How To Let Go


The grass is finally starting to turn green here in Montana which means that not only is it lawn mowing season (I’ll take that over shoveling any day), but it also means that it’s spring! And so naturally a lot of the collective conversation going on is all about releasing the stagnation in our lives (winter) and birthing ourselves anew (detox) for spring.

And this has me thinking about letting go. Letting go of the things holding us back. The stagnation of winter and life in general.

We tend to think that letting go is something that happens all of a sudden. An act you do once and then your life is different. A line in the sand that you cross and everything on the other side of it miraculously and suddenly disappears. Things you’ve probably held onto for years.

But I’ve found that letting go is not that simple. It’s not an act. It doesn’t just happen once. But rather it’s an intention you set and have to remind yourself of over and over again when you find yourself jumping back over the line to the place where you just were. An intention to the focus not just on the thing you’re letting go of, but also on what you hope to gain for your own life from doing it. And when you focus there…the letting go happens more easily. Or rather, the attachment lessens. This happened for me recently.

I get a daily mantra from my Louise Hay calendar and this one has been helping me a lot lately: “My heart forgives and let’s go. Inner peace is my goal.”

How nice is this? “Inner peace is my goal.”

Because if you look at your life and the things that are weighing heavy on your heart, wouldn’t it be so nice to feel peaceful about them instead? We can’t usually change what happens in our life, but we can strive for peace around it all.

So I’ve been trying this. I say this ANYTIME I start to obsess about things that are hurtful, beyond my control, from my past, and worries about the future.

What I love about it is that I don’t necessarily have to know “how” to forgive or let go, I just have to know I want to and I keep reminding myself of that. And that’s enough and I feel less bothered by all the things on my mind, which is a huge win in my book.

Maybe you’d like to try it too?

So here’s my question to you…

What in your life do you feel you’ve been hanging onto? What is something you’ve wanted or needed to “let go” of? What is one small thing you can do today to intend that you have peace around this?

Write it down on a piece of paper and remind yourself you wrote it and let that be enough.



Ps Here are two ways to take that even further:

  1. Meditate for 3-20 minutes repeating the mantra “my heart forgives and let’s go. Inner peace is my goal”
  2. Google “Brad Yates I can’t let it go!” and do his tapping video. It’s so great!

P.p.s I’ve been working on “letting go” of the ways in which I’m mean to myself and it has been so incredibly helpful. I’ll be sharing more about that soon. Make sure you’re on my list to be the first to know about it. <3