November 3rd, 2014
The ONLY Thing You Need To Do To Get Anything You Want In Life
Yesterday, I graduated.
I was on my motorcycle, about to make a left hand turn onto our Main Street in town. The light turned green, I kicked my gear into first, rolled on the throttle, checked for traffic, pointed my head in the direction I wanted to go, and rolled on through. Smooth as can be.
Now, I know this might be sound all that exciting to you. But for the first time that I could remember, I felt confident in that turn. I was like “yeah I got this” and rolled on the throttle as though I was an old pro just doing my thang.
Up to that point, every turn I ever made on my motorcycle was nerve-wracking. I’d have to talk myself up a bit (“you can do this…look, roll on the throttle, go”). I was stiff. A bit wobbly. Trying to remember all the pointers from my motorcycle safety class. I felt like a beginner.
And in that moment, yesterday, I smiled inside my little helmet. And I said to myself “I DID IT!”
I had graduated. From conscious incompetence to conscious competence. And it felt freakin good.
So how did I do it?
I kept getting on that bike and riding. Again and again.
Until my actions became second nature. Until I didn’t have to think about it. Until I didn’t have to say “look, throttle, go” in my head anymore because my bike and I were one. We’d done this many times before together, and now….it was no big deal.
And it’s the same with anything in life that at first feels super hard, scary, and impossible, but is like no big deal after you’ve done it for awhile.
I felt that way with coaching. With yoga. With shooting. With heartbreak, traveling alone, falling in love after said heartbreak. With blogging, being vulnerable, moving to Montana, meditating regularly (ESPECIALLY this one), exercising consistently, and a million other things.
My friends, personal clients, and Wildhearts have all had similar experiences. And I’ve discovered something interesting by watching them and observing my own life.
I’ve been a coach for over 5 years now. I’d guess that that has me coaching probably over about 2000 hours.
And in that time I’ve learned that, really, there is only ONE thing that people care about.
How to get from point A to point B.
Think about it…we ALL want something. We all want Point B. That bigger vision of what we see for ourselves. The shiny dream life we all imagine.
Whether it be a better body, better finances, a relationship, a baby, a new car, enough money to go on that retreat you’ve been eyeing, more freedom. And on and on.
And yet, where the pain and suffering comes in, is that we’re at Point A…and wanting to be somewhere else.
As a coach, I often get asked “HOW?” How do I get what I’m really wanting? What steps do I need to take? How do I get there?
And what I’ve seen is that everyone wants the shortcut. They want the answer that is going to save them and fix whatever Point A problem they’re facing.
And what I’ve actually found is that it is 100% possible to get to Point B, but not the way most people are doing it.
In fact it’s way more simple than you might imagine.
The way you get from Point A to Point B is practice taking action. Every day. (Tweet this!)
That’s it.
We tend to think change needs to be some grandiose thing that happens, that all of a sudden, everything is different now.
But the truth is, change happens when you consistently practice doing and being the thing you want.
About a year ago, I couldn’t get through a five-minute meditation. Now…I meditate at least 30 minutes a day, on top of whatever Kundalini thing I’m doing. And crave more. How did I get there? From doing TONS of five-minute meditations. Over and over again. Every day. Even when I didn’t feel like it.
About a year ago I almost had a heart attack every time I turned a corner on my motorcycle. Now…I roll through the intersection with ease and confidence. How did I get there? I rode the hell out of my motorcycle. Over and over. Even when I felt scared.
Think about the actor Chris Pratt. Mega superstar from the movie Guardians of the Galaxy (and mega hottie). Think he just came up on the scene?? NOPE. He was at it for 15 years before he got his major star status. He showed up for his roles, again and again. (I’m guessing, even when he didn’t feel like it.)
Life is full of stories like this. There’s no such thing as “overnight” success. And yet people want it. They want those six figures businesses, like yesterday, and the book deal after only being in business five minutes.
And the truth is…you CAN reach superstar status, but the way to do it is from practicing. It’s from continuously working on your stuff over and over and over again until it’s at star level.
Your revolutionary life isn’t going to happen overnight. You’re not going to wake up one day and be famous. Or find that one idea that your whole career is going to hinge on.
Your revolutionary life is going to happen because you’ve done the work. You’ve shown up for it every single day, even when you didn’t feel like it. (Tweet this!)
And the good news is that you can start TODAY.
Now, while you’re on that wild ride from Point A to Point B, it’s going to feel daunting. And scary. Like you can’t possibly get on that yoga mat today and start meditating. And that’s ok. It’s all normal.
That’s why you’re going to need support. Because we all know that it’s much, much easier to stay under the covers when we’re scared. You need people who will draw you out and remind you why you started on this road to begin with.
I’ve built an entire community, The Wildheart Revolution, around providing that support. Because I want everyone to live out whatever revolution is calling them (even if it’s just a quiet one!).
Either way, it’s crucial that you find the support and accountability you need to stay consistent and to keep taking action towards your dreams. Every day. Even when you don’t feel like it.
So my challenge for you today is simple (not easy, but simple): what action can you take TODAY, and every day, toward something you want to have, be, or do in your life?
What will you commit to doing repeatedly until it becomes a part of you?
Let me know in the comments below. I’d love to hear what actions you’re taking toward your very own revolutionary life.
Vroom vroom, she says,
Sally
I want to be more present in my life. I always feel like I am thinking of the next thing I have to do and I am missing out on all the little moments that mean so much to my kids and friends and clients. So I am committing to staying in the moment. This is going to take a lot of work but I see what you are saying about how hard any thing is until you get used to it and good at it. And the only way is to practice. Thanks Sally!
My ‘turn a corner on my motorcycle’ event has been taking on the role of an assistant director for an upcoming play. Usually, my comfort is on the stage, or sitting with paper and pen writing – my intuition led me to accept this challenge and last weekend, I took on the director’s ‘job’ in her absence. WOW — I did it!!! and LOVED the creative adrenaline rush that lasted for 3 days! Now to transfer that, or find it so that I can complete a book that has been ‘near completion-ready for publication’ for over a year. I submitted it to the Hay House Contest and when it did not even arrive on the ‘runner up’ list…..I shelved it. I believe in this book – SO thank you for inspiring me! Oh, and my blog is up and running…Crone Contemplations
Kinda doing this way after the post date, but thats ok :)
The things I am taking action on today, and each day, little by little so that I get from Point A to B …
My thing right now is focusing on getting the body I want to have, the body I deserve to have: womanly, strong, and healthy. But I know it wont happen overnight, and there is the added hurdle of a new job that keeps be busy and the social increases of the holidays.
Im used to 4-5 days a week exercise schedule, but for the last couple months that has fallen by the wayside, big time. I was beating myself up over it.
Then I remembered all of the wonderful advice and knew that the answer was ‘baby steps’, make a clear to-do list, and TAKE ACTION, ANY ACTION to get back on track. So for the last couple weeks, 5 days a week, I get up and run 1 mile. Its not the 2 miles and hour weightlifting sessions I was used to, but that one mile everyday will get me somewhere.
For now, I only have to wake up 15 min earlier than usual. I crank it out, even when I dont want to. And after I get used to that, I can wake up 15 min earlier than that and start doing 2 miles and it won’t seem like such a big jump.
I can already feel the difference in my attitude, body, and endurance. YAY!
Lady this is AWESOME! And you are exactly right. The only way to get to two miles is to get to one first. I think most of us forget that step all together and want it all, right now. Nice work girl!