November 3rd, 2014
Yesterday, I graduated.
I was on my motorcycle, about to make a left hand turn onto our Main Street in town. The light turned green, I kicked my gear into first, rolled on the throttle, checked for traffic, pointed my head in the direction I wanted to go, and rolled on through. Smooth as can be.
Now, I know this might be sound all that exciting to you. But for the first time that I could remember, I felt confident in that turn. I was like “yeah I got this” and rolled on the throttle as though I was an old pro just doing my thang.
Up to that point, every turn I ever made on my motorcycle was nerve-wracking. I’d have to talk myself up a bit (“you can do this…look, roll on the throttle, go”). I was stiff. A bit wobbly. Trying to remember all the pointers from my motorcycle safety class. I felt like a beginner.
And in that moment, yesterday, I smiled inside my little helmet. And I said to myself “I DID IT!”
I had graduated. From conscious incompetence to conscious competence. And it felt freakin good.
So how did I do it?
I kept getting on that bike and riding. Again and again.
Until my actions became second nature. Until I didn’t have to think about it. Until I didn’t have to say “look, throttle, go” in my head anymore because my bike and I were one. We’d done this many times before together, and now….it was no big deal.
And it’s the same with anything in life that at first feels super hard, scary, and impossible, but is like no big deal after you’ve done it for awhile.
I felt that way with coaching. With yoga. With shooting. With heartbreak, traveling alone, falling in love after said heartbreak. With blogging, being vulnerable, moving to Montana, meditating regularly (ESPECIALLY this one), exercising consistently, and a million other things.
My friends, personal clients, and Wildhearts have all had similar experiences. And I’ve discovered something interesting by watching them and observing my own life.
I’ve been a coach for over 5 years now. I’d guess that that has me coaching probably over about 2000 hours.
And in that time I’ve learned that, really, there is only ONE thing that people care about.
How to get from point A to point B.
Think about it…we ALL want something. We all want Point B. That bigger vision of what we see for ourselves. The shiny dream life we all imagine.
Whether it be a better body, better finances, a relationship, a baby, a new car, enough money to go on that retreat you’ve been eyeing, more freedom. And on and on.
And yet, where the pain and suffering comes in, is that we’re at Point A…and wanting to be somewhere else.
As a coach, I often get asked “HOW?” How do I get what I’m really wanting? What steps do I need to take? How do I get there?
And what I’ve seen is that everyone wants the shortcut. They want the answer that is going to save them and fix whatever Point A problem they’re facing.
And what I’ve actually found is that it is 100% possible to get to Point B, but not the way most people are doing it.
In fact it’s way more simple than you might imagine.
We tend to think change needs to be some grandiose thing that happens, that all of a sudden, everything is different now.
But the truth is, change happens when you consistently practice doing and being the thing you want.
About a year ago, I couldn’t get through a five-minute meditation. Now…I meditate at least 30 minutes a day, on top of whatever Kundalini thing I’m doing. And crave more. How did I get there? From doing TONS of five-minute meditations. Over and over again. Every day. Even when I didn’t feel like it.
About a year ago I almost had a heart attack every time I turned a corner on my motorcycle. Now…I roll through the intersection with ease and confidence. How did I get there? I rode the hell out of my motorcycle. Over and over. Even when I felt scared.
Think about the actor Chris Pratt. Mega superstar from the movie Guardians of the Galaxy (and mega hottie). Think he just came up on the scene?? NOPE. He was at it for 15 years before he got his major star status. He showed up for his roles, again and again. (I’m guessing, even when he didn’t feel like it.)
Life is full of stories like this. There’s no such thing as “overnight” success. And yet people want it. They want those six figures businesses, like yesterday, and the book deal after only being in business five minutes.
And the truth is…you CAN reach superstar status, but the way to do it is from practicing. It’s from continuously working on your stuff over and over and over again until it’s at star level.
Your revolutionary life isn’t going to happen overnight. You’re not going to wake up one day and be famous. Or find that one idea that your whole career is going to hinge on.
Your revolutionary life is going to happen because you’ve done the work. You’ve shown up for it every single day, even when you didn’t feel like it. (Tweet this!)
And the good news is that you can start TODAY.
Now, while you’re on that wild ride from Point A to Point B, it’s going to feel daunting. And scary. Like you can’t possibly get on that yoga mat today and start meditating. And that’s ok. It’s all normal.
That’s why you’re going to need support. Because we all know that it’s much, much easier to stay under the covers when we’re scared. You need people who will draw you out and remind you why you started on this road to begin with.
I’ve built an entire community, The Wildheart Revolution, around providing that support. Because I want everyone to live out whatever revolution is calling them (even if it’s just a quiet one!).
Either way, it’s crucial that you find the support and accountability you need to stay consistent and to keep taking action towards your dreams. Every day. Even when you don’t feel like it.
So my challenge for you today is simple (not easy, but simple): what action can you take TODAY, and every day, toward something you want to have, be, or do in your life?
What will you commit to doing repeatedly until it becomes a part of you?
Let me know in the comments below. I’d love to hear what actions you’re taking toward your very own revolutionary life.
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