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What To Do About The Fact That Change Is Hard

What to do about the fact that change is hard

I am currently curled up in a ball on the floor, bawling. Uncontrollable tears. Sadness. Feelings of loss. Abandonment. I can barely breathe. And it’s moments like these that I have absolutely no idea what to do with myself.

I am in one of those phases (and I KNOW you know which one I’m talking about) where my heart feels exposed. Tender. Scared. Raw. Broken. And tired.

Things are not working out the way I wanted them to. Things I thought were a given…aren’t seemingly that way.

And as I’ve been feeling all of these intense emotions, there is a really important lesson that has been blaring on my speakers for awhile now. Not just from tonight. But it’s been a long time coming.

I honestly don’t know why this lesson keeps being a surprise to me. It is the only thing we know for sure. The ONLY thing we can actually count on.

Which is that…THINGS CHANGE.

It’s human nature to want things to stay the same. We actually and actively hold on so tightly and try to create an illusion of stability, but the truth is that everything is up in the air. Always. 100% of the time, 100% of life is unknown. (YES…100%).

Every time I tell this to a client, they say “um…no…not ONE HUNDRED percent” and I say “YES. 100%. Let me give you an example.”

So…let’s say you KNOW for sure you are going to get on a call with your client in ten minutes. It’s on the calendar. It’s happening. For sure. Well…you go into the bathroom and you drop your phone in the toilet. No phone. No call.

Everything is like this. You could think you’re getting bread at the grocery store and they could be out. You could think you have brown hair, and then it starts turning grey.

All of this is to say that even things we think are true and a fact, aren’t.

And the more we want things to stay the same, the less happy we are with life, in general. (TWEET THIS!)

I’ve been thinking about this A LOT lately.

Everything in my life is changing at once it seems. From the big to the small.

Two of my good friends here moved away. My relationship is changing to an unrecognizable entity. The parking lot that is used for my building got sold…no more parking for me. My band is no longer playing. My body isn’t what it used to be (I mean no duh, but still).

My relationships with friends in my life are changing. Hell even my business is really different than it’s ever been and it keeps changing, seemingly on a daily basis. That friend that has always been there, left. My body even reacts differently to certain foods, seemingly overnight. My good friend just found out he has cancer.

And when all of these changes happen, it’s easy to get upset. To ask “why is this happening? Why me? Why now? What did I do to deserve this?”

And I think the answer is way more simple than we think. The answer is “because that’s the nature of life.” (also known as “that’s the way the cookie crumbles.”)

People come and go. We move. Things begin. Things end. We’re healthy and then we get sick and then we’re healthy again. We’re in love and then we’re not in love anymore. Loved ones die. That guy that said he’d always be there for you, isn’t anymore. And so on and so on.

So…this leaves me to the “solution.” Which I know is what you’re really looking for. And I am too. As a lifelong seeker, I’m always looking to crack the code. I get excited trying to figure out how to navigate life better.

And with this one, when I found the answer, I found it really challenging to implement.

Because the answer to the “everything changes” problem, is to do your very best and enjoy the moments, as much as you possibly can, right now.

Carpe the hell outta your diem, if you will. (TWEET THIS!)

  •  Make decisions that suit you and feel good right now.
  • Love the people in your life so much…right now.
  • Appreciate what you have right now.
  • Give yourself a break.
  • Try not to think too much about what may or may not happen in the future.
  • Don’t hold back.
  • Laugh hard.
  • Smile a lot.
  • Hug your friends.
  • Kiss passionately and frequently.
  • Tell people you love them and mean it.
  • Take the risk.
  • Speak your truth.
  • Do the very best you can.
  • Squeeze tighter.
  • Love more.

Right now.

Because as sure as day is day, this moment will pass. And there will be a new moment to love.

I honestly wished I would have enjoyed my moments more, looking back. And if I have one regret, it’s that.

Enjoy love. Don’t resist. Surrender your heart. Open it up. Because at some point, things might change and you might find yourself a sobbing mess on the floor, and will have wished that you enjoyed those adventures more.

I don’t like change just as much as the next guy. I used to go kicking and screaming anytime it came (un-welcomed) into my space.

But now, I just head to a mountain and cry and cry. Or to the middle of my bedroom floor.

Because even though change is hard, resisting change is a lot harder. (TWEET THIS!)

And more painful. And just because things are bound to change. Doesn’t mean I have to like it.

I could easily tell you here about “one door closing and another one opening” but I’m not going to.

Because sometimes, sitting in the uncomfortable and sad feelings is the point.

I hope you are loving this moment. Even if it’s a hard, sad or complex one. And if so, you can come cry on my mountain with me. And we can hug. And nod. And agree that change is hard. And we’ll accept that. And embrace that. And then let out a big exhale of relief.

My face is puffy and salty. I haven’t cried like this in years. Honestly, all I know how to do is call my friends and look at my red, puffy, scrunched up face in the mirror and be proud that I have the courage to feel the depth of my emotions.

I bet you’re the same. And I’m proud of you too.

See you at the peak,
Sally

P.s. Go tell someone you love, that you love them.

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8 Easy Ways To Earn Six Figures In Your Business Within One Year

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Ok. I have to apologize already.

Because I hate this conversation. And the title of my blog even more than you do.

And unfortunately, conversations like this happen WAY more than I’d like in business groups and circles.

It seems that everyone and their mom who has ever started a business has the illustrious “six figure goal” and not only that, they all seem to want to make that goal in like one year. Which I think for the majority of people is completely ridiculous.

And when I see this talk thrown around said business groups, I cringe.

Not only do I think it tacky to talk about specific earnings in your business, I think it’s actually damaging.

Bottom line is everyone’s business is different.

Yes…someone might make six figures in their business but you never know how many years they’ve been honing their craft outside of being in business, or if part of their earnings are from affiliate marketing, freelance, bridge jobs, or how fulfilled their life is.

Most of the time when people talk about earning six figures, I honestly doubt that it’s ALL just from their business, especially if they haven’t been in business for over three years, and even if it is…WHO CARES?! Why do I need to know that?

What’s way more important than how much money you make, is how much difference you make (find previous rant here). (Tweet this.)

BUT…for those of you who still want to know how to make six figures in your business…here are 8 things you should start doing…now.

 

1) Hone your craft.

Be excellent at what you do. Money comes and goes, but true talent and true skill will sustain you forever. Take the time to be amazing at what you do, even if that means doing hella free sessions for awhile.

 

2) Stop trying to make six figures and start trying to make a difference

There’s enough money in the world. And what more, really, do we need with a six figure income? What’s the point? Is it arbitrary? Or do you NEED it in order to survive?

The businesses that are the most inspiring to me are the ones that help the most people, and consequently, these types of businesses end up making the most money.

So focus first on giving and let the dollars follow you.

So when you’re wondering how to make more commas, change the conversation to “how can I make more of a difference today”?

 

3) Be willing to do whatever it takes

Don’t expect that people are going to throw their hard earned money at you for nothing. It takes time to hone a craft, learn how to market it, and make enough to keep your business afloat.

In the meantime don’t have too much pride to get yourself a “bridge job”, work for a little less than you want, or work with less than perfect clients.

I find that it’s the willingness to do “less than ideal” things in the beginning in order to hone your craft or figure out what you really want to be doing that pushes a business forward. That way, you know you really want it.

 

4) Learn skills you’re not already strong in

Being a business owner is so much more than the actual business you’re in.

Most people get into business because they like doing something…say…making hats.

But you forget that in order to take “making hats” from a hobby to a sustainable business, there are a million things you’ll need to know how to do, from marketing, to social media, website building, copywriting, accounting, and those are just off the top of my head.

Start learning those skills. There are awesome programs and personal coaches out there to help.

 

5) Care more about PEOPLE than about dollars

I appreciate good marketing. I do. But I can ALWAYS tell when someone is a good marketer but doesn’t really give a fuck about me as a person. It comes off that way. And that’s why I’ll never purchase from those types of people.

Focus instead on giving great service, being very clear on the ways in which you like to help people and where your brilliance lies.

 

6) Work on your own money issues

I think we all probably have some weird issues surrounding money. Maybe you don’t believe you’re worth it, or maybe you don’t believe you should have to work for it, or maybe you get it then spend it right away.

Whatever your flavor of money issue is, it’s likely that it’s getting in the way of you earning more.

This is an internal shift. And there are some great books out there that speak exactly to this. Kate Northrup’s “Money Love” is one I’d recommend.

 

7) Try a million things until one sticks

I find it really rare that business and earning money is linear. Like…no one I’ve talked to has a business idea in the beginning and is still doing that one thing and earning a ton.

Instead, most people have to try a bunch of different things until they find something that fits. And even then…it’ll probably change.

Business is ever evolving. A growing and changing organism. Be willing to explore and try new things.

 

8) Figure out why you really want to make six figures

This one is a bit tricky and also super important. Because honestly, my first year in business, I had this same goal. And I had it because I thought that it would prove something. Maybe prove that I was good at my job. Or prove to all the naysayers that I could do it.

When I look at it now, it’s different. Money is a means to more giving. With more money, I can provide more for the members of my Wildheart Revolution, I can create more, I can hire people to help me be better, I can be more creative.

When I shifted my thoughts around money and the goals around it, I started making more.

If wanting six figures is an arbitrary goal that you set just because everyone else is, or it’ll make you feel like you’ve accomplished something, then it’ll be harder to get it.

Become really clear on the impact you want to make on the world and keep searching for THAT. When you do that, money follows.

 

I’m not going to tell you how much money I make (see above). But I will tell you that I love my life. I work exactly the amounts I want to, I travel where and when I want, I love where I live, and I was able to live in other countries and travel 200 days out of the year all while running my business.

I love money. But I know that money doesn’t matter as much as fulfillment does. (tweet this)

Each of us gets to decide what is important to us. And I’m not saying you can’t have a six figure goal. I’m just encouraging you to have more consciousness around it. Be willing to do the work. Make a difference in the world. And THEN take all your six figure dollars to the bank.

See you in line,

Sally

P.s. What do you think? Do you agree or disagree with what I said here? Leave your thoughts in the comments below.

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What Do Your Scars Say About You?

Don't hide your scars

The other day I looked down at my arm to see one of my scars. It’s a round, deep scar, about the size of a cigarette butt. Because that’s what it’s from.

It was 2004. I was fresh out of college and ready to PARTY. I was working at the coolest boutique in town, slinging whisky at the best bar in town, and my band was opening for the likes of Blondie.

I thought I was prittty damn cool.

And so when my friend said…”Hey! Let’s go to a Motley Crue show!” It seemed like the perfect plan.

I wanted to practice my new “networking” skills which included befriending all the coolest guys in bands, and getting backstage wherever me and my friends went.

We pre-partied in the car in the parking lot of the show. And by the time we even got to our seats, we were all drunk.

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Me an E. One sip away from our scars.

And in our drunken stupor something ridiculous happened.

My friend E wanted to tell me something in my ear. She forgot that at the time she had a cigarette in her hand. So when she went to tell me, she burned my ear with her cigarette.

To which I responded with grabbing it from her hand and putting it out on her arm. (These are drunk games…I don’t recommend them.)

Immediately, I realized what I had done and felt horrible. My pain and anger led me to completely irrational behavior. And so I took it even further and said “shit…I’m so sorry…here…you can do it to me, so we’re even.”

And so she did. She put out her cigarette on my arm.

It bubbled and eventually burst into the perfect round scar I now have on the inside of my forearm.

Ten years later and I can still remember it like it was yesterday.

And everytime I see it, I giggle. And I remember. My friends, that show, how I felt back then, what happened after.

It has almost become a mile marker for my life.

Now, I don’t recommend getting scars on purpose, but thinking about all this reminded me that we are all so unique. So interesting. With our own specific stories and experiences.

Our scars tell our stories. Remind us of the people we once were. (TWEET THIS)

This goes the same for physical scars we can see, and hidden scars, like our broken hearts, our experiences growing up, that one time that your dad forgot to pick you up from kindergarten and you found yourself crying while walking down the streets of your city, all alone, not knowing where you live, until a police officer found you and eventually took you home.

We get to see our scars, look at them, remember what happened, and then decide. Choose who we want to be now. Look at how far we’ve come. Realize that it’s only a scar. We can choose to still be that person who got the scar, or we can choose to be someone else.

And this is a Wildheart life. Choice. Consciousness. About who we are, where we’ve been, and where we want to go from here.

Although I DO still go to Motley Crue shows, there is very little pre-partying these days, and I’m fairly certain I’ll never have another cigarette scar in this way.

I choose to do it differently now. But it sure was a hell of a lot of fun back then.

So for now…I get to look at it and giggle at the experiences I’ve had. My scars tell my story and so do yours. What do yours say about you?

As always, I love to hear from you. Leave your own/most favorite/most interesting scar story in the comments below. XO, Sally P.s. Here are some of my favorite “scar” stories: 1) Scar on my foot from roller derby 2) Scar on my lip and belly button from piercings 3) Scar on the back of my calf from searching for wild sage in the riverbanks of the Madison River in Montana.

Trying To ‘Get Rid Of Your Fear’ Is Stupid

No such thing as fearless

Dear Personal Development Blogger,

I totally get it. You live an epically awesome, totally off the charts life.

You travel. You go on adventures. You have freedom.

You “CRUSH” the voices in your head that tell you you can’t do something.

You tell fear to “get a new job!!” and then you go off and travel to the world all by yourself.

You win Iron Man competitions. And achieve all your goals.

“No guts no glory!”

And some of you have programs to teach ME how to do this same thing.

Teach me how to be FEARLESS, you say.

Well…I’m not buying it. Wanna know why?

Because that word is ridiculous. And it doesn’t exist.

Because I know better.

Because I know that behind the glossy photos of you climbing up Mt. Kilimanjaro with your muscles glistening in the sun, or sipping coconut water out of an actual coconut in the jungles of Costa Rica, is a person with a tender heart who wasn’t sure if they would make it up the mountain.

Who wasn’t sure if you’d be able to produce the “content” for your blog followers who were expecting epically awesome things from you.

And mostly, because I know that fearlessness doesn’t exist.

Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s amazing what you’ve done, really. But the thing that bugs me is your handling of my fears.

I don’t actually want to crush my fears. Because I don’t actually believe that’s the point. (TWEET THIS)

And the more you tell me to be fearless, the worse I feel about myself when I experience fear.

The truth of the matter is that there is no such thing as being fearless. The word simply doesn’t exist.

There is not a person on the planet who isn’t afraid, every day of their lives…of something. (TWEET THIS)

Of not being loved. Of not reaching their full potential. Of losing a loved one. Of being embarrassed or laughed at. Of being stuck in “this life this marriage this situation.”

Even the people who love their lives are scared all the time. Like me.

And so the point isn’t to try to be “fearless” in the face of your dreams, but rather, to be courageous. (TWEET THIS)

Courage to be who you really are. Courage to cry when something is so absolutely moving you to tears. Courage to do what you’re called to do whether people around you understand or not.

Courage to fall in love after your heart has been broken a million times. Courage to hold the hand of your dying mother, And the courage to say “no…I’m not ok” when things aren’t going well.

It’s not the people that jump out of airplanes that impress me the most.

It’s the people who do their own thing in the face of adversity, or decide for themselves how to live their lives the way they want, or the people who are so vulnerable you know the words they speak are the TRUTH.

To me…that’s courage.

Fearlessness doesn’t exist. And so we all need to stop searching for it. (TWEET THIS)

We need to stop encouraging people to want it.

Only when we accept that fear is a natural part of the process, will we be able to move beyond it.

Steven Pressfield said it best in his book “The War of Art:”

“The amateur believes he must first overcome his fear; then he can do his work. The professional knows that fear can never be overcome. He knows there is no such thing as a fearless warrior or a dread-free artist.”

So that then begs the question of “ok…welll what do I DO with fear when it shows up?” (because it will no matter what). And to me that’s the more interesting question.

Here are five ways to handle your fears:

1) Stop trying to be fearless

2) Acknowledge your fear instead of resist it, and when it shows up, let it be there and then move through you.

3) Cry if you need to.

4) Lean on people who support your vision

6) Don’t talk to people that don’t

7) Do it anyway.

And THIS is why I created the Wildheart Revolution. For people who don’t just want the shortcut. Who aren’t looking for the easy way out, or the next big “thing” or program that will change their lives.

No. Rather, Wildheart is all about the journey. It’s about asking interesting questions, and coming up with your own unique answers. The answers that WILL get you to the top of that mountain.

It’s the place where people believe in you, understand you, climb that mountain WITH you, and when you’re too afraid to keep going, they lie on the floor and cry with you.

We believe in freedom and courage and designing your own way of life. And we probably don’t read bloggers like you who try to tell us that it’s not ok to feel how we feel.

The Wildheart Revolution is open for 5 more days. Get in now and get started climbing that mountain. 

Thanks for listening, blogger. And next time you do something epic, SHOW me your fear so I can relate to you. That will help me much more than the false idea that you’re some kind of super human.

Love,

Sally

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Turn Your Hobby Into A Life-Changing Business (with a mission), with Gal Matic

From Hobby To Life Changing Biz

When I first found this girl…I was in love.

Super adorable girl mechanic (I mean…need I go on??) with a mission to empower women through learning about cars. How cool is that?

Imagine Grease Lightning, but with girls, and you have Eleni and her team from GalMatic.

But what I didn’t realize when I first found Eleni, was that she has MAD business skills and a huge mission to make the world a better place, one female driver at a time.

I’m blown away by her, her mission, and her perfect red lipstick that she rocks while working on cars. How could you NOT love a girl like that.

Press play below to watch the super fun Eleni talk cars, business, love, and how to take your dream from a hobby, to a full fledged, world changing business.

In this video you’ll learn:

  • Eleni’s super creative ways to take your dream from hobby to successful business
  • What relationships and cars have in common (super surprising and fun perspective!)
  • How to get people to take you seriously when you’re first starting out (and it’s not what you think!)
  • Why she thinks the “If you believe in it, it will happen” idea is crap
  • And her BRILLIANT method for finding the secret formula to creating a successful business (I totally started implementing this immediately after this interview and it’s AHHHMAZING)
  • The top three things you can do for your car that will have it (and you) purring for years to come
  • The true essence of what it means to be a Wildheart

Words of wisdom from this interview!

“Don’t try to be a size you’re not. Be the size you are and don’t apologize for it.” – Gal Matic via @sallyhopesays http://bit.ly/1HCEXAH  (TWEET THIS!)

I want to hear from YOU!

A key thing that stands out for me in this video is how connected Eleni is to her bigger vision of WHY she does GalMatic. And it reminds me that the passion and the “why” is what keeps us going and keeps us resilient in our businesses and with our dreams.

So in the comments below, I’d love to hear YOUR why.

What motivates you and keeps you going when you feel like giving up?

Get More From Eleni!

You can find out more about Eleni at her website, Gal Matic. Sign up for her FREE newsletter where she sends you a super simple and fun video every week teaching you something about cars. One of my favorites is how to get a spider out of your car. So awesome!

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