February 12th, 2011
Hair flipping. Karaoke. Taking Risks.
Last night I did karaoke with four virtual strangers. When we arrived at the place, we said some quick hellos and then awkwardly walked down the hallway to get to our private room where a couch, two mics, an electric tambourine (I know!!! I didn’t know that even existed either!), three songbooks, and a flat screen TV were waiting for us. Everyone was kind of shy at first. “Oh no…I can’t sing, I’ve never done this before, I’m tone deaf,” etc etc. So I broke the ice with a little Joan Jett. Rocker stance and all. Hand motions. Hair flipping. The mood started to soften. Joan Jett turned into Bon Jovi and before I knew it, the shy girls were up and Vogue-ing to Madonna and we were all doing gang vocals to “Livin On A Prayer.” And of course, as you know by now, I started thinking about how you could apply this to business. Or relationships. And this is what I came up with…
One…creating a cool vibe and a safe space is SOOO important in order for people to feel comfortable opening up (in both biz and bed). In karaoke, if no one had stepped up to do the first song, make it fun and silly and lighthearted, the vibe would have stayed weird and awkward the whole time. Same in biz…you have to create a space where your clients want to be, in order for them to want to work with you. In relationships…it’s all about vibe. If your partner has a weird vibe, you’re going to feel it and then get weird, and then he’s going to feel it and get weirder, creating a downward spiral of weirdness. In that situation, one of you just needs to step up to lighten the mood and bring to the surface whatever is really going on.
Two…in karaoke, you gotta just let it all go and let it all hang out. You might not be the best singer in the world, you might be afraid you’ll suck (you might actually suck), but who cares? If you just let it go, by the end of the night you’ll be singing Pat Benetar without a care in the world, and feel amazing for having done so. In love, it’s easy to not put yourself out there, tell yourself you’re protecting your heart, but if you want to live a full and rich life, you just have to go for it. Same for business. You have to take risks in order for anything cool to happen. Safety is boring. And it doesn’t make you money. And it won’t grow your business. Things are way more fun when you just throw caution to the wind and belt out Metallica and air-guitar during the solos. That’s how I want to live my life. You??
Anyway, I had fun. My voice is almost gone. And I think I want to go there again, by myself, and practice my moves. It beats sitting on the couch checking my Google analytics all night. ☺
Leave me a comment and tell me some of your favorite Karaoke songs or stories!
ummmmmmmm did anyone tell you that YOU ROCKKKKKKK…
WALLLLLLLLLY!!!! Coming from you, the definition of ROCKSTAR, that means more to me than you know. I fuggin miss you!!!!!!
So you just showed up at the karaoke place all by yourself? I’ve done personal challenges like eating out by myself or going to the movies by myself…but this would definitely be a new one! hahaha
Kelly…HAHHAHA! No. But that woulda been awesome. It was a meetup group that a friend of mine started. So it was me and her and then 4 people we had never met. BUT…I do want to go by myself and practice singing. :-)
Hey Sally Do you know about B-Schooler Natalie Peluso & her Fearless Karaoke Challenge? I have a feeling you might enjoy it!
Ah! I didn’t know about the karaoke challenge but I have a feeling it’ll be right up my alley!!
Your so Awesome…
Shippey!!!!! MISS YOU GUYS!!!
What an interesting meetup! Honestly, I’ve pretty much given up on karaoke. It just isn’t fun for me. Even after several shots I’m terrified, and then the next day in the shower I have singer’s remorse, “oh geesh, did I do that? I bet I looked just like (well, not physically) Cameron Diaz in My Best Friend’s Wedding.” And so I’ve just decided it isn’t worth the stress. I’ve come to the conclusion that usually it is the people that CAN sing that are all, “oh it doesn’t matter…just get up there.”
Then again…after reading your post maybe this is how I live my life? Too afraid to look stupid and need to lighten up? Gave me somethin’ to think about, Sally. Thx.
Hey girl…I totally understand all your points here. And I think you’re right…it’s less about the singing and more about the going for it. I think a huge blocker for people in life is being afraid to be embarrassed or look stupid. Imagine all the things we would try if we weren’t worried about that!!?!
Hey…do me a favor…this week, do at least ONE thing that you’re afraid to do because you think it’ll make you look stupid. Then report back to me. :-) You’re fun.
As always, love your parallels to the bedroom and boardroom. Right! On! Sally!
Thanks boo boo. :-)