motivation wildheart revolution
March 17th, 2014
Don’t Hide Your Brown Toothbrush! A Manifesto For Wildhearting. (Plus, Self-Care Rocks.)
The other day, I did something absolutely ridiculous.
I was brushing my teeth with this new amazing toothpaste (well, tooth powder).
I know this doesn’t sound newsworthy yet, but stay with me because there’s a story in here that relates to you, I promise!
So this particular tooth powder is different and unique. 100% natural, and super good for my teeth.
And every time I brush, I feel like I’m doing something really good for my body.
Kind of like yoga for my teeth.
The only thing is that the powder itself literally looks like dirt (and is appropriately named “The Dirt”.
Which would be fine except it also makes my toothbrush look like I swirled it around in mud.
Brown flakes fly everywhere, including my bathroom walls. My sink, after brushing, looks like I washed muddy boots in it.
And the other day, as I finished brushing I looked at my toothbrush, in all its nasty brown glory and I thought to myself…
“I should probably hide my toothbrush and put it in the cabinet in case anyone comes over, goes to the bathroom, looks (closely) at my toothbrush, sees it all brown, and thinks I have nasty brown teeth.”
And immediately after I had that thought, I realized how utterly ridiculous it was.
The truth is:
1) I live alone. And I almost NEVER have people over.
2) I’m proud of being a tooth-brushing yogini!
3) Who cares if these imaginary bathroom-inspecting people DO come over and happen to see my brown toothbrush?
And I wondered…
Why was I so worried about being judged for something I’m really proud of?
(And for something that is very likely not even going to ever happen?)
And the more I thought about it, the more I realized that we ALL do this in so many areas of our lives.
I mean, haven’t you experienced this in your own life?
You decide to do something for yourself. Something that makes you feel good. Something you’re proud of.
It might be starting your own business, or embarking on a year-long travel journey. Or it might be something simple, like leaving little post-it notes around the house to remind you to look at the positive side of life.
For me, it was brushing my teeth with this awesome toothpaste that made me feel all healthy.
And once we start doing these things, we want to back down. We imagine that people won’t approve. Or that they’ll think we’re weird (or have nasty ass brown teeth), or that we’re frivolous or silly for wanting what we want.
And the more we think of things like this, the more likely we are to change our behavior to do what we “should” be doing instead.
For me… it was hiding. Hiding my toothbrush. Not giving anyone the opportunity to judge me.
But what am I doing really by hiding my truth (or truthbrush)?
I was not standing behind my decision. I was turning my back on something I was proud of. I was too afraid to be judged that I wanted it all to just go away.
And this made wonder…
How many times do we stuff down our opinions because we’re afraid people won’t like us if we share them? (Click to tweet that!)
Or we don’t tell people about our dreams because we’re afraid they’ll think we’re silly?
Or we hide who we really are to try to avoid getting rotten tomatoes thrown at us?
But the more time goes by, the more I realize that this isn’t living.
That if we are so afraid to be who we are that we hide, then we’re not doing what we came here to do.
We are WILDHEARTS.
We came to make a difference. We came to create beautiful things. We came to have a voice. To say something. (Click to tweet!)
To be the full expressions of ourselves. To do it differently. To listen to our heart and not be bothered if someone else doesn’t like what we have to say.
We didn’t come here to hide.
And with that, I’m proud to say that my ugly brown toothbrush is proudly displayed on my sink.
There are flakes of brown tooth powder all over my bathroom walls. My sink looks like I washed my feet in it.
And I’m damn proud of it.
After all, this is the Wildheart Revolution.
Where you ponder questions like whether to leave a brown toothbrush out… or when it’s time to end a relationship… or how to leave your mark on the world.
Where you decide FOR YOURSELF how you want your life and your toothbrush to be.
And where we support you, no matter what.
We are the Wildhearts. The peacefully rebellious warriors. And we’re here to help you through your biggest toothbrush issues.
Or hey, if you have something even MORE serious to deal with, we’re here for that too. :)
In fact, this week I’m holding a special call with my friend (and Wildheart) Helen Hunter Mackenzie.
We’re going to talk about how to pave your own path in life instead of listening to all the guru wisdom (Helen and I are both pretty passionate about this topic!).
And because the call isn’t us sharing our own “guru wisdom”, we’re not naming it something market-y or snazzy.
It’s just… a rad, fun phone call. Where we’ll provide:
- Inspiration to go after what you REALLY want instead of what you think you “should” want
- Wisdom from our own experiences WIldhearting our way through life
- Awesome actions you can take right away to start stepping into the life YOU want to live
So, be there Wildheart!
And if you can’t be there, make sure you’re on the list to get notified when the recording is available. (If you already get emails from me, you’re already on the list!)
AND, if you know you want some support pondering your own questions about toothbrushes and careers and love and life…
Stay tuned, because the doors to the Wildheart Revolution (which are currently closed) are about to swing wide open soon!
And I’d love to see you in there. Brown toothbrush and all.
Big ol’ brown toothy grin,
P.S. Here are the details of my rad phone call with Helen Hunter Mackenzie:
When: Friday, March 21 from 5-6 pm PST
P.s. Be the first to know when the doors to the Wildheart Revolution swing open. Put your name in the pretty lil box below. XO.
I think I’ve been brushing with dirt a long time. The place is still pretty messy.
It’s so nice to hear from you and that your smile is getting even brighter. (if that is even possible)
Living the dream is not always what you expect. Like my own living alone. I believe happiness is shared.
Coming closer to understanding yourself sure makes it easier to enjoy the good times (like quietly walking through the woods or down a city street with a loved one) and to make it through the hard times, which usually are just moments that don’t come up to your own preconceived notions of happiness anyway.
I’m glad I’m on your list.
Interesting….that I read your post as I was reflecting on a phone conversation this very morning – an ‘old’ friend spoke with me to voice her concern that I am wasting my time on ‘things like a blog’ when I should just really go get a waitressing job and focus on making money —- I cried and she heard that as my crumbling….no I said; I am celebrating that I am FEELING…..How can people know you for so long and yet….not know you at all? I am excited about my blog and it is not where I want it to be…it looks way too not me but I am working on it….it is my voice. so thank you! from an old wildheart!!!! at Crone Contemplations
I love this! woman, you’ve hit the nail on the head. I’ve been trying to express this within myself and you put it into words perfectly. I love it. Let that toothbrush run free! Thank you for sharing xoxo
I told no one about signing up for B school. Have told only my daughters what I am doing.just could no longer have what’s in my head be drowned by other peoples noise.
So funny that you mention that – because I have a wonderful brown “dirt’ colored herbal toothpowder that I use too, and one time about two years ago I was teaching at a retreat that involved camping and shared group bathrooms. I was brushing my teeth in the bathroom in the morning when another woman came in and totally looked at my brown stained toothbrush and gave me a grossed out look. LOL! Little did she realize my tooth powder was super-healthy and awesome, while she was probably using toothpaste with toxic chemicals in it. Oh well! You just gotta keep doing what you are doing to take care of oneself the best we know how. :)
didn’t realise this was what i was doing but i have totally been doing this. Only a few close friends know everything im doing lately from wildhearts to creative courage and they are all amazing but i havent told anyone wider. I have had this problem with starting a business or choosing a career before. It doesn’t help as a chronic people pleaser. But lately I have been telling more people what im up to and not segmenting my life depending on whether people with accept it or not and its really freeing to be this is me like it or leave it.
Woo-hoo! So glad I ran upon this post in just the nick of time – I’m looking forward to the call tomorrow :) Also, I’m a bit of a “hygiene-junkie,” so I just HAD to order the Happy Mouth Gift Set (one for moi + one for my dentist Momma!).
Later then, WILDHEART!