February 11th, 2011
Valentine’s Day. Your Business. Tesla.
I’ve been a bad girl. With Valentine’s Day only three days away, I was supposed to be writing this V-Day post and then I accidentally drank too much wine and now I’m tipsy.. Oopsie. But in my tipsiness, I realized that the post I WAS writing wasn’t what I actually wanted to write about. I have a lot to say about Valentine’s Day (like “who gives a FUCK if you’re single…enjoy it anyway and spread love to your family and friends” etc) but I realized that what I’m most interested in right now is how to apply everything to business. Ding.
So here are some similarities between ye ole Day of the V, and Your Biznass.
1) You Want Someone Else to Do it For You
Everyone has been THAT girl. Admit it ladies. Valentine’s Day is rolling around and you want your guy to plan the perfect day. You gather with your girlfriends and talk about what you think your guy is going to do for you. And you forget that V-Day is about celebrating love. The love you have for each other, the love you share. So why is it that HE is always the one having to plan the date (and if he doesn’t get it right, or it’s not special enough…you’re PISSED)? Same with business. It’s feels hard. It’s scary. You feel like you don’t know what you’re doing, so you stay at home, don’t tell people about your business, and yet, still expect clients to come your way. No one is going to do it for you. No one is going to make your business be successful for you. You have to go out, put yourself out there, and create what you want. Same with V-Day. Don’t put all the pressure on him, baby boo. Plan that shiz together.
2) What You Give Is What You Get
Tesla has a great song whose chorus goes “It’s not what you got, it’s what you give” (cue lots of hair tossing, tight pants, and ripping guitar solos). In my opinion Valentine’s Day is all about giving. Giving of love, giving of gifts, giving appreciation for your loved ones and how much they mean to you. If you take this approach of giving as much as you can to the people that matter to you, undoubtedly, you will be getting love and appreciation back. It’s the same with business. The more you give your clients, the more attention, the more care, the more thought, the more emails saying “hey, I’m thinking about you, how are you?” the more they will give you. The longer they will stay your client, the more they will tell their friends about you, the more motivated they will be to work with you. A little bit effort goes a long way. So when in doubt…GIVE GIVE GIVE.
3) Must. Have. Fun
I honestly think that most of the time there is too much pressure surrounding Valentine’s Day. Like it’s the ONE DAY of the year where you’re supposed to prove how much you love someone, or conversely, see how much someone loves you. It feels like the gifts have to be just right, or the plan has to be perfect. And I feel like that takes all the fun out of it. I find the same thing happens in business. We feel like we need to do things a “certain way.” That our website has to be a perfect and our office voicemail message has to sound super legit and professional. And the more we worry about that stuff, the less fun it all becomes. There’s no right or wrong way to do Valentine’s Day OR your Business. Simply, because you’re at the center of them both. Bring your full self to both places, and if you act from there, do what YOU want to do, you will not only be successful but have a shizload of fun in the process.
Bottom line, for the Holiday de Love and your Biz, put your focus on loving others and loving you. And then Spread It (the love…get your mind out of the gutter for crying out loud). Toss it far and wide. Focus on the giving of love and I guarantee that the more you give, the more you’ll get. Cue Tesla.
Those are just a few. Can you think of more?? Leave me a comment and tell me your Valentine’s Day plans, funny stories, or your own ridiculousness surrounding this holiday. Readddddddddy………GO!
Whoa, haven’t heard that song in f-o-r-e-v-e-r!
Great tips, I especially like #2. You get what you give. It’s nice to be reminded of something so simple.
Boring doesn’t sit well with me;-) And I like to surround myself with peeps that inspire me to be myself & keep business fun. Looking forward to your next post…
It Ain’t the Life You Choose, It’s the Life You Live…now I shall continue to be inspired by Tesla!
Hey Melody…so true, right?!?! And Tesla kicks major booty! My band went on tour with them a few years ago and I got so inspired by this song every time they played it.
And girl…I don’t think you could be boring even if you tried!! AHHHHHH!
Happy Friday mama.
I am LOVIN’ your ability to tie relationships, sex and business together! And I love tip #2. You do get what you give and you can’t expect to be showered with love, attention, testimonials, business, etc. if you aren’t making the other party feel appreciated and valued. xo
Awwww…thank you lady! I think I have a three track mind. That’s how I think! :-)
And you’re absolutely right. Gotta make people feel loved and show gratitude first. Then it all comes back to you.
THANK YOU for reminding me about #1. I super love to be spoiled, pampered, and taken care of …it’s about time I co-create (with my biz and my life). Besides, what’s not HOT about being in the drivers seat, all sexy like, right? :)
Seriously love your posts girl. Keep rockin’ it (Tesla style)!!
Sidenote: my fave Tesla song…LOVE SONG (of course)…even learned how to play the opening part in high school…HA!
Dude…EXACTLY!!! Being in the driver’s seat = dirty sexiness hotness. hahha. And I LOVEEEEEE Love Song. When we toured with them, they played it every night and I would sit there and stare. A tear or two was shed.
Sally…you’re brilliant tying in inspirational rock lyrics with business and life coaching!! You have found your niche, lady! Rock on!!!
AND… I have Tesla story!! Went to their concert in Portland Oregon…must have been around 1995ish and my brother’s friend had some connection so we made it to the front row and I got the drumsticks. Ended up backstage later and they all signed them. hee hee
Hey girl! Thank you so much! I figure since I’m always 1) listening to rock music; 2) thinking about business; 3) getting inspired, that I might as well share the love. I’m so happy you’re digging it!! :-) Much more to come.
And I LOVE that Tesla story. Do you still have the drum sticks??
Well, when I moved from Portland to NYC I gave them to my brother. I knew he would take good care of them.
I’ll be eagerly waiting to see what lyrics you choose next to inspire us! I seriously can see you using that as an intro/theme almost every post. :)
That is SUCH a good idea! Maybe I will. (don’t think it’ll get old?)
Nope. I don’t think you have to create any rules and abide by them, but when it comes to lyrics and even styles of music I think the analogies available for teaching purposes are endless. It is your medium, it is part of you. It might even further define your client avatar to those who identify with music more…but then again, most people love music.
Hey, you could even have people put in song requests in order to have you spin some lesson from them. That would be fun and a further play on music …as in a song request from the days of radio. Plus, another opportunity for the audience to be interactive.
Here’s one for ya…Tom Petty’s Refugee…easy tie in to not choosing to play the victim role. Oooh I love this…I’m actually a little jealous that it is your gig and not mine! :)
Girl…YES!!!!!! This is such a great idea and I’m with you on asking people for their “requests.” I was thinking the SAME THING yesterday. We’re so on the same page! I truly believe there is a lesson in everything and oh what fun this could all be. Combining all the things I love! Up first…Refugee.
Wow…we are on a roll! Rock n’ roll. hee hee
Hee hee. Yes girl. Indeed we are.