February 14th, 2011
Shedding. Coach-ing. List Ditching.
So the day has come. The day of love. Where we celebrate the people and things that matter most to us. Lately I’ve been finding myself infatuated with this amazing guy. He’s sweet, warm, extremely good looking, cuddly, silly, smart, and he protects me and makes me feel safe. I seriously can’t imagine my life without him. He. Completes. Me.
Introducing…The Love of My Life. Coach.
So what does this have to do with relationships? Or business?
Before I got Coach, I was never a dog person. Like I was the kind of “not dog person” that would be annoyed with my friends and their dogs, annoyed with the shedding, the slobbering, the begging, the barking, the in-your-personal-spaceness. And when me and my ex (I will call him Batman for the rest of this post) were moving in together and he was all like “we should totally get a dog!” I was all like, “ehhhh…I don’t know about that.” And this broke Batman’s heart.
So…a couple weeks pass by and I’m at a BBQ and my friend shows up with two great danes. And I was all like “OMG! What ARE those things?!?!” They were amazing. Huge. Stunning. Sweet. Soft. Not sheddy. And I immediately texted Batman and said “Ok…I’m ready for a dog. But it has to be a great dane.”
Of course he thought I was crazy and we spent the next six months or so, researching the breed, babysitting them any chance we could get, searching for great dane rescues, etc. We wanted to make sure we were really ready, and that we knew what we were getting ourselves into. October, my birthday month, rolled around and we decided to get me a Birthday Dog. So we started visiting all our local rescues and I had very specific criteria for how I wanted our hypothetical dog to be and how I wanted to feel when I met him/her. I wanted it to, like, really see us and recognize us as its parents right away, wanted it t be well behaved and somewhat trained, wanted it to want to be around us, and wanted minimal to no shedding.
So we pull up at the rescue and they bring out “Morgan,” a beautiful fawn dane. As soon as he came out, I just knew he was our dog. I just had that feeling. We took him to a field to run around and he showed NOT ONE sign of any of my criteria. He didn’t pay any attention to us, wouldn’t come when called, wouldn’t let us get close to him, and he shed like a MUTHA! But it didn’t matter. He was our dog. So we threw him in the Buick and started driving back home with a bit of panic and a lot of excitement in our hearts. He is the best decision I’ve ever made. He makes me so unbelievably happy.
So in thinking of this, a couple things come to mind. The first one is that no matter how much planning and thinking you do about something, you’re never going to feel “ready.” There is nothing that can ever prepare you to be ready for big changes, big dreams, big dogs. So don’t wait to feel ready before you make the jump to have what you want. Just do it.
The second thing is that in business and relationships, it is so easy to want things to be a certain way, or the way we envisioned it in our head, or we want someone to measure up against some predetermined list we created. And when we lock ourselves into those boundaries, we aren’t open to amazing things happening. If I had been adamant on our hypothetical dog having all the qualities on my list, I never would have found Coach. So it’s not about the list, or things having to be perfect. Sometimes nothing lines up the way you thought it would but it just FEELS right. When it FEELS right, it usually IS right. So go with the feeling and ditch the list.
I’m so happy I did. And as I sit here writing this, Coach is cuddling up next to me, head nuzzled on my chest. He’s just let out a big sigh and stared directly into my eyes. I am feeling so much love. I am so thankful for him and for all the wonderful people in my life.
Happy Valentine’s Day ya’ll. I hope you are giving and receiving love and feeling grateful for the people (furry and otherwise) in your life.
Make sure you leave a comment and tell me about the Loves of Your Life!
P.s. Photo by this cool dude…http://futuregrandpa.com
I so needed this entry today! Go with the feeling an ditch the list. I’ve been “listing” for way too long. Thanks for the reminder! Oh and hey I love your dog! He’s beautiful…we also have a chow-shepherd mix named Morgan! Happy Valentine’s Day!
Hey Teresa…so glad it resonated! I think somewhere along the line as women we were taught to have this list of the perfect everything (guy, wedding, home, career) and I’ve found that it just gets in the way! Yes…it’s important to know what you want, but no…we shouldn’t use that as a means to judge people. And your doggy sounds so cute! I wanna see pics!!
Hey sally, ( its Me Ivy) I agree with Teresa…… Ur blog brought a smile to my face, as You know We finally did it, We finally moved to Henderson, NV & yeah it feels just right. of course things never go as plan & if U keep on writing Ur list instead of doing… well it’ll take longer. Thank You for sharing with Us & yeah Ur dog is super GOOD looking!
YAY Ivy! Congrats. YES…you did exactly what I’m talking about here. You just went for it!
Aww, he’s adorable! When I was living in Austin one of my favorite things to do was to go down to the downtown dog park by the lake and watch the dogs play! I’ve held off on getting one because I’m anticipating extended travel in my near future. But I want one SO BAD! Dogs are great teachers of unconditional love.
YES! Exactly girl. Unconditional love. And if you want one, just go for it. It’ll never be the right time. ;-)
Awe, love this! We went to the shelter to play with the animals and I met my soulmate. He was just a kitten, but he was literally dangling from the top of his cage with big playful eyes. When we took him out he snuggled for a minute before getting feisty. My kind of cat! His name is Mad Max and he’s my snugglebuddy!
And you’re right, we just have to start taking action and a lot of them times things turn out perfectly, yet far from what we envisioned! xo
Awwww…oh my gosh your cat sounds AHHHHMAZING! It’s so true how animals just pick US!
Yay Coach!!! Such a sweetie and so lucky to have you as a mama.
Happy love day ~ wishing you a day filled with sloppy wet kisses!! ;)
A lot of what you said reminds me of having kids too… like, you’re NEVER going to be ready if you wait for things to be “just right”. Same with moving, getting a new job… really any big change… you just gotta jump in head first and believe!
P.S. – Coach has never looked better.
Glamour shots by Deb.
ABSOLUTELY GIRL!!! (hint hint). Hahhahahhaha! But you’re so right. There’s no such thing as “the right time.” You gotta make the time be right and it usually involves tons of courage.
You know what? I never really liked dogs either. I got mine from the pound after the kitty we were going to adopt had to be put down due to feline leukemia. I was heart broken when they told me. We decided to have an other look around. I wanted to find a forever home for some lost soul there, and then we saw him. Pointy ears, quite and attentive to our every move. Just watching us look at cats. I told Ben, “Ben, I really don’t want a dog but we should play with him. Just for a minute.” And that was it. He was ours. He sat in Ben’s lap like it was his thrown. He got down, sat on my lap and gave me a small smooch. We took him home about ten minutes later. He’s house trained and has the absolute warmest heart I’ve met.
Thanks for making me smile Sally.
Katie I LOVE that story!! I don’t how it happens but they just pick us. And then we fall in love in a way we never expected. Then everything is different and amazing! Thanks for sharing and I miss yo ass!
my favorite post yet…so good what youre doing sally.
Hey hey…thank you so much. I SO appreciate you reading.
You know I love this post girl :) Coach is ADORABLE!