March 24th, 2014
Have you every felt like no matter what you do…it isn’t the right thing?
Maybe you leave your job to travel the world, which fulfills YOU, but then your family thinks you’re being irresponsible.
Or maybe you break up with you “perfectly-good-on-paper” boyfriend to pursue passion and fire, which excites YOU, but all your friends think you made the wrong choice.
Or perhaps you want to go to your sister’s house to watch Nashville but if you do, your husband is upset that you’re not spending time at home.
And to make matters worse, if you stay home with your husband, then your sister is mad for not spending enough time with her.
It seems that on any given day, no matter what you do, someone isn’t going to be happy about it. (Tweet this!)
I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, as I’m working on several different projects involving a number of people.
All of them, including my own Wildheart Revolution, are groups where the leader is HELL BENT on making a positive difference in the world.
In each of these groups, we teach how to have the businesses and lives that you’ve always dreamed of.
How to bust through the blocks that are preventing you from getting there.
We provide a loving and amazing community that will support you when you’re scared or when you fall.
We are available, present, and WE CARE.
And the funniest thing happens.
People aren’t happy.
Someone doesn’t like the new policy. Someone else is upset that they can’t find the email that explains the new policy, etc etc.
And as the days go by, it’s easy to feel discouraged.
To wonder, “Why the hell am I caring so much? Why am I spending my Saturday evening at 10pm putting out a fire because someone is upset about something in a program that they signed up to be a part of?”
The truth is, though, I can only control MY actions.
And because I care so much, I spend my Saturday evenings putting out those fires.
It matters to me that I give the people in these programs a great experience (to the best of my ability).
I’m reminded of a conversation I had with a mentor of mine, Marie Forleo, where she quoted Joel Osteen:
“25 percent of the people you meet won´t like you and never will; 25 percent won´t like you but could be persuaded to; 25 percent will like you but could be persuaded not to; and 25 percent will like you and stand by you no matter what.”
Or, as Dita Von Teese once said, “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there is still going to be someone who hates peaches.”
This hits home for me.
(Does it for you, too?)
And I think the problem is that most of the time, we cater to the 25% that won’t ever like us.
But the truth is that some people won’t be happy no matter what you do.
Someone won’t like the business you want to start.
Someone won’t like that you want to travel the world.
Someone won’t like that you don’t want to have kids.
Someone won’t like that you want to be a stay at home mom.
But the beauty is that it really doesn’t matter what “someone” thinks. The only person living your life is YOU.
And at the end of the day, “someone” probably will have forgotten about you, and you’re the one who has to live with your decisions. (Tweet this!)
You’re the one who gets to either be proud of the life that you’ve carved out for yourself, or die knowing that you kept trying to get that last 25% to like you.
When I get down about this stuff I keep in mind WHY I do what I do.
I believe in freedom. In connection. In support and community.
I believe in creating spaces and opportunities where people can flourish. Where people have the resources needed to make real, actual changes in their lives.
And most importantly, I believe that change can happen from a spark inside ONE person. (Tweet this!)
And if something I’m a part of helps create that spark, my job is done and I don’t have to worry about the remaining 25% who will never be peach lovers.
And THIS is the Wildheart Revolution.
Where you get to be the perfect peach that you are.
Where you’re free to pursue what’s important to you, no matter who approves of it.
To either find out who that person is. Or to start acting like her.
So tell me, what have you been avoiding because you’re afraid someone won’t like it?
Share it in the comments below if you like, and then DO IT.
And because I know that “DO IT” can be easy to say and harder to implement…
If you need a little support, please know that there’s a whole cool tribe of Wildhearts waiting to help you out.
And that I’m personally committed to providing all the resources I can to help you inside the Wildheart Revolution!
Whether you join us inside the Revolution or not, don’t wait for everyone to approve of you before you do what you really want to do.
And let the apple lovers get what they want at the next orchard over.
P.S. The doors to the Wildheart Revolution (at this RIDIC sale price!) will be open SO DAMN SOON, so scoot on over and check it out if you want to get the kind of coaching, support, and community that will allow you to blossom into the 100% YOU that you really came here to be. I’d love to see you there!
P.p.s If you have something even MORE serious to deal with, we’re here for that too. :)
In fact, this week (Friday, March 28th from 5-6pm Pacific) I’m holding a special call with my friend (and Wildheart) Helen Hunter Mackenzie.
We’re going to talk about how to pave your own path in life instead of listening to all the guru wisdom (Helen and I are both pretty passionate about this topic!).
And because the call isn’t us sharing our own “guru wisdom”, we’re not naming it something market-y or snazzy.
It’s just… a rad, fun phone call. Where we’ll provide:
- Inspiration to go after what you REALLY want instead of what you think you “should” want
- Wisdom from our own experiences WIldhearting our way through life
- Awesome actions you can take right away to start stepping into the life YOU want to live
So, be there Wildheart! Put your name right here to get all of the call details.