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The 6 Ways To Be A Rockstar (leather pants optional…but recommended)

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I did something last week that I hadn’t done in 8 years.


And when I say I ROCKED, I don’t mean that in the figurative way where I just did something I’m proud of and said “I rocked that”. I mean…I ROCKED in that I got up on stage with white leather fringe, booty shorts and fake eyelashes, and sweat my ass off playing rock n roll songs in front of 200 of my favorite people.

You might be wondering why I’m telling you this. And to be honest, it has taken me a few days to even be able to write about it. There were so many mixed emotions swirling around in my heart and in my mind.

You see…I used to ROCK on a regular basis. All throughout my 20’s that was my job. From the moment I graduated college, until I turned 29, I was a working musician. I toured, I played shows, I lived in Hollywood, I had fancy friends, I got invited to parties where I got to dance with Billy Corgan and go to BBQ’s at Tommy Lee’s house. I got to wear wild outfits and do my hair and makeup on the regular. And not only did I get to do that…it was my job to do that.

And then somewhere along the line, it stopped being fun. My band was road weary. And then our singer quit. Which then ended the band, and ultimately my rockstar days up to that point.

If you’ve ever had a job that was very much tied into your identity, you know the feeling I’m about to describe. The “if I’m not SALLY HOPE THE BASS PLAYER FOR THIS AWESOME ROCK BAND, THEN WHO AM I??” If I don’t have some fancy situation that sounds really cool to tell people about when I talk to them, then what is my value?

My identity had been so tied into that one job that I had, that I hardly knew what to do with myself when all of that went away. I struggled. For a long time, to find my own rockstar self, regardless if I was playing an instrument or not.

And I tucked that side of myself away for a long time because it was painful. I didn’t know how to live with her inside of me but not up on the stage.

And last week, as I was preparing for the upcoming reunion show of my band, I realized some things. That being a rockstar has nothing to do with whether or not you’re playing music, but rather it’s a point of view. It’s an attitude. It’s a decision to live life a certain way.

And the more I thought about this, the more I realized that ALL of those things are exactly what it means to live a Wildheart Life. I might not be up on the stage on the regular. My sequined booty shorts might now live in a box in my garage, only to be pulled out on special occasions. But that doesn’t mean I don’t still rock.

And with that being said, I wanted to share with you all what I discovered about being a rockstar, and how we can ALL do that in our businesses and our lives starting right this second. I didn’t ever really realize how being in a band prepared me for having my own business, but so many of the skills are the same. And I wanted to share them with you today. So let’s do this. Let’s rock n roll.

1) Practice

The only way the Beatles became the Beatles is because they played. A LOT. They started when they were teenagers and never stopped playing. I remember watching a documentary about them and they calculated that they had put in 10,000 hours of actual playing before they got discovered.

The same thing applies in business. You only get to be well known when you consistently do your craft and keep putting yourself out there. You have to play shows to get more shows. Or…you have to keep coaching to get more clients. Or keep creating websites to do more websites.

2) Play to one person as though you’re playing to 10,000

I remember this one show in particular where one of my band members was in a terrible mood. We were used to selling out shows on the Sunset Strip, but when we toured, a lot of people didn’t know about us yet.

This one show, we were about to go out on stage and one of the band members looked to the crowd and there were only like 5 people there. He grumbled and said he didn’t want to put on his full outfit (which at the time was leather pants cut down-to-there and a fur vest with no shirt underneath), and didn’t even feel like playing.

And I told him “you have to give those five people the show of their lives. You have to treat every crowd like it’s the Madison Square Gardens gig of your life. Each person deserves the best that we got.”

And so we did. And all five of those people became fans for life.

It’s not the amount of people in the audience that matters as much as the amount of fire in your fight. (Tweet This!)

At first, not a lot of people will care what you’re up to, but that doesn’t mean you should give them half of what you got.

3) Leave it all on the stage

This one is a derivative of an old sport’s saying, which is to leave everything on the field. And what this means is that in order to “WIN” you must play with everything you got, all the time.

Last week when I was up on that stage, it was nerve wracking at first. I was out of practice. My body hadn’t moved like that in over 8 years. My fingers weren’t as agile on that bass as they once were. My balance on my platform boots wasn’t as steady.

But you know what I did? I played with everything I had. I swung my bass like I was a teenager. I threw my hair around and my head back like I hadn’t skipped a beat.

Was I sore the next day? HELL YES. But was it worth it? Totally. Why? Because you have to play every show like it’s your last. Same with business. Don’t save up your “best” for when you’re famous or “where you want to be.” Give us your best all the time.

No person became “famous” or rich by doing anything half-assed. If you want true success, always use your full ass when putting yourself out there. (Tweet This!)


4) Keep singing even when no one is listening

I hear this a lot in the business (and music) world…”I don’t feel like writing a blog post because no one cares anyway. No one reads it or comments on it, so what’s the point?”

This makes sense right? WRONG.

Here’s the thing. In the beginning, people don’t care. That’s just the truth. And why don’t they care? Because you haven’t made them care yet.

Do you think that Motley Crue just became the biggest rock n roll band on the planet because they played one song for their mom once and then waited for the crowd to follow them? No way. Do you think they stopped playing after that one show where only two people showed up? Nope. They became the biggest rock n roll band because they played every show they could get their hands on for years until people paid attention.

They played, the refined, they played some more. One of my favorite stories in the Motley Crue book, “The Dirt” was about the first show where they decided to make it theatrical. They bought some fancy lights, and had their buddy set them up. They got a smoke machine. And Tommy Lee, their drummer built this cool apparatus for his drums.

This set them apart. They became “not just another band.”

And this is true in business as well. You have to keep playing, keep coaching, keep creating, keep finding your own thing, even when no one is listening. The more you do this, the more people listen.

In order to be a rockstar, you have to act like a rockstar, all the time, even when no one is looking. (Tweet This!)

5) Be willing to flyer

This is one of my favorites because here’s the thing…everyone wants to be on that stage, everyone wants the mega success they see other’s have, and everyone wants to reach their goals. But the truth is that not everyone is willing to do what it takes to get there.

Back in the day, before internet was so accessible, bands had to literally flyer in order to get the word out about their show. And this meant that you had to create a graphic, get it all printed out, and go around to stores and venues and talk to people and ask them to come to your show. You had to hand them your flier. You had to staple gun it up to telephone posts.

And was it embarrassing at times to sell yourself in that way? Totally. But you know what? That’s what it takes to get people in the door. You have to be willing to put yourself out there, risk embarrassment or someone saying “your band/product/service looks stupid” in order for you to get anywhere.

You have to believe in yourself and in your product enough to ask people to come to the show before anyone ever will. And you have to be willing to flier.

6) Enjoy the hell out of the moment

It’s easy to want to be on the other side of the hill. To imagine how big you want to be or how successful you want to become. And when we do this, it’s hard to enjoy the show you’re currently playing.

There is nothing better than that first chord you play at a rock n roll show. Where the curtain lifts, and the crowd is anxiously awaiting your show. But if you’re too wrapped up in the next show, you can’t enjoy what’s here now.

The other day, when I was up on that stage, I looked out to each and every face in the crowd. I was so grateful. So excited. So happy that they all showed up. I didn’t know whether or not this would be the last time I ever played, but I enjoyed it like it was.

We are all in such a hurry to get to the next step that we forget that the one we’re already on is pretty cool and all part of the journey to our own rockstar lives. So enjoy it. The best you can. While you’re here.

And that’s all I got for you. And remember, you can be a rockstar at any stage of your life, no matter what you’re doing. My 35 year old rockstar self looks very different than my 25 year old one, but the thing that remains is the dedication to strive for the best ME possible.

And with that being said, I wanna hear how YOU rock. What is something you’re proud of right now? What does your rockstar self look like? Make sure you leave yours in the comments below and if you like this article make sure you “like” it and share it with your friends.



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10 Fun Ways To Practice “Being Enough” Right Now

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Today’s post on “being enough” is part of an awesome blog tour headed up by my friend and colleague, Andrea Owen of Your Kick-Ass Life. Starting February 1st she’s hosting something amazing: The Kick-Ass Courage Project: 7 Day Challenge. She’s challenging women just like you to do two Very Important Things. 1) Start cultivating self kindness and self compassion and 2) Start practicing “being enough”. The Challenge is totally free and Andrea’s hope is that she can shift two very important aspects of your life in 7 days. Click here to sign up!

As I was there there in my living room, with the firing burning to my right, and the Shovels & Rope Pandora station blasting “folk punk country” music out of the surround sound stereo in my new house, barefoot and in my pjs, doing my “2014 Wrap Up” before 2015 hit, I realized something really important.

But before I get to that, I want to share something about my past year.

2014 felt like a really challenging year for me. I had a ton of amazing things happen, don’t get me wrong, but my heart felt broken, tender, hurt. There were several things that happened that I wasn’t equipped (at the time) to deal with. I couldn’t remember the last time I had a year that felt this way…as though I was in quicksand of my apartment floor, seemingly unable to pick myself up from it.

Each breakthrough was met with an even harder time, as if being knocked around was the theme of 2014. And the truth is that all that happened, in the grand scheme of life, wasn’t even all that bad. Some heartache here, some really intense and hard situations there. But for the most part, all my family and friends were healthy, my business was strong, and I had an awesome place to live.

Which made me feel even worse. Like a bratty teenager all pissed about curfew.

But the truth was that in my world…it all felt hard.

And as I’ve reflected on the theme that seemed to run through all of those hard events that happened, I realized that there was one glaring theme that was tucked away inside each of these seemingly totally different situations.

And that theme was “not feeling like I was good enough.”

Let me explain.

I’ve always had confidence. I’m not someone who sits around and thinks I’m no good. I don’t show the usual signs of “unworthiness” or self-deprecation. So…honestly, I didn’t think I had a worthiness issue. I knew I had issues (like we all do) but I never thought that worthiness was one of them.

As I reflected this year, I realized that a lot of the pain felt from my various situation stemmed from the idea that I didn’t believe I was worthy of having great things.

Case in point: Some guy breaks my heart. And instead of being like “well…I don’t even know if I believed we were a good fit anyway…moving on” I say “And he was the best thing that ever happened to me and no one will EVER love me like that again and I RUINED the BEST thing in my whole life.”


Or…a complete stranger gifts me a mint condition 1983 Honda Nighthawk motorcycle, almost exactly the same one I had been secretly wanting. And instead of being like “WOW! Thank you Universe! That’s so awesome that you’re listening to my prayers!” I say “I should probably make sure I even the score and do something REALLY nice for other people so I don’t get punished for this gift.”


I believe our feelings of “not being worthy” crop up all over the place without us even knowing. Whether it’s deciding not to start a business because “what do I have to offer the world anyway” to deciding not to fall in love because “he/she is probably going to leave me anyway” to not choosing the restaurant of your choice when asked by your best-friend because you want to go to the place that SHE wants.

And I believe it’s a huge problem.

To me…feeling “enough” is key to having everything you want, because really, if you keep asking for things, but you don’t feel worthy of getting them, then you won’t get them. And all it takes to feel worthy, is the courage to decide you are, and then the tenacity to practice it.

So I’m taking a stand, with my friend Andrea Owen and everyone else participating in this “letting go of not feeling enough”/courage challenge, against unworthiness and making it my mission to let go of these bad habits that get in the way of me living my best Wildhearted life. Won’t you join me??

And if you have no idea where to start, here is a super fun list of 10 things you can try today to get you kickstarted on your “I AM ENOUGH” journey, and things you can do to start feeling enough, right this second.

Worthiness Practices

  1. Write a list of 10 things you love about yourself on a post-it and put that post-it on your bathroom mirror
  2. Reach out to your friends and loved ones and ask them to tell you their favorite three qualities they appreciate in you. Once you get the collection, make a collage and put it where you can see it all the time.
  3. Make it a daily practice to say “I am enough” at least ten times a day. I like to write it over and over again in my journal.
  4. Allow yourself to feel all of your feelings without numbing them with other people, alcohol, drugs, netflix, etc. Know that it is OK to be feeling exactly how you’re feeling.
  5. Try “tapping” or EFT. If you’re brand new to tapping, you can try starting with “even though I don’t feel worthy of a raise (this relationship, that new car, etc), I completely love and accept myself.)
  6. Pay attention to the things that trigger you feeling “not enough” and either eliminate those from your life, or decide to work on it
  7. Eliminate anyone on Facebook or Instagram (or any other social media) who you find yourself comparing yourself to.
  8. Do things that make you feel confident, happy and alive
  9. Know that you aren’t broken. There is nothing wrong with you. That you are complete and whole just the way you are.
  10. Cut out any toxic relationships in your life

And there you have it! My favorite worthiness practices. Which one is your favorite?

Feeling enough is the basis of our happiness. Being content with what is right here, right now is where Heaven lies. If we could all be kinder and more gentle to ourselves right now, the world would be a better place.

Make sure you check out Andrea’s free Courage Challenge.

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And I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.

Where in your life are you feeling unworthy right now? And how does that affect your behavior? What might happen if you didn’t believe those thoughts?

Make sure you leave your discussion in the comments below and cheers to a life of worthiness.

Thank you so much for reading and I look forward to chatting with you real soon.



P.s. Doors to my online coaching and lifestyle tribe, Wildheart Revolution are opening before you can say “IAMWORTHY!” Make sure you’re on the list to find out the second registration goes live.

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The Fail Proof Method To Making The Right Choice In Your Life

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This week, something funny happened.

I realized that…I got what I asked for.

And you might be thinking “ok great…good for you…so what?” and that’s fair. I’d probably be thinking the same thing.

But in noticing that I got what I wanted (which if you remember one of my last blog posts I asked for “dual residencies in both Montana and California), I’ve also noticed that a ton of other unexpected things have shown up.

That is…what has happened in the aftermath of getting what I wanted, has been a whole new set of things to worry about and choices to make.

I giggle when I write this because I’m absolutely not complaining. Like “poor me! I got what I wanted and now I have choices…WAH!” but more like, I wondered how much this happens to ALL OF US.

The aftermath of the “ask” and the “get.” And the choices we are then left with when we get what we want.

Here’s an example:

I wanted dual residencies. And then less than two weeks later, I had the opportunity to have that. My awesome downtown apartment in Montana is still mine, and I found an awesome spot in California directly in the middle between two sets of my friends and all of my family.

The place is gorgeous, centrally located, well priced, furnished with all the things I need and extra fun bonuses like an entire garage (not that I have anything to put in it but still), a 42” flat screen TV, surround sound, and a washer and dryer. The house was also hand built by a Montanan wood-worker, so the entire thing is custom built with the most beautiful wood you’ve ever seen. It’s rad.

HOWEVER…what I didn’t think about when I was making my wish was that now I have two homes! Which means two sets of expenses. Two sets of rent, two gym memberships, two internet connections, two cars, two parking passes, two lives. And in order to maintain this for any amount of time, it’s bound to be more expensive than I’ve been used to. At least double, but actually more since Cali living isn’t quite as cost effective as Montana living.

Which leads me to choice. What should I do? Should I close shop in one place and combine all assets? Should I figure out a way to make more money so that it’s a non-issue? Should I rent out the other place while I’m not there?

And these questions rattle around in my brain all day long. And each day that goes by, is another day I haven’t decided. And when you don’t make a decision, your life is in limbo. You feel confused. You aren’t totally present anywhere because you’re focusing more on the “what ifs” and “what should I’s” then you are on enjoying the two new homes you just acquired. You’re not sure if you should buy a trash can and a broom, or wait until you make a decision and grab the ones you have from Montana.

And this led me to thinking about choice in general. About how every single day, from the second we wake up until the second we go to bed, our entire day is filled with a series of choices.

Some are small, like how many times to snooze or what to eat for breakfast, and some are big, like what direction to go in for your business or whether or not you want to stay in your relationship/your town.

I have noticed along the way, that a lot of people’s success is tied up in their ability to make beneficial choices for themselves.

And at this point you might be thinking…”well…that’s the problem. How do I know if it’s a good choice or a bad choice?” or “how do I CHOOSE and know I’m making the right decision?”

And you’re in the right place. Because I have a formula. And it’s fail-proof. But it does take some awareness on your part, so if you want it to work, you have to be super honest with yourself and your heart.

Here’s the formula: Decide what your goal is + make every choice you make and action you do point toward that goal. (tweet this!)

If it doesn’t point to that goal, then you don’t do it.

Here’s an example from my own life…

In this decision that I’m having to make right now, the choice is between keeping both places, or just having one.

And I’ve just realized that my biggest desire and goal right now is to have BOTH. To not have to choose between two things I love and want in my life.

So my decision then becomes… “Ok…whatever I do in regards to this, has to be in service of keeping both.”

The actions could be a variety of things like rent my place out to a sub-letter, rent it out as a vacation rental, or just make more money.

At this point, there is a new choice. The choice now is “which option to choose?”

So I can go back to the formula and start with my goals. What do I want now? Well…I want the most freedom. And second to that, I don’t want the double expense. I want to be able to come to both houses whenever I want and stay for as long as I want without hassle. Do I care if strangers stay in my house? I’m not sure yet. But since I’m playing with the idea I’m going to say no.

So the choice and option that gives me the most freedom and the opportunity to not have to pay double rent is renting it out as a vacation rental. That way I can choose the dates I want visitors in there, and have it for myself the rest of the time.

So as you can see here, the “right” choice for me is the one in which what I want, and what choice I’m making are aligned. (tweet this)

And here’s a fun video to explain this even further and to throw out a super fun challenge for you all!

Ready to practice this in your own life?! Below is a super fun exercise you can try. It is taken from the “Heartwork” (that’s “homework” for us Wildhearts) that I send out to the Wildheart Revolution Private community every week.


1) Think about what decision you are trying to make right now. It could be big or small. About anything.

2) Discover what you TRULY want and what your overall (big picture) goal is.

And I say “truly” because a lot of times we think we want certain things when really, what you want deep down is something else.

This is an important piece. Go to that place that knows your truth inside. And ask.

This can be a business goal, personal, life, etc.

3) Make a list of the actions that are in alignment with this goal

4) Choose it

5) Share your discoveries us here in the comments below.

Choice is a huge part of life. You could argue that it is one of the biggest parts of life in that nothing can happen without first making a choice. So here’s to all our choices and having all our choices make a beautiful impact on our lives.

And if you want even MORE discussion and personal help with this, or if you dig these exercises, you’re going to want to make SURE you’re part of the Wildheart Revolution when registration opens back up this month.

It is THE PLACE to be to learn how to make real changes in your life, with a group of dynamic and amazing Wildhearts, and three coaches at the top of the game who are hell bent on you getting the life you want.

Be the first to know alllllll about it by getting all up in the party right here.

Happy choice making and I look forward to hearing from you!


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Change Starts Here (no…seriously)

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Last night I did something that I do almost every night before bed.

I wash my face, brush my teeth, put on chapstick, and then I go to get into my pajamas. And then…I promptly throw all of my clothes on the floor.

To be fair, it’s not like I actually throw them. It’s more like I let them fall to the floor and then I don’t pick them up. Sometimes for days. Or weeks.

I’ll sometimes let my clothes pile up so much that I don’t even bother going to my drawers when I want to get dressed for the day since I know all my favorite things are likely in a pile on the floor, or strewn across my vanity, or draped over a chair, or right on the bathroom floor where I left them when I got into the shower.

To me…it hasn’t been a huge priority of mine to neatly fold all of my clothes every single time I take them off. And plus, I’ve lived alone for so long that I don’t have anyone to impress or “clean up for” or anyone to have to teach what is or isn’t an ok place to leave your clothing.

And so my bedroom almost always tends to look like someone who is going through their entire wardrobe and making piles of what to take to the thrift store and what to keep.

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve had thoughts before like “I should really be better about putting away my clothes” or “yeah…I really DO like it so much better in here when things are put away” but somehow, neither of those feelings are strong enough to motivate me to do something about it on a regular basis.

So…laundry party for me! Or lack thereof, rather.

And all of this was fine and dandy until last night. As I watched myself carelessly leave my belongings on the floor, even though in my new house they absolutely all have an organized home to go to, I remembered something.

I remembered a phrase I had heard many times along my journey.

Which is…


This flashed in my mind along with all my New Years intentions to do things differently this year. And all the thoughts I recently had (and the lesson I wrote only hours previous to my private Wildheart Community about how to create REAL change in your life (hint…it’s by changing your habits by doing the opposite of what you usually do).

And in that moment, everything came to a head.

I may not care about clothes on the floor, but what is this act signifying? It’s saying “eh….I don’t want to handle it…I’ll do it later.” And what happens? Later never comes. Well…I mean, it does come, but not until it’s forced to come either by company coming over or by me getting so disgusted with the state of my bedroom that I HAVE to do something.

Letting my clothes sit on the floor for days or weeks is an act of avoidance. An “I’ll do it later.” And since I know that “how you do one thing is how you do everything” I knew that I must be putting off a lot of other things in my life, that are likely way more important than whether or not my clothes end up in their drawers.

And thoughts rushed through my mind. Of all the things I’m currently avoiding. Of my knee jerk reaction to do just that when certain things show up. To slough off responsibility and say “oh…it’s fine…I’ll do it later.”

Tell that to my unopened mail that’s been sitting in my entry way for weeks. Or that phone call to a good friend I meant to return back in November. Or that gym practice I said I’d start “after all the craziness from the holidays die down.”

We are all so obsessed with “later” that the exact behaviors keeping us there create ONLY more “laters.” Because even if I pick up the pile of clothes on my floor, unless I’ve actually changed the root of the habit that got them there in the first place, the next time I get into my pajamas there will be a whole new pile.

This internal conversation happened quickly. And within five minutes, I picked up all my clothes, hung them up, put the laundry in the laundry basket, organized the closet (quickly), went into the kitchen and shut all the cabinet doors (that’s another habit I have…leaving them wide open), stacked on the dishes, and then I went to bed.

When I woke up…my house was orderly, neat, clean. And so I cooked breakfast, did the dishes, and went to my kundalini yoga class.

Change is in the little things we do every day that make that change happen. (tweet this!)

It’s in the decision to pick up the clothes off the floor even when I don’t really care or feel like it. To shut the kitchen cabinets when I notice them open even when they are ALL the way on the other side of the room.

Me avoiding this stuff is synonymous with me avoiding anything in my life. And by continuing those habits, I perpetuate the bigger problem of avoiding things that actually matter. Like my dreams and goals.

Change is a practice, just like anything else. Just like playing guitar. Or learning marketing skills for your business. Or learning how to meditate.

You have to do it over and over again in order for it to make a difference. And when you find yourself not doing it, you notice, and then you get back on the horse.

Last night…that’s what happened. I’m pretty sure that from here on out, I won’t pick up my clothes every single day, but last night was a turning point. A noticing that the way I’ve been doing things doesn’t support the things I want most in my life. And a change needs to happen.

Little by little. Piece of clothing by piece of clothing. Until always doing it is the new norm.

And this is a Wildheart life. It’s in the noticing. The dedication to trying to do things differently. To deciding what it is you want and be willing and open to learning the lessons to get there.

That’s why I created the Wildheart Revolution as an ongoing coaching and lifestyle tribe and community. To help us all notice these inconsistencies and be there to help you course correct.

It’s like the angel on your shoulder, except your angel is a group of amazing and dynamic badasses, plus three coaches at the top of their game.

Registration for Wildheart is going on RIGHT NOW and is time sensitive. If this resonates with you, then you’re a Wildheart. Join the group that will help you live these practices every damn day.

And in the meantime, here’s a little “#heartwork” (or homework…if you will):

Ask yourself: What is my “leaving my clothes on the floor”? Meaning…what is the thing that I’m doing that doesn’t seem like a big deal, but it’s all part of a bigger picture of something I don’t want in my life?

Share: I’d love to hear what you come up with. Leave your answers in the comments below. 

Cheers to a “clothes free” floor!


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You Get What You Ask For. So…Ask For Awesome Things. Here’s How.

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Lately, I’ve been putting together my Christmas list. Yes…my family still does that, even though my sister and I are both well into our 30’s.

My whole family puts together a wishlist of what they want for Christmas, just like we all did when we were kids, writing our notes to “Santa Claus” and sending them to the “North Pole.”

There is nothing better than asking for something, and then getting it. Which is what usually happens when you make up a wish list.

And as I’ve been dreaming up and perusing the internet for all the fun finds and things I would love to unwrap at Christmas, (like anything from this Pinterest Board), it got me thinking about life.

About how we forget to ask the Universal “Santa Claus,” or God or Universe or Goddess or Guides (or whatever you believe in) for the things we want in our lives.

We forget to put energy into what we DO want, how we want things to be and look, and instead we put a ton of energy into making the list of “things we don’t want.”

And it’s no wonder that that is what gets sent out into the metaphorical “North Pole” and thus, what we find showing up under our metaphorical Christmas trees, all the time.

Think about it…when was the last time the majority of your thoughts were spent dreaming of and expecting that you’ll have and get what you want?

I’m guessing a very minimal amount. And that’s what today’s post is all about.

If you don’t start asking for what you want, you will always get what you don’t want (tweet this!). Because that’s where the majority of your thoughts live.

And what you think about (ask for) is what you’ll get in your life.

So, you might be thinking, what can you do to change this?

Usually, I keep the lessons and applications of what I talk about on this blog inside the Wildheart Revolution but today I wanted to share with you the “#Heartwork” I shared with the members this week.

The exercise, tool, or thing you can try and play with in regards to this topic.

Because it’s awesome. And fun. And easy to do. And can change your life.

So this week is all about dreaming up the wish list for your life. And then sending it out to your “Santa Claus.”

Let’s watch and see what happens.


1) Write out your ultimate wish list of things you want in your life. Here are some places to look if you’re unsure:

– Things you want to have

– Things you want to create

– Things you want to be

– Places you’d like to go

– Relationships you’d like to be in

– Businesses you’d like to create

Don’t be shy here. List it all out as if Santa was there just waiting to give it to you. Be specific too.

2) Share your list. One thing I’ve realized is that the reason it works to get what you’re asking for, is because you’re actually asking for it to the person who can give it to you.

In the example above, I asked “Santa.” But it’s the same thing when you ask the Universe or God or people in your life.

So after you have your list, share it with us in the comments below. Let us bear witness to it. And let us all hold that you will have exactly what you want.

Dreams like clarity. Just like Santa. Or your family who will be buying your gifts. Think about it…how much easier is it to shop for someone when you know exactly what they want? The Universe wants to give you what you want, but it needs to know what that is. The clearer the message, the easier it is to get what you want.

I look forward to hearing about all your wishes this week. Make sure you leave a comment below.

Pondering my own,


Wildheart Revolution