or big or we don’t know how to do it or we’re afraid it’s stupid or won’t work out and we don’t want to try and be embarrassed (or something). But the clarity and the spark you experienced doesn’t lie. That’s the dream and magic mind working. The rational mind is the one that makes it fuzzy. Let’s help each other live in that sparked place, yeah? That’s where the good stuff happens. Love you lady.
And it reminded me of that song that goes ‘Hey, you! Get off of my cloud!’ Ups & downs, highs & lows – my theory has always been that we are ALL a bit bipolar; the MARGINS are just different for some folks. And to color outside the lines, you have to occasionally get out into that space. We all need a little shelter sometimes (or a few days vegetating). It will all come together, Sally, and, trust me, the time to do this IS now. Love you.
Diana…wow thank you so much for that. I absolute agree that we’re all a bit bipolar. HAHAH! I hadn’t really been thinking of it in those terms, but yes! I also love that you used the word “shelter.” It indicates that that space protects us from something and is necessary. What a cool image to see when thinking about taking some downtime to figure things out. Thank you, again, for being here and for all your love sent this way.
Sally! You are so right. Having a vision of where you want to be is the first and to me, the most important step. I’ve experienced something really amazing lately, where I envisioned where I wanted to be, and began taking steps towards it.. But then the universe stepped in and brought it to me in a completely different way! I think sometimes we try to figure out all the steps to make us feel we’re making progress, but really, having that vision, holding onto it, seeing ourself there.. That’s key.
Thanks for this post, and for writing honestly, as you always do..
Wendy…I LOVE this comment and I couldn’t agree more. I read something the other day that said all we need to do is SEE what we want, clearly, in terms of the end result, and then let it go and not be attached to how we get there, because, as you just experienced, it might change along the way. It’s the vision that’s the important part. You’re so right. Thank you so much for all your support here.
Glee, me and the summer of 2010. It was not a pretty picture =)
HAHAHHA! I once watched EIGHT episodes in a row.
First off, YOU ROCK for picking this song ~ I literally use to dance/lipsync my ‘lil teenage butt off to this cheesy ass piece of 80’s wonderment. hehe.
Secondly, I’ve missed your posts and reading this one reminded me all the reasons why.
I’ve been in a little funk – not really a funk – but more of a “I still feel like I have to choose one path over another” place – stuck – unwilling (more like afraid) to turn inspiration into action.
I’m excited to hear what you’re up to and that you’re going back to the drawing board – you’re SO right – amazing things happen when we just envision our dreams. Something good for me to remember.
I know that something amazing and powerful is in store. For us both.
Thanks as always for keepin’ it real & bringing us along on the journey ~ sending you big ass hugs + goodness + love.
Oh girl…do I ever understand where you’re coming from with the “turning inspiration into action” thing. I think it all is fear. What we’re afraid of changes throughout time, but it always seems that the more important something is to us, the harder it is to go for it. And that’s the thing we all just need to get over. It’s so annoying!! HAHAHHAH! For us both, I think the trick is the action part. Because if we allow ourselves too much time to think about it and waffle, we’ll never do any of the things. At least, that’s what I’ve been feeling lately. I’m here sending you a virtual hug my dear. MWAH
Dude, totally! My acupuncturist suggested this Feng Sui (sp?) technique where you have a “hopes & dreams” corner of your house (or space- car perhaps) and you put your dreams in silver box and just let the box fill and fill with your wishes. Then you put photos or images of your “guides” around the space; these are the people who will help you achieve your dreams (grandma, virgin mary, your guru- whoever). You put it into their hands when you put you put it in the box. It sounded like “secreting” to me, which you are a master of! Envision it and secret the hell out of it, woman!
DUDE!! I have a silver box with red velvet lining for this purpose. That shit works! Total secreting.
Sally! so good to hear from you… and to share in your incredible WILD RIDE of the full catastrophe that Life is! One minute going full on into your RV adventures… and now finding your way out of the self imposed madness we alll go through. why the hell is that anyway? Why the hell are those voices so universal? and so destructive? perhaps its sole purpose is so we can rise up like the phoenix out of the ashes and reclaim LIFE and our desire to fully live it. Perhaps it is part of our human story to go through this over and over again over our lifetimes. By the sound of everyone here, something like this is true for us all.
thank you for taking me along for your ride. Your honesty and authentic enthusiasm inspires and continues to feed my flames as I face my own doubts and fears and loss of value as I build by new online biz and entertain the actuality of my first webinar. It makes it all the more sweet to be sharing the whole cycle of this mad mad journey with a community, Sally. Thank you for truly participating and supporting it!! xoxo
I absolutely LOVE the image of the Phoenix rising up. That is EXACTLY how I see it too. It’s like we all have all these crazy life experiences and we get to choose what we do with them. We can let them take over our lives, or we can rise up and do something that helps better the world. We all are choosing the latter and it’s beautiful. I am so happy that your flame is being fanned and I can’t wait to see what comes out of it. I’m here for you lady.
You are so cute with the title of your blog posts :)
HAHA! Thanks dude