The other day, something so unbelievable happened, that I still don’t really know what to think about it.
I was given a free, 1983 Honda Nighthawk motorcycle, in mint condition from a complete stranger, essentially just for walking down the street at exactly the right moment.
This also happened to be pretty much the exact motorcycle I had been googling and wanting for months prior. And it happened two days after I said to myself “I really wish I had another bike so my friends could ride with me and I don’t have to ride alone all the time.”
The story on how it happened is a bit long (watch the video below for the full recap) but here’s the gist…
I was walking down the street with my helmet in hand, going towards my bike. An older gentlemen was walking the opposite direction with a helmet in his hand. Our eyes met and we smiled at each other (in the “you’re in the club nod” kinda way).
We struck up a conversation. He showed me his bike and told me the story of the 70 year old woman who gave it to him because she already had too many bikes and asked him to find a good home for her baby. She had ridden over 77,000 on the bike and was the original owner.
He asked me if I wanted to take it for a spin. I did. Came back after doing so and gave him the keys back and said “thanks! That was awesome!”
About two hours later he called me and asked if I wanted to have the bike. About an hour after that, I was riding home on my brand new bike.
Here’s the full story.
He texted me later and told me to: “become aware of what you did or thought that created today for you, and do more of that.”
And that’s what I spent the rest of the day doing.
Now…this, in and of itself is pretty incredible. But what happened before and after are the most notable things about it.
To me, this situation was a divine message. It was way too magical to just be a coincidence.
And as I was thinking of this, so many things popped into my mind as to what might have created this. And I’d love to share it all with you.
Here’s my “How-To” Guide on Getting Free Stuff
1) Know that you are worthy of great things
After a very tough six months, including an even more tough summer, I was starting to feel like I would never get out of the hole I was in. I felt scared, alone, undeserving, unlovable. I felt hopeless. And I worried that I’d stay in that place forever.
Through a ton of reflection and meditation, I realized that a lot of these emotions stemmed from the general feeling of unworthiness. That I didn’t think I deserved to have the kind of relationship and life I truly wanted. That I wasn’t worth being loved in the way I imagined for myself.
So, about a month prior to receiving the bike, I had been repeating the mantra “I am worthy” to myself anytime I felt my thoughts wander to the other, more harmful places. I didn’t know if it was “working” or not (and I wasn’t even focusing on what “working” meant), I just knew that that thought felt much better to me than “I am unlovable and will be alone forever.”
2. Work on your ability to RECEIVE
I’m the type of person that doesn’t like to be out of control, and who doesn’t love reaching out for help. I’m also the type of person that feels like I always need to “even the score.” That if someone does something nice for me, I must make sure I do something equally nice for them to “repay” the nice deed they did. And it comes from a place of “pay back” instead of pure joy of giving.
AND…if I don’t think I can’t repay them, I end up feeling horribly guilty.
You might be thinking… “yeah, that makes sense, you totally SHOULD do nice things for people if they do nice things for you” but if you look closer, it’s another form of not feeling worthy, and it’s not entirely true.
If someone wants to do something nice for me it is OK FOR ME TO RECEIVE IT, and say thank you, and leave it at that. (Click to tweet that)
It doesn’t always have to have the energy around it that I must “pay it back,” or even “pay it forward,” as if the nice things I do on a daily basis aren’t enough to deserve beautiful things in my life. This is how some girls get in trouble doing things they don’t want to do. Like “well he paid for my dinner so I should go home with him to pay him back” or any other variation of that concept.
It’s a problem. And it is a worthiness problem.
If we felt worthy, we’d be able to receive gifts, knowing that we deserve the beauty that is coming our way. We would do nice things for people because it feels good and not because we feel like we have to.
3. Be grateful for what you already have
Ok this one tends to be tricky for people to understand. And it was for me the first time I heard it. But the idea is that in order to get things you want, you need to be grateful of the things you already have.
This is all about the idea that what you put out there, is what you get back. If you’re constantly putting out there that you DON’T HAVE all this stuff that you want, then you’re going to keep finding instances where this is true.
But if you change the conversation to “I am so grateful for all this amazing stuff in my life” you are putting it out there that you HAVE. And that brings in more havingness.
About one to two months before I got this bike, I included a gratitude practice into my daily journaling. AND, I resurrected something I used to do, which was put a weekly gratitude post out to my community. I would say anything from “I’m grateful for my good hair today” to “I’m grateful to have such a loving and supportive family.” Literally anything I could think of.
One month later, I received this bike.
4. Surrender and trust that the universe has your back
This concept is not an easy one for me but it’s one I had been working on all summer. We humans tend to think we have a ton of control in our lives. And so we try to exercise that control on the regular. We micromanage every little detail of our lives, and that often comes in the form of worrying.
Worrying that we don’t have enough money, or enough love, or enough everything. And so we think those types of thoughts all day long. “I’ll never have what I want,” “I’ll always be alone,” etc. And then we go into panic mode.
And try to “fix” or control whatever thing we feel like we’re lacking. But simply trying to “fix” it is denying the fact that we’re exactly where we need to be and it’s simply a shift in perspective and thoughts that can make the change we’re hoping to see.
About two months before I got the bike, I began to say to myself “my best life is already selected for me and I’m being guided in the exact right direction to receive it.”
I did the very best I could to LET GO of what I was hanging onto. A relationship that wasn’t working and a person that didn’t want it to. And the idea that there was something I could do to change that.
I literally said out loud “Ok Uni…I surrender to you. GUIDE ME.”
It was like I had hit rock bottom. Literally on the floor. Having nowhere else to go and nothing else to do other than let it all go.
And I really needed a sign that things were good in the world. And that I was going to be ok. And I asked for it. And less than a month later I received this amazing act of kindness from a stranger. And rode of into the
So here’s the thing. I’m not saying that there is some kind of formula that will bring free and amazing gifts into your life.
But I AM saying that it is absolutely possible to create what you want. And it’s an inside job. (click to tweet this)
I tell my Wildheart’s all the time that what I’ve found to be the way to change is by trying a million different things (throw spaghetti at the wall, if you know that reference), and see what sticks.
I’m not sure exactly which thing brought this good fortune into my life, but I believe it was a combination of all of them. And mostly, the shift of energy in my life.
We talk about this stuff on the regular in the Wildheart Private Community. It’s what we do. Help each other to make more magic. Check it out. Join us. I dare you.
Have you had similar experiences to this one? Have you made magic in your life simply by having different thoughts? I would love to hear about it. Please share your story in the comments below.