love & relationships wildheart revolution
October 27th, 2013
Love Is Not What You Think It Is
The other night, I looked at my phone at midnight and was sad that no one texted me right at that moment.
Generally, I don’t expect texts at midnight, but it was my birthday. And probably the first year I could remember that someone didn’t call or text right at the turn of the hour.
And as I was thinking about this, I had a flash of lots of different emotions. Of course in there for a second was the one of “I’m still single, and I’m just getting older,” or “I can’t believe so and so didn’t text me…I always text them” etc.
And as I sat there in my bed, as the clock struck the hour of my official birthday, I realized how absolutely, ridiculous I was being.
I had just had a night filled with love and friendship and help and support. Two of my best girls came over to help me paint my apartment. And stayed with me ALL night. My phone was blowing up with texts from loved ones (old and new) that I was SUPER EXCITED to hear from.
The same girls planned a birthday day and dinner for me on my actual birthday.
Upon waking, I’d be on my way to brunch with another best girl in my life, who would show up with flowers. I’d be skeet shooting in the afternoon, and laughing at dinner at night.
My Facebook and Instagram were blowing up with birthday wishes and love and friends and warmth. More than I could even handle without totally crying in appreciation.
So how on Earth was it that I was so focused on not getting a call at midnight?
Because, for that split second, I had forgotten what love was all about.
We often associate love with “being in a relationship.” And if you don’t have that…well…you’re shit out of luck in the love department, no matter how many other wonderful things are happening.
And the more time that goes by, the more I know that’s complete and utter horse-shit.
We have an inflated and romanticized version of what love is.
We think that nothing matters in life until we have that one magical relationship that is going to make all our problems go away.
We fantasize about marriage and “the one” that we completely forget what it takes to actually work love. To BE love.
We forget that it’s in the phone call from your friend gives you when she knows you need it. It’s your favorite tea. It’s a sunny day and a hug from your mom.
It’s brunch on your birthday. It’s your lover coming with you to your best friend’s birthday party. And continuing to be there for you when (you) and things get ugly.
And overall, love is about being with people on their journeys and supporting their best selves.
It’s a choice to keep loving, keep supporting, no matter how many times things change in yours or their lives.
It’s support. It’s encouragement. It’s a warm hug. Or a warm meal.
And this is the Wildheart Revolution.
It’s not a flash in the pan lust filled night. It’s not just some relationship.
It’s the long haul of love.
It’s me and your fellow Wildhearts being there with you along your journey (virutally) helping you paint your apartment and planning your birthday brunch.
Teaching you business skills and reading your tarot and discussing fun topics.
It’s us celebrating your wins, and hugging through your losses. And it’s ongoing. It doesn’t just stop at a certain point. It’s there as long as you want to be a member.
As long as you work it, it works for you.
My birthday was filled with love, but honestly, the amount of people that celebrated with me in person were just a few. Because that’s how I roll.
I value close deep connections with people I really love as opposed to a big blowout party with tons of people.
And this got me thinking of Wildheart. Part of what is so beautiful is that the people in there all know each other’s stories. It’s a close knit community. And I want to keep it that way, at least for now.
I used to want a billion people in there, but I’ve realized that it’s about closeness and connection…not numbers. It’s about quality. Not quantity.
So I’ve closed Wildheart for now. And I’m opening it up again VERY soon, but only for 25 of the most dynamic, loving, (peaceful) rebels on the planet.
For those of you who CRAVE closeness. Learning. Growth. Honesty. And a place where you can leave your old self at the door and the person you truly know you are, this group is for you.
It’s a carefully curated online space. Just as my birthday party was.
So I wanted to ask you…do you want to come to my birthday party?
Do you want to be involved in the coolest, most fun, most supportive, most loving, most informative, most dynamic group on the internet?
Do you want to be a part of the Wildheart Revolution?
Do you want to be able to say…“YES…I am a WILDHEART and I’m damn proud of it?”
Do you want to experience something that’s never quite been done before? Be a part of a movement on the ground level?
If your answer to any of these questions is yes…GET ON THE LIST right now.
I really don’t know when I’ll be opening it up again or if the price will remain so affordable, so make sure you get on the list now to secure your spot.
Are you on the fence? Not sure if this is the right fit for you? No problem. I will be holding free 20 minute calls THIS WEEK ONLY to answer any questions you might have.
Like I said…this group is carefully curated. I want people in there that are a good fit, so let’s hop on the phone and see if that’s you. If you want a free call…sign up for your 20 minute spot between the dates of the 29th-1st via THIS LINK RIGHT HERE.
That’s it, Wildheart. I look forward to hearing from you. And looking forward to celebratory your one WILD LIFE with you.
Beautifully said. Beautifully felt. Love IS and always WILL BE all around us. Wildheart epitomizes that for sure.
And if I did not say it already in a voice note sent via text message (haha) …
HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO THE FAIREST OF FAIR SALLY’S IN ALL OF THE LAND OF WILDHEARTS!
P.S. SEE YOU IN 14 HOURS!
Absolutely true Sally,
It’s not about the “show” of love, gifts, texts, facebook updates… it’s about the act of love. Anyone who tells you otherwise probably works for debeers or hallmark ;)
OH Darn sweet women I forgot to call you on your birthday, hunting camp is a huge distraction at this time. It was so good to see you the other night and share ideas with string and nails. Remember you are blessed and highly favored. Much love Jodi
I love you Sally, and once again you touch on a subject that I’m currently working on. Loving myself to the fullest and not micromanaging love. To be love is the essence of spirituality and accepting what is for me is love.
Sending love from afar
Happy belated birthday!!