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How To Let Go


The grass is finally starting to turn green here in Montana which means that not only is it lawn mowing season (I’ll take that over shoveling any day), but it also means that it’s spring! And so naturally a lot of the collective conversation going on is all about releasing the stagnation in our lives (winter) and birthing ourselves anew (detox) for spring.

And this has me thinking about letting go. Letting go of the things holding us back. The stagnation of winter and life in general.

We tend to think that letting go is something that happens all of a sudden. An act you do once and then your life is different. A line in the sand that you cross and everything on the other side of it miraculously and suddenly disappears. Things you’ve probably held onto for years.

But I’ve found that letting go is not that simple. It’s not an act. It doesn’t just happen once. But rather it’s an intention you set and have to remind yourself of over and over again when you find yourself jumping back over the line to the place where you just were. An intention to the focus not just on the thing you’re letting go of, but also on what you hope to gain for your own life from doing it. And when you focus there…the letting go happens more easily. Or rather, the attachment lessens. This happened for me recently.

I get a daily mantra from my Louise Hay calendar and this one has been helping me a lot lately: “My heart forgives and let’s go. Inner peace is my goal.”

How nice is this? “Inner peace is my goal.”

Because if you look at your life and the things that are weighing heavy on your heart, wouldn’t it be so nice to feel peaceful about them instead? We can’t usually change what happens in our life, but we can strive for peace around it all.

So I’ve been trying this. I say this ANYTIME I start to obsess about things that are hurtful, beyond my control, from my past, and worries about the future.

What I love about it is that I don’t necessarily have to know “how” to forgive or let go, I just have to know I want to and I keep reminding myself of that. And that’s enough and I feel less bothered by all the things on my mind, which is a huge win in my book.

Maybe you’d like to try it too?

So here’s my question to you…

What in your life do you feel you’ve been hanging onto? What is something you’ve wanted or needed to “let go” of? What is one small thing you can do today to intend that you have peace around this?

Write it down on a piece of paper and remind yourself you wrote it and let that be enough.



Ps Here are two ways to take that even further:

  1. Meditate for 3-20 minutes repeating the mantra “my heart forgives and let’s go. Inner peace is my goal”
  2. Google “Brad Yates I can’t let it go!” and do his tapping video. It’s so great!

P.p.s I’ve been working on “letting go” of the ways in which I’m mean to myself and it has been so incredibly helpful. I’ll be sharing more about that soon. Make sure you’re on my list to be the first to know about it. <3

Confusion Doesn’t Exist…and why that’s a good thing

Confusion doesn't exist-

I’m gonna say something, and you might not like it.

You might not like it because it might knock down a wall that you’ve been building for awhile. A wall that you might currently be standing behind. It might make you question when you say certain things, and you might not be able to say them anymore. Which might upset you because you probably say this ALL the time.

Here’s what I want to say: CONFUSION DOESN’T EXIST

Here’s what I mean…

I have been coaching people for over 6 years now, consistently and constantly. I’ve probably talked to thousands of people in this time.

And most of the time, what we are all looking for is CLARITY. Which business avenue to choose, which partner to choose (or unchoose), which house to move into, which job to take or job to leave. Which opt-in to create.

It is the “not knowing” (ie the CONFUSION) on these questions that causes us all so much pain. The pain comes from not knowing. It also comes from imagining making the wrong decision and regretting it later.

Confusion is just your mind’s tricky way of saying “I know something I don’t want to know.” (Click to TWEET THIS)

How many times have you ever had thoughts like this: “Well if I move into this house, what if a better one comes along later?” or “But what if I break up with her and then I realize that she’s the one but she has already moved on?” or “what if I close my business and then decide I want it back again, won’t I look flaky?”

It’s questions like this, fears about the unknown, that keep us in a state of non-decisiveness, and when we’re in that place, we tell people we’re confused.

But the more people I talk to, and the more I live my own life, the more I believe the theory that I came up with years ago, which is that rarely, if ever, is someone confused.

Instead, what happens is that we actually KNOW something. We know the answer, deep down, and often very clearly. We hear it as a whisper. Or we feel it in our body. It’s that little voice inside of us that speaks the truth.  But…we don’t like what it has to say. We don’t like it because what we hear is likely to cause us, or someone else we know and love some pain.

And since we reject and do anything we can to avoid pain, we will do everything we can to avoid having to make a decision that might lead to this pain.

And what better way to do that than to stick ourselves in a constant state of confusion?

There is no better way. Because as long as you stay confused, you don’t have to take action. (Click to TWEET THIS)

You can stay there waffling for a long time.

I believe it’s this place that causes us some of the most pain in our lives. Knowing something deep down, but being too scared to act on it. And then knowing that we know, but doing nothing about it enters us into a shame cycle where we feel bad about ourselves.

And when we feel bad about ourselves, it causes more pain. And we withdraw. And we hide. Which allows us to continue to stay “confused.”

But it doesn’t have to be like this. The more we are aware of what we DO know, they less likely we will be to enter this cycle. And really, it all starts with looking at our emotions and our pain, and seeing what’s there.

What’s underneath your confusion? What truth do you know but you don’t want to know? Are you afraid that leaving your partner will mean you’re alone forever? Do you believe that leaving your business will make you less important or interesting and thus less valuable? Do you believe that if you move to Bali that your family won’t support you?

I can see why, if you believe all of these things to be true of your own truths, why you wouldn’t want to act on them. But this is all very different than being “confused.” This is a different issue all together. This is just fear, and fear we can work with and move through by practicing courage.

So this post is to start the conversation and ask you to examine your own life and see where you might be feeling confused. Have you used that word lately? Where? Examine that and see what is there.

And here are some questions you can ask to do this and ways to get around it:

  1. Where am I currently confused?
  2. What do I KNOW to be true, deep down? (Ie “I know I feel scared about the possibility of knowing something that feels painful” etc)
  3. What am I most afraid of with this truth?
  4. What could be possible for me if I acted on this truth?

And of course I want to hear from you. Are you finding yourself “confused” right now? Are you kinda mad at my post being all like “But Sally…I actually DO feel confused right now…so what do I do with that?”
I want to hear your take on confusion in the comments below. And as always, if you appreciate this article, please “like” and/or “share” it with your friends. Mucho appreciation. 



P.s. I’m doing something NEW!! Soon I will be opening an Online Kundalini Studio with live, streaming, yoga classes. It’s gonna be rad. Promise. Get on this list to make sure you’re in the loop when that goes live.

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When Your View Changes, Your World Changes.

Change your perspective, change your life.

Last night I entered into a new world. And not that it was new in that is was somewhere else. It actually wasn’t. It was actually just 7 miles down the road from where I’ve been for the past year and a half.

But that seven miles might as well have been a complete time warp. Or a bending of reality. Because once I stepped foot on my friend’s 40 acre Homestead, I felt like Alice who had just come out the other side of the portal into Wonderland.

There were things there I hadn’t seen in my world for a year and a half. Magical little people who came out from the little rooms in her straw bale house. Magical keys on the wall to open who-knows-what doors. Feathers everywhere. Nature. Beauty. And five houses on the property, all of which had a story and had been touched by the land and the people that lived on it.

The giant  trees all had swings on them of a different style. We walked to one that overlooked hills beyond the eye could see filled with vineyards and rolling green and amber, jumped on the tree swing and leaned back with my hair flying in the wind.

Her kids, each with a stripe of color in their hair, green and then purple, joined in when we made our prayers for the full moon, wrapping tobacco inside a square of fabric and tying them all together on one string, before throwing them into the fire to release our wishes back into the sky. They made sure to put all the materials back into the box because that’s the box that daddy takes to the fire house when he goes to work as a fireman, and wants to wrap his prayers while he’s there. They talked of their school that backs up to a creek and where they can be barefoot while they learn.

Another woman comes over who is curious, kind, and shares her mission in life, which is to help people connect to their innate wisdom with nature. That wisdom that we all have as children and forget somewhere along the way. She has a school for children that focuses on this.

We ate a fresh salad. Pet their pet horse, pony, goat and llama and walked inside the chicken coop. Walked among the almond trees to the tipi, walked under the apricot trees, and finally, ended by sitting by the fire, talking. Calmly. Sweetly. And with connection.

Being here on this property reminded me of one thing: That it only takes a shift of perspective to change the landscape of your entire view.

Have you ever looked through a kaleidoscope? Where you see one thing as it is until you turn the kaleidoscope ever so slightly and the whole view changes completely?

This is called perspective. It’s the way that we look at things and how the entire landscape of something can change if you shift the way you’re looking at it.

In coaching school, I used to frame this as “what glasses are you looking at your life through, and what happens if you look through a different pair?”

Because how we are looking at things changes the way we see them. (TWEET THIS)

It’s kind of the same idea when you really look at the sky, the same sky that you’ve seen before a million times, and for the first time ever, you really see how blue it is. It’s not that it wasn’t that blue before, it’s just that for whatever reason, you didn’t see it as that way, and now, looking at it through a different lens, or clearer eyes, you can finally see it as it is.

And this got me thinking about reality, and wondering if anything we ever think or feel is really real, or rather if it’s just the lens we happen to be wearing at that particular time, and what would happen to the “reality” if we just put on a different lens.

Because I’ve driven the road where my friend lived before. I had seen similar vineyards before. I have lived in the same place for a year and a half, and never knew that tucked away on a right turn on that street was this wonderland and therefore didn’t know things like that existed here at all. And now that I know it does, it has rocked my reality a bit. Rocked my world a bit. And has shifted the view on my kaleidoscope lens.

So today, I thought it would be fun to look at YOUR life and see where you’re stuck, and see if a shift of perspective, or a change of glasses might change the way you feel about it all.

So in the comments below I would love to hear this from you:

  1. What is one thing you’re currently feeling stuck on right now?
  2. What is your current perspective on this? (how are you currently seeing this?)
  3. What might a different perspective be?
  4. What might be possible for you by looking through this different lens.

Please do share this with me…since Alice likes having friends in Wonderland.
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The 6 Ways To Be A Rockstar (leather pants optional…but recommended)

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I did something last week that I hadn’t done in 8 years.


And when I say I ROCKED, I don’t mean that in the figurative way where I just did something I’m proud of and said “I rocked that”. I mean…I ROCKED in that I got up on stage with white leather fringe, booty shorts and fake eyelashes, and sweat my ass off playing rock n roll songs in front of 200 of my favorite people.

You might be wondering why I’m telling you this. And to be honest, it has taken me a few days to even be able to write about it. There were so many mixed emotions swirling around in my heart and in my mind.

You see…I used to ROCK on a regular basis. All throughout my 20’s that was my job. From the moment I graduated college, until I turned 29, I was a working musician. I toured, I played shows, I lived in Hollywood, I had fancy friends, I got invited to parties where I got to dance with Billy Corgan and go to BBQ’s at Tommy Lee’s house. I got to wear wild outfits and do my hair and makeup on the regular. And not only did I get to do that…it was my job to do that.

And then somewhere along the line, it stopped being fun. My band was road weary. And then our singer quit. Which then ended the band, and ultimately my rockstar days up to that point.

If you’ve ever had a job that was very much tied into your identity, you know the feeling I’m about to describe. The “if I’m not SALLY HOPE THE BASS PLAYER FOR THIS AWESOME ROCK BAND, THEN WHO AM I??” If I don’t have some fancy situation that sounds really cool to tell people about when I talk to them, then what is my value?

My identity had been so tied into that one job that I had, that I hardly knew what to do with myself when all of that went away. I struggled. For a long time, to find my own rockstar self, regardless if I was playing an instrument or not.

And I tucked that side of myself away for a long time because it was painful. I didn’t know how to live with her inside of me but not up on the stage.

And last week, as I was preparing for the upcoming reunion show of my band, I realized some things. That being a rockstar has nothing to do with whether or not you’re playing music, but rather it’s a point of view. It’s an attitude. It’s a decision to live life a certain way.

And the more I thought about this, the more I realized that ALL of those things are exactly what it means to live a Wildheart Life. I might not be up on the stage on the regular. My sequined booty shorts might now live in a box in my garage, only to be pulled out on special occasions. But that doesn’t mean I don’t still rock.

And with that being said, I wanted to share with you all what I discovered about being a rockstar, and how we can ALL do that in our businesses and our lives starting right this second. I didn’t ever really realize how being in a band prepared me for having my own business, but so many of the skills are the same. And I wanted to share them with you today. So let’s do this. Let’s rock n roll.

1) Practice

The only way the Beatles became the Beatles is because they played. A LOT. They started when they were teenagers and never stopped playing. I remember watching a documentary about them and they calculated that they had put in 10,000 hours of actual playing before they got discovered.

The same thing applies in business. You only get to be well known when you consistently do your craft and keep putting yourself out there. You have to play shows to get more shows. Or…you have to keep coaching to get more clients. Or keep creating websites to do more websites.

2) Play to one person as though you’re playing to 10,000

I remember this one show in particular where one of my band members was in a terrible mood. We were used to selling out shows on the Sunset Strip, but when we toured, a lot of people didn’t know about us yet.

This one show, we were about to go out on stage and one of the band members looked to the crowd and there were only like 5 people there. He grumbled and said he didn’t want to put on his full outfit (which at the time was leather pants cut down-to-there and a fur vest with no shirt underneath), and didn’t even feel like playing.

And I told him “you have to give those five people the show of their lives. You have to treat every crowd like it’s the Madison Square Gardens gig of your life. Each person deserves the best that we got.”

And so we did. And all five of those people became fans for life.

It’s not the amount of people in the audience that matters as much as the amount of fire in your fight. (Tweet This!)

At first, not a lot of people will care what you’re up to, but that doesn’t mean you should give them half of what you got.

3) Leave it all on the stage

This one is a derivative of an old sport’s saying, which is to leave everything on the field. And what this means is that in order to “WIN” you must play with everything you got, all the time.

Last week when I was up on that stage, it was nerve wracking at first. I was out of practice. My body hadn’t moved like that in over 8 years. My fingers weren’t as agile on that bass as they once were. My balance on my platform boots wasn’t as steady.

But you know what I did? I played with everything I had. I swung my bass like I was a teenager. I threw my hair around and my head back like I hadn’t skipped a beat.

Was I sore the next day? HELL YES. But was it worth it? Totally. Why? Because you have to play every show like it’s your last. Same with business. Don’t save up your “best” for when you’re famous or “where you want to be.” Give us your best all the time.

No person became “famous” or rich by doing anything half-assed. If you want true success, always use your full ass when putting yourself out there. (Tweet This!)


4) Keep singing even when no one is listening

I hear this a lot in the business (and music) world…”I don’t feel like writing a blog post because no one cares anyway. No one reads it or comments on it, so what’s the point?”

This makes sense right? WRONG.

Here’s the thing. In the beginning, people don’t care. That’s just the truth. And why don’t they care? Because you haven’t made them care yet.

Do you think that Motley Crue just became the biggest rock n roll band on the planet because they played one song for their mom once and then waited for the crowd to follow them? No way. Do you think they stopped playing after that one show where only two people showed up? Nope. They became the biggest rock n roll band because they played every show they could get their hands on for years until people paid attention.

They played, the refined, they played some more. One of my favorite stories in the Motley Crue book, “The Dirt” was about the first show where they decided to make it theatrical. They bought some fancy lights, and had their buddy set them up. They got a smoke machine. And Tommy Lee, their drummer built this cool apparatus for his drums.

This set them apart. They became “not just another band.”

And this is true in business as well. You have to keep playing, keep coaching, keep creating, keep finding your own thing, even when no one is listening. The more you do this, the more people listen.

In order to be a rockstar, you have to act like a rockstar, all the time, even when no one is looking. (Tweet This!)

5) Be willing to flyer

This is one of my favorites because here’s the thing…everyone wants to be on that stage, everyone wants the mega success they see other’s have, and everyone wants to reach their goals. But the truth is that not everyone is willing to do what it takes to get there.

Back in the day, before internet was so accessible, bands had to literally flyer in order to get the word out about their show. And this meant that you had to create a graphic, get it all printed out, and go around to stores and venues and talk to people and ask them to come to your show. You had to hand them your flier. You had to staple gun it up to telephone posts.

And was it embarrassing at times to sell yourself in that way? Totally. But you know what? That’s what it takes to get people in the door. You have to be willing to put yourself out there, risk embarrassment or someone saying “your band/product/service looks stupid” in order for you to get anywhere.

You have to believe in yourself and in your product enough to ask people to come to the show before anyone ever will. And you have to be willing to flier.

6) Enjoy the hell out of the moment

It’s easy to want to be on the other side of the hill. To imagine how big you want to be or how successful you want to become. And when we do this, it’s hard to enjoy the show you’re currently playing.

There is nothing better than that first chord you play at a rock n roll show. Where the curtain lifts, and the crowd is anxiously awaiting your show. But if you’re too wrapped up in the next show, you can’t enjoy what’s here now.

The other day, when I was up on that stage, I looked out to each and every face in the crowd. I was so grateful. So excited. So happy that they all showed up. I didn’t know whether or not this would be the last time I ever played, but I enjoyed it like it was.

We are all in such a hurry to get to the next step that we forget that the one we’re already on is pretty cool and all part of the journey to our own rockstar lives. So enjoy it. The best you can. While you’re here.

And that’s all I got for you. And remember, you can be a rockstar at any stage of your life, no matter what you’re doing. My 35 year old rockstar self looks very different than my 25 year old one, but the thing that remains is the dedication to strive for the best ME possible.

And with that being said, I wanna hear how YOU rock. What is something you’re proud of right now? What does your rockstar self look like? Make sure you leave yours in the comments below and if you like this article make sure you “like” it and share it with your friends.



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How To Be A Fearless Badass (in four easy steps)

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There is a lot of talk in the personal development world about FEAR. And for good cause. Our fears are the things that stop us from everything we truly want in our lives.

But there’s a conversation around fear in this world that I just don’t like and it goes a little something like this:




In the beginning of my own personal journey, these types of phrases resonated with me. Mostly because I actually felt angry that my fears seemed to have this crazy hold on me where I couldn’t seem to get through them.

But the more time that goes by, I’ve learned that there are WAY more effective ways to handle my fears, so I can truly be and create that which I’m meant to in this world. And I wanted to share those with you today.

Here’s my recipe for being a Fearless Badass:

1) Stop Trying To Be Fearless

I hate to break it to you (actually I love more than anything to break it to you) but there is no such thing as being fearless. There is no person on the planet who doesn’t experience fear.

But rather, the thing you THINK is fear, is actually courage.

And courage is taking action despite the fact that you’re afraid. (Tweet this)

So the point here is to stop striving to not have fears, and rather start striving to be courageous. You can do this by following the advice below.

2) Decide To Take Action In The Face Of Your Fears

This is truly, the way through a fear. I have heard many people say “clarity come through action, not thought,” or “the only way to it is through it.” And it couldn’t be more true here.

So much of the time we imagine that we can THINK or FEEL ourselves out of being afraid, but unfortunately that just isn’t the case. Think about it…the system that got our fears there in the first place can’t be the same system that removes the fear, so there has to be another way.

And that way is action. What’s the best way to get rid of the fear of flying? Get on an airplane. The best way to get rid of the fear that you’ll get hurt again in love? Try loving again.

To me…this is the most badass thing a person can do. Try something even though they’re afraid.

I’ve been afraid every single step along my journey from when I joined a rock band, to when I quit the band to become a life coach, to moving to Costa Rica, or getting in an RV. But without the action…I never would have had any of those experiences.

The only way to it is through it. (TWEET THIS)

3) Get To Know Your Fears

This is one of my favorite ones and is also the complete opposite of those phrases from above (“CRUSH YOUR FEARS!”). When we’re in pain (i.e. experiencing fear) the first thing we want to do is push away that feeling.

But in pushing away our emotions, you’re actually resisting them. And what you resist persists. So…in trying to push away your fears (or CRUSH them or telling them to F OFF!) you’re actually creating more fear.

So instead, what you can do, is PAY ATTENTION. Start to notice when your fears pop up, what triggers them, what happens in your body when they show up, and what decisions you’re inclined to make when the fear is present.

When you do this, you’re raising your awareness around your fears so they don’t have so much power over you, and when this happens, you can make decisions from a very conscious place.

4) Take Small Steps

Most of the time, when people are really scared, it’s because what their heart truly desires is something that is so far beyond their comfort zone that it gives them a panic attack just thinking about it.

But yet…there’s something inside of them that says “YES. DO THIS.” But yet when you’re standing at the edge of that cliff, getting ready to jump 100 feet, you realize that you have never even jumped 10 feet.

The “height difference” in your reality to your dream is perhaps too big. So my suggestion here is to start small.

If you’ve always dreamed of taking a solo trip to Bali, but the magnitude of it makes you want to vomit, start smaller. Start by taking a solo trip to the next town over, or the next state over.

Once you get your bearings on smaller trips, you will feel more comfortable taking the big leap. And before you know it, you’ll be bronzing by the beach in Bali (can I come??) :)

Well there you have it! The four best ways to be a fearless badass. Are you surprised?

To me, being a badass (and being a Wildheart) is all about being real. Real with who you are, real with what you’re feeling, and really willing to try different things.

No matter what you try in life, you will always be afraid of something. But you don’t need to let it stop you from having the things you truly want.

And so here’s me taking a stand for YOU. That you get to have what you want. That you don’t have to let your fears stop you anymore. Will you stand with me? If so I would love to hear about it.

In the comments below, tell me the fear that you are (bravely) willing to walk through to have the life you want.

I’ll go first: “I, Sally, COMMIT to building Wildheart to the vision that I see in my brain, even though I have no clue how it’s going to happen and I’m afraid that it won’t work out and I would have spent all this time and energy on it for nothing.” Whoa. Yeah. That.

Now you go. What do you want to stand up for? I can’t wait to hear about it in the comments below.

Your (totally fearful but courageous) leader,


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