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From abusive boyfriend to beach cottage…how she did it

In my last message I talked about your dreams, and why they’re important (and not that hard to get…no matter what they are), and today I wanted to share a story about someone else’s dreams…a girl who took my last 40 Day Meditation Challenge .

It’s a bit long (but SO worth the read) so, if you don’t want to read the whole thing know this: She went from an abusive relationship in a town and job she hated, to living in her dream beach town, opening up her own extremely successful and sought after business, and dating an amazing man. All within 6 months of doing this meditation. Registration closes in less than a week. Hope to see you in there!

Now…onto Julie’s story…

“Almost a year ago, I participated in Sally’s Kundalini meditation program. At the time, I had recently left a long-term (7+ years) domestic relationship that was very abusive, moved to another state with hardly any of my belongings, no where to live, and no car. I was able to transfer with my job, but it was a new location, new people and everything was different.

I was renting a small, furnished guest cottage (for 3x the rent I was paying in Utah and making less money). The few things I had (mostly clothes) were spread out between a friend’s storage unit, my brother’s’ garage and a tiny closet. I was stressed about money, about where I was going to live, about the new job, about my break-up. I was extremely heartbroken and anxiety-ridden.

I bought a used car and within a couple weeks it completely stopped working and I just had to cut my financial losses. Everyday was hard just to get myself to work and have food in the fridge. I had to Uber or walk everywhere… and it was the rainy season. I think the hardest part was that I craved any sort of comfort but there was NO familiarity. Every thing in my life was changing and it was hard. At times I just wanted to sleep in my own bed or curl up in my ex-boyfriend’s arms or just eat soup out of my favorite bowl but I couldn’t have any comfort. I was drinking too much too… that’s pretty much all I could do to get out of my head.

When Sally first told me about the course, I thought there was no way I was up for any kind of challenge or extra time obligation. I was was consistently late for work already and the hours were long and sporadic. After work (and this was a pushy, stressful sales-job where I didn’t exactly fit in) I just wanted to go “home” and drink wine so I could get through the rest of the evening and sleep and do it all over again. My mornings were hectic and I couldn’t imagine having the time to sit and meditate (or even wash my hair for that matter).

I don’t remember exactly what it was that made me join, but WOW!! This mediation SAVED ME!

Let me just skip forward real quick here, so you know what I mean and then I can explain more about why I loved Sally’s program and why I think it worked for me, and will for you. Now, less than one year later, I live in my dream little cottage in Santa Barbara, I quit my job in April and opened my own awesome clothing boutique in the hottest district in town (near the beach). I’m making way more money and have been featured in 6 publications (without even doing any marketing yet). I am creating every day. I am dating an awesome man and have been traveling a little when I can. My health is excellent. I run almost everyday and do pilates and workout with a personal trainer. I have reconnected with so many friends and I feel happy and dynamic and supported and loved.

The changes I have gone through this year have been incredible. I truly think Sally’s program was the catalyst. I had never really meditated before, but here is what I found: I looked forward to it everyday. It cleared my crazy head. I was able to relax and see things more calmly and clearly and it was exciting to me to visualize the way I wanted my life to be, instead of focusing on the stress that it was.

One of my favorite parts was “taking out the trash” of my mind. I was no longer frazzled when I was getting ready for work. I was actually able to show up on time, looking and feeling good and prepared for my day. I felt a calm confidence that I just had to do what I had to do and worrying about everything else was a waste of time. It became clear to me that if I lived in the present moment and did the best I could right now, it would pave the way for the life that I know is mine. And things started to shift.

It’s easy to get caught up in fear and also to be paralyzed by past events. From my experience, if you can get that stuff out of your head, you can focus on the present and do good things. Meditation is key. Meditation, to me, is getting that crap out of your head and making room for all the good stuff.

I know this is a long testimonial, but I am beyond grateful for Sally’s assistance and direction with this and I obviously think it would help anyone in any situation. It’s a great tool to learn. Another thing that’s very cool, is now, when I get stressed or overwhelmed or unsure, I know that I can choose to quiet my mind and re-direct my focus through mediation.

If you, like me, are concerned about time, I promise you’ll end up having more time to get things done because you won’t be running around all frazzled and disorganized.

I have also read so many articles about very successful people (and believe me, they are way busier than you and I) and one thing many of them have in common is they get up early and meditate.

I love you Sally!!!!! <3 <3 <3”

Reading Julie’s testimonial legit made me cry. Her story is so beautiful and her story is ALL of our stories. None of us have the time. All of us are going through something hard. Most of us don’t know how to get out of the hole we’re in that seems way too deep.

And what I’ve found for myself and hundreds of others who have gone through meditations with me, is sometimes, just committing to yourself that you want change to happen, changes everything.

Doors close in less than a week. Click here to get more info and to join us. Reply to this email if you have any questions at all and I can’t wait to read your success story. :)

Best,

Sally

I’m not mad at mimosas, but this is ridiculous

In my last email we talked about burning it all down so you can rise from the ashes as the person you’ve always wanted to be…the person you were meant to be before the traumas of life made you someone else. And this week I was thinking about the aftermath of that. What happens after the fire?

Once you walk down that path, things in life start to line up to corroborate that decision. Friendships dissolve or they change, and lifelong beliefs about yourself and your life can start to disappear, which is my favorite part of change. The time is now.

I’ve always been an intense and complex person. I feel things deeply. I tend to find myself in situations that are on really extreme sides of the spectrum, no matter what I do in my life. Extreme highs and extreme lows. I’d like to blame this on my Scorpio-ness. :)

But I’ve learned in my life to view these things about myself as “too much.” That my darkness as well as my brightest light is hard for people to handle. And so I dimmed them both to create a more middle ground that folks are more comfortable with. But this makes me feel alone. And not seen. And it doesn’t allow anyone to really know me.

I’m imagining you have your own version of this. You might not do the extreme Scorpio thing, but I imagine that you’ve learned that however you are, how you naturally do things, how you naturally want to respond to situations isn’t enough or it isn’t right.

You’ve probably had partners or friends reflect this back to you. Where you leave feeling not enough. You learn that the way you do things is wrong. And so you try to change to please these either real or imagined people who you see as judging you. And you get dim too. And your creativity fades. And your “cosmic twinkle” (as my pediatrician dad used to call that spark that you’re born with) disappears.

When people talk about self-love, they usually talk about it in terms of “putting yourself first” and “self-care” like taking more time for yourself via bubble baths a mimosas with the girls, and while I’m a fan of all of those things, the way it’s usually talked about doesn’t have enough depth for me.

The way I see self-love is about getting your cosmic twinkle back. About knowing who you are deep down and truly and unwaveringly accepting that person. About showing the world THAT light. About not telling yourself you’re bad or wrong for being who you are, but instead honoring, cherishing and devoting your life to loving that person like you would to a child or your very best friend in the world.

And when you come from this place, you make good decisions for yourself, you set better boundaries, you go deep with the people that deserve it and you turn away from those that don’t. You don’t give yourself away. You know when to say yes and when to say no to people and situations and you don’t question that or look back.

This is what happens after the fire.

But hardly any of us know how to actually do this. Especially not when the loop is going on in our minds about how “too much” or “not enough” we are. But I’ve found a way to lay down the sword. To bow before ourselves as the magnificent beings we are. It’s a practice, like anything else, but it works. And that is exactly what I will be spending 40 days working on.

I’ve mentioned in previous emails that I’m putting together a new meditation challenge this month and while I can’t give you the details right now (it’s coming on Monday though so stay tuned) know that it has depth and will help you burn down anything that isn’t total love and devotion to you and yourself. I believe that self-love (or lack thereof) is at the root of most, if not all, our problems. I know you’re thinking “but what about…..” and I’m going to talk about this next week.

Whether or not you join us for the meditation is up to you and even if you can’t, I wanted to give you something you can do on your own to start down this path. It isn’t the meditation we’re doing for the next 40 days, but it is one that helps to put you in the place of changing the conversation about your value and worth. It’s super easy. Here’s how you do it:

1) Come into a comfortable seated or lying down position

2) Place your hands where they feel the most comfortable (on your knees, on your heart, in your lap)

3) Close your eyes and breathe long and deep

4) Think about something in your life that this email applies too…where are you not totally loving and honoring yourself? Where are you letting other people or your negative thoughts change how you feel about yourself. Where do you want to feel differently in your life? Put that in your minds eye.

5) Put on this song and sing along (it will totally make you cry…99% guaranteed)

 

6) Come back here and let me know how it goes. Did you try it? I want to know about it. Did you cry? :) Post a comment and let me know.

It’s only five minutes. Give that to yourself today. And mark your calendar for Monday when the cart for the next meditation challenge will be open, where you can learn to never let anyone or any thought mess with you again. Promise.

You ready to fly?

Thought so.

Sally

Burning It Down

This is a time of transformation. A time of change. Not only because of the changing seasons or because the time of year (school years end, people graduate) but because life is reaching its boiling point.

A time when you realize all the things you’ve already done that have gotten you as far as you are now, and you stand at the top of that mountain and realize that it’s time for a new mountain.

Recently I’ve been making a book of quotes for my favorite 8th grader who is super scared to go into high school. And as I’m gathering advice for her, and remembering what it was like to be on that precipice, I’m reminded of a lyric in a song that’s been on repeat lately. It goes…

“Maybe it’s time to let the old ways die…”

Transformation isn’t a word to take lightly. It’s not as flippant as the metaphorical ending one chapter so you can start the next.

No. It’s not a new chapter.

It’s a whole new book.

To transform means to make a complete change. A thorough change. It’s the caterpillar that never again looks like a caterpillar once it becomes a butterfly. A change where in order for it to occur you have to kill off everything before it.

But we don’t usually do this. Instead we try to change by bringing our old selves with us.

We try to change using the same beliefs and thoughts that got us here in the first place.

We try to change by dipping a toe in the water and then we wonder why our lives go back to the same thing we always had.

We can’t use old thoughts to create a new life. We have to let the old things die

I pulled a card from one of my oracle decks right before I wrote this and here’s what it said:

“The world is changing and to be part of its glorious unfolding, you are invited to do this deep work. Miracles are waiting for you once you set yourself free and allow your memories of your past to lead you to your truth. Transformation comes with a price. Leaving your old self behind isn’t easy, but it’s necessary to become the one you’ve been waiting for. Summon your courage. You will rise up from this mess, and only beauty and strength will remain.”

So I leave you with the questions I’ve been asking myself lately…

  • What in me needs to completely die in order for me to be who I’m meant to be?
  • What pattern of thinking needs to completely transform?
  • What way of being needs to be cut by the sword?
  • What ways do I need to burn myself down so I can be the Phoenix and rise out of the ashes?

And I don’t mean in a small way. I mean in a big enough way that you won’t even recognize yourself. So dramatic that you’ll have to get to know yourself again. And others will too.

What needs to happen to be the person you’ve always wanted to be?

The person you’ve deep down always known you’re supposed to be before the traumas and pains of life made you someone else. Someone scared and small and full of fear.

I wanna know THAT person.

Can they come out to play?

That is up to you.

You will rise up from this mess. I promise.

Sally

P.s. This is what my next 40 day meditation challenge is ALL about. It’s all about rising from our ashes. Becoming that person we’re supposed to be. To completely transform. Bandaids aren’t working anymore. It’s time for a total renewal. I’m in the cocoon with you. Ready to fly and transform. I’ll be talking more about this meditation in the coming weeks but just know that there is something you can do to work through this and you don’t have to do it alone.

P.p.s. If you want to listen to that song Google “Maybe It’s time” from the Star Is Born Soundtrack

P.p.p.s. If you want to take this one step further right now, journal out the questions above. And answer them with your opposite hand you usually write with. Let the answers come to you.

How To Let Go

 

The grass is finally starting to turn green here in Montana which means that not only is it lawn mowing season (I’ll take that over shoveling any day), but it also means that it’s spring! And so naturally a lot of the collective conversation going on is all about releasing the stagnation in our lives (winter) and birthing ourselves anew (detox) for spring.

And this has me thinking about letting go. Letting go of the things holding us back. The stagnation of winter and life in general.

We tend to think that letting go is something that happens all of a sudden. An act you do once and then your life is different. A line in the sand that you cross and everything on the other side of it miraculously and suddenly disappears. Things you’ve probably held onto for years.

But I’ve found that letting go is not that simple. It’s not an act. It doesn’t just happen once. But rather it’s an intention you set and have to remind yourself of over and over again when you find yourself jumping back over the line to the place where you just were. An intention to the focus not just on the thing you’re letting go of, but also on what you hope to gain for your own life from doing it. And when you focus there…the letting go happens more easily. Or rather, the attachment lessens. This happened for me recently.

I get a daily mantra from my Louise Hay calendar and this one has been helping me a lot lately: “My heart forgives and let’s go. Inner peace is my goal.”

How nice is this? “Inner peace is my goal.”

Because if you look at your life and the things that are weighing heavy on your heart, wouldn’t it be so nice to feel peaceful about them instead? We can’t usually change what happens in our life, but we can strive for peace around it all.

So I’ve been trying this. I say this ANYTIME I start to obsess about things that are hurtful, beyond my control, from my past, and worries about the future.

What I love about it is that I don’t necessarily have to know “how” to forgive or let go, I just have to know I want to and I keep reminding myself of that. And that’s enough and I feel less bothered by all the things on my mind, which is a huge win in my book.

Maybe you’d like to try it too?

So here’s my question to you…

What in your life do you feel you’ve been hanging onto? What is something you’ve wanted or needed to “let go” of? What is one small thing you can do today to intend that you have peace around this?

Write it down on a piece of paper and remind yourself you wrote it and let that be enough.

Love

Sally

Ps Here are two ways to take that even further:

  1. Meditate for 3-20 minutes repeating the mantra “my heart forgives and let’s go. Inner peace is my goal”
  2. Google “Brad Yates I can’t let it go!” and do his tapping video. It’s so great!

P.p.s I’ve been working on “letting go” of the ways in which I’m mean to myself and it has been so incredibly helpful. I’ll be sharing more about that soon. Make sure you’re on my list to be the first to know about it. <3

Getting Through The Unthinkable

I wasn’t sure what I wanted to write about this week as everything felt a bit trite after last week’s share. I thought about writing about the positive mind since I just taught a workshop on that last night. Or about writing about how to reconnect to the “joy” in your life after listening to a pretty annoying (but super helpful) podcast about it.

I thought about writing about the “WHY GOD WHY!?” moment I had collapsed in my stairwell this weekend and how I pulled myself out of it by using the tools in the Joy podcast: “Find the things that bring you joy and do more of them in your life” (duh). Apparently what brought me joy was putting together a rad outfit and fun makeup and hair and going out with my friends to see a dirty rock n roll show and running into a bunch of exes while looking fly. Zing!

But as I started to write all of those posts, they just felt a bit flat. I don’t know why I didn’t want to write about any of that. And instead all I kept thinking about were the emails from people in the past couple weeks who have responded to my last two posts about my breakup and not feeling like my shiny self.

I kept thinking about the email I got forwarded from a well-known blogger who had her own “surprise!” breakup and how she’s coping with it, including creating a killer Spotify Playlist and how she’s not calling it a “break-up” but rather a “break-upgrade” (hell yeah sister) and listening to songs that would make anyone want to stand taller, stronger, and occasionally smash things.

I kept thinking about the people I know in my life who are going through extremely difficult things like divorces, cancer, being ghosted by people they love, caregiving, chronic illnesses, the loss of their jobs, miscarriages, CPS issues, and just being so sad that all they want is a “dad hug” (me too girl…me too).

And then I think about how all of these people still get up every morning and take care of their kids, reach out for help, reach out to others to help them, volunteer their time, get their needs met, sing songs, write poetry, go to therapy, go to doctors appointments and put their hearts on display for everyone to see and I think about how brave and courageous and incredible that is.

That people in the world can be in so much pain and still show up with beauty and grace and still give to others and go on living in the face of so much hurt. We are all so much stronger than we realize.

Continuing to get up each day while you’re grieving is courageous. Lending a helping hand to someone else when you’re suffering yourself is compassion personified. Showing up for yourself and your loved ones when you have to duck into the bathroom to sob now and again takes strength. And I just keep seeing that over and over in my life.

No one gets out of here unscathed, but we can make it all a lot easier on ourselves and each other while we’re here by loving ourselves and loving others. So I guess this post is to say THANK YOU.

Thank you to the people who have reached out and said “me too” and “you’re not alone.” Thank you to every person who is or ever has been in pain and has kept going. Thank you to the people who are still there for their kids even when they are going through the unthinkable. Thank you for showing the world and me and everyone around you that pain doesn’t have to mean the end of anything but rather an opportunity to experience more goodness in the world. The bright side of things. The light in the darkness.

I still do want to share with you the info about the Positive Mind that I taught in my workshop because it applies here too since it’s all about how to see the light in our lives even amongst the dark. I made a video for you that explains this and I share a meditation for it in case you need a little extra boost of lightness. Check out this video to find out why the Positive Mind (and Negative Mind for that matter) is so important.


The Positive Mind Meditation

This practice opens the heart center and the feelings of the positive self. It is a gesture of happiness. The hand mudra became a symbol for blessing and prosperity.

Posture: Sit with an erect spine. Curl the ring finger and little finger into each palm. Bend the thumbs over top of them to lock them into place. Keep the first two fingers straight. Bring the arms so the elbows are by the sides, and the hands are by the shoulders with the two fingers of each hand pointing  straight up. Bring the forearms and hands forward to an angle of 30 degrees from the vertical. Press the shoulders and elbows back firmly but comfortably. The palms face forward.

Eyes and Mental Focus: Close the eyelids. Roll the eyes up gently and concentrate at the brow point, the Third Eye area at the top of the nose where the eyebrows would meet.

Breath: Create a steady, slow, deep, and complete breath.

Mantra: Mentally pulse rhythmically from the brow point out to Infinity the sounds: Saa taa naa maa

Saa is Infinity. Taa is Life. Naa is Death. Maa is Rebirth/transformation. This describes the cycle of life. This kriya brings a total mental balance to the psyche. The entire mantra means, “I meditate on Truth, Truth that I am.”

Time: Try it for 40 days. During that time eat lightly and speak only truth directly from your heart. Practice for 11 to 62 minutes. (or whatever gets you on your mat to do it)

To End: Inhale deeply and exhale three times. Then open and close the fists several times. Relax.

© The Teachings of Yogi Bhajan

Here’s me explaining it.

So now I want to know…where do you sit right now? Are you collapsed in a stairwell experiencing the unthinkable? Are you feeling strong and reaching out to those who need help? Or are you both? Leave a comment below and let me know what you do in times of challenge to help you get through. Either way, thanks for showing up today and every day.

And lastly…do you know someone who is strength personified? Or someone who swoops into help when they are needed? Share this with them to say thanks. XOXO

P.s. Here’s a pic of my super fun ladies night.

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